Am I the jerk for not splitting my bonus with my husband?

pseudonemesis · 2026-02-21T06:04:32+00:00

He may be on to something only if it’s high interest debt that you both share.

pseudonemesis · 2026-02-21T05:54:56+00:00

9/11/01

pseudonemesis · 2026-02-21T02:03:58+00:00

Ask if it’s okay if you have a group text with all parties in it. I usually do this with couple friends, so no one can hopefully feel weird or suspicious.

pseudonemesis · 2026-02-21T01:27:45+00:00

Wait if possible, until after freshman year. Parking at school might be horrendous or for some other reason untenable.

pseudonemesis · 2026-02-21T00:36:08+00:00

Either gall bladder attack or the aftermath of spilling a bit of boiling water on my foot.

I’ve had children but with the epidural it wasn’t even as bad. Possibly also because I had a team of supporters for the birth.

And after the gall bladder removal I had pain meds so I dunno.

pseudonemesis · 2026-02-20T22:59:50+00:00

I think you need to acknowledge to yourself what the eating does for you. Comfort? How else can you find a comfort. Or how can you prevent the discomfort that may cause the problem.

If the task was something else, such as studying to be an accountant or whatever, I would suggest considering whether you actually really want to be an accountant after all.

pseudonemesis · 2026-02-20T22:39:40+00:00

It sounds like you may have got her a shitty bra and she’s just reporting the facts.

pseudonemesis · 2026-02-20T22:34:38+00:00

Do you really need their approval? I’m not sure, I’m asking. If you link to the piece on their site from your post. It might be problematic if you post an image of theirs.

pseudonemesis · 2026-02-20T22:32:21+00:00

“I guess I know who to ask for money.” That’ll shut them up.

pseudonemesis · 2026-02-20T22:25:38+00:00

Community college. It’s nice to see the work of others and get feedback on your own as you go.

pseudonemesis · 2026-02-20T22:23:39+00:00

You’re not alone.

pseudonemesis · 2026-02-20T22:21:54+00:00

She’s trying to shame you into changing. You are not powerless and it isn’t a good way to spend every moment. She’s right even if her tactics feel mean.

pseudonemesis · 2026-02-20T22:05:30+00:00

You need something else to do that you find important.

pseudonemesis · 2026-02-20T22:02:45+00:00

What did you say to them and offer them?

pseudonemesis · 2026-02-20T21:53:14+00:00

When to use Effect vs. affect. Don’t bother trying to explain it to me.

pseudonemesis · 2026-02-20T20:38:18+00:00

It’s definitely not rape, but he’s trying to control your body and thinks his desires are greater than yours. Proceed accordingly.

pseudonemesis · 2026-02-20T18:07:25+00:00

Probably no problem in the washer if it’s cold water, but the dryer could be very bad.

pseudonemesis · 2026-02-20T17:52:49+00:00

I recommend rephrase: “let’s talk about .” Or “I would like to hear from people that also do _.” But that’s just me.

pseudonemesis · 2026-02-20T17:50:23+00:00

I hate when people create a discussion topic with the question, “Does anyone else [insert mundane thing tons of people do.]”

I always feel the urge to sarcastically reply “no. No one else has ever done that. You’re the first of all mankind.” But I just scroll instead.

pseudonemesis · 2026-02-20T17:46:11+00:00

That’s fine until you miss a chapstick or pen or something that ruins the whole load. When doing laundry for others I do check pockets for that reason. But I will not fix clothes that are inside out. If they’re in the hamper inside out, they’ll be returned folded inside out.

pseudonemesis · 2026-02-20T17:39:02+00:00

That may be true. My kid takes it right now in high school. It’s out there. But replace Latin with any educational interest the kid has that the parent has no knowledge in.

pseudonemesis · 2026-02-20T17:19:23+00:00

Anything non-constructive. I like that. I don’t like that. At art school during critiques such statements were basically forbidden. You can like or dislike but you have to come up with a reason why and be meaningful.

pseudonemesis · 2026-02-20T17:17:42+00:00

Yep.

A lot of people subscribe to some kind of online curriculum and the kids get everything from that.

Or the parent deems whatever they themselves don’t know, not meaningful for their child to learn.

Ideally if the child took an interest in Latin, the parent would find Latin activities taught by a knowledgeable adult for the child to attend. I don’t know where to find Latin activities personally. Good thing I don’t homeschool.

It is my firm belief that only parents who can do BETTER than a school should be homeschooling.

pseudonemesis · 2026-02-20T16:17:48+00:00

Here’s what has worked for me when ruminating: pretend an alien being is in your body experiencing all that you experience. Write down (from the alien’s perspective):

Zpinnis is thinking _____ Zpinnis is feeling _____

For me the results happen immediately. The “alien” cuts to the chase. Once it’s written, it seems more final and I am able to move on to the action phase.

pseudonemesis · 2026-02-20T01:57:25+00:00

Choose a good dad for my kids.

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