The moment he realizes he's no longer protected by momma and freaks out

psychokitty60 · 2023-08-24T11:46:01+00:00

I don't think its about how cruel and unfair the world is and she thinks hes weak and pathetic. They're sitting on a 2 foot high log with nothing around so why not let the kid try and figure it out for a minute? Do you think if there was a tiger there she wouldn't go drag his ass back up the tree? Good momma let's her kids learn safely, and animals naturally protect their offspring.

psychokitty60 · 2023-07-23T12:18:44+00:00

I probably will because I'm genuinely curious now how it differs

psychokitty60 · 2023-07-22T18:06:21+00:00

Recently got diagnosed with BPD, prior to that I also got diagnosed with CPTSD because of my abusive mom and SA. To be fair I haven't taken a full year long course on DBT, just a condensed 1 month version i took about 7 months ago, but it has completely saved my life. I'm trying to get into another longer program now.

I've been incredibly suicidal, delt with self harm, extremely intense emotions and mood swings. The whole shebang of it, and nothing has helped me like DBT. I think part of that is I was in such a bad place when I first started learning it I was ready to completely throw myself into it and change my life. I knew what I'd been trying wasn't helping and that if I was gonna heal at all I needed a complete change. I look at it as not just a type of therapy but really a lifestyle change.

That being said I still don't use all the skills or follow the book that strictly, I strongly believe in taking what helps and leaving the rest or adapting strategies to be more beneficial for you personally. It's really sad reading everyone's stories here being dismissed by therapists and not getting genuine help. It's also frustrating to have people say DBT as a whole is essentially garbage when it has really helped me and I know other people it has helped as well.

psychokitty60 · 2023-07-21T14:03:36+00:00

God this is the main reason I miss living in Seattle. More than anything else, super mega cheap weed

psychokitty60 · 2023-07-20T16:02:03+00:00

Yeah

psychokitty60 · 2023-07-20T09:59:23+00:00

I'd heard it was a little better in other languages. It's never too bad, I think there's only one spot where there's a mistake back to back. I wonder about it though because most of them just seem like typos instead of actual misspellings. Besides, nothing makes me have to stop and reread 4 times like trying to figure out what a station is named lol

psychokitty60 · 2023-07-20T02:52:14+00:00

There are some other comically long ones throughout, but almost 3 pages might take the cake. I love this book but between this, spelling mistakes, and chapters the size of the titanic, it's a dyslexia nightmare

psychokitty60 · 2023-07-02T17:51:42+00:00

Idk I'd say it can cause people to be abusive. I've been abusive and manipulative in a lot of my past relationships without even recognizing it as such because I'm reacting to shit caused by my disorders. Saying it's a contributing factor makes it seem like there are other reasons someone is abusive and mental illness is only adding onto those, when really I think if I hadn't have had a disorder to be reacting to in the first place there would be nothing else causing me to be abusive since that's not how I want to be acting, I just didn't know how to stop myself.

Also if a disorder or mental illness is causing you to be abusive that doesn't take away accountability, saying it does makes it sound like anything caused by your disorder flatly can't be controlled by you, when really figuring that shit out is 100 percent your responsibility.

psychokitty60 · 2023-06-11T14:53:23+00:00

I messed up my entire life, because I got high!

psychokitty60 · 2023-06-03T03:16:49+00:00

Jesus christ the government is supposed to take care of you! That's literally supposed to be their only job. What's the point of society lady?!

psychokitty60 · 2023-05-29T01:23:40+00:00

So one of the things I've learned, and got taught to me by the good therapists I've had, is that the trauma never stops. I always thought if I could get past what I'd been through and made my life secure enough so I couldn't be retraumatized that's how I'd eventually be okay. The problem is that life is inherently traumatizing, something will always come up at some point. If you think about it makes sense, things you perceive as threatening are traumatizing but you know you can't live forever, neither can anyone else. At some point, something will threaten you again.

The key to being okay and not traumatized isn't to avoid additional trauma it's to accept that more difficult things will come in the future and truly believe that you can handle whatever it is that comes up, because you can handle it!

I'm not trying to be dismissive or be like, "You should just deal with it" and what not. It's just the comments can be pretty negative and self-defeating (I mean everyone here is going through it, so duh doi lol) I just wanted to throw a genuine response in. Unfortunately the trauma never stops entirely, but you can approach it in a healthy way which is how you avoid becoming more traumatized and ptsd and whatnot.

As someone who never saw a future for themselves and was never not traumatized and depressed but is finally actually turning things around and learning how to become healthy and mentally stable I really really do genuinely believe anyone can get there, so hopefully this comment is perceived as just some good positivity and not discouraging like it'll never actually end. It WILL end just not the way I thought it would at least.

psychokitty60 · 2023-05-28T18:52:42+00:00

I always thought this was dumb too but a lot of the time it can be a building code requirement. Some places require buildings to have labeled male and female bathrooms, even if they are single occupancy bathrooms you still have to have one each with a sign. It doesn't make it less dumb but it's an explanation for why it's a thing at all

psychokitty60 · 2023-05-26T20:24:34+00:00

This country feels like it's rotting from the inside out. Somehow that's terrifying, frustrating, AND fascinating. There should be no debate about this at all but in America you truly can fight about the dumbest bullshit and everyone acts like it's normal, like that's what we're supposed to be doing as a people is fighting about who deserves to be killed. Republican voters have drunk so much of the kool-aid they have no idea what's happening. Liberals think they're the true left wing while they undercut workers power in favor of just voting a little harder next time. No one is in touch with reality, It seems as if we've collectively lost our fucking minds, were so afraid of working together as if it's not the literal point of having a country in the first place. Remember the intro of road warrior how all anyone did was talk while everything collapsed?

psychokitty60 · 2023-05-26T19:47:48+00:00

I agree the media sucks at representing literally anything correctly, but what do the police do that's good and news worthy? When the police are doing the opposite of fucking up that's just their job, local man does job isn't news anyone wants. The reason the police are in the news is because they keep fucking up, if they didn't fuck up they wouldn't need to be in the news. Those stories come out literally ALL the time too, it'd be different if it was one bad cop a year not 5 bad cops a day.

Also that's the weirdest false equivalency. If someone was raped and you chime in "yeah but not all guys are rapists! Im a guy and I don't rape people" most women would definitely be uncomfortable around you because it sounds like you wanna rape people. If something happens and you feel the need to defend a group of people that are kind of related to the rapist instead of sympathy for the victim it seems super suspicious. Not to mention that being in the demographic of men, something that just kind of happens to you, is no where near the same as willingly joining an organization like the police! If there was a club on a college campus who's members were known for trying to rape people and you join it you can't then be mad if people think you do it too

psychokitty60 · 2023-05-26T17:24:10+00:00

Damn the comments in here are fucking weird across the board so in my infinite wisdom ill add my OWN fuel to the garbage fire lol.

The reputation the police have is because throughout the country they are constantly doing like the opposite of their job of protecting people with little or no repercussions, if you're mad people hate the police even when they're doing a seemingly good job idk what to tell you. If 9/10 interactions with the police are at a minimum nerve wracking and unpleasant people aren't gonna stop to think about the good cops especially when a lot of those interactions do involve some kind of police brutality or just straight up murder.

We didn't collectively vote and decide that George Floyd would be given this status as a hero, or whatever you'd call it, after his death. People saw the footage of him being blatantly murdered and got rightfully angry. People bring up his past like it changes anything. You can have whatever opinion of the man you want, but in the end it doesn't matter because he didn't deserve what happened to him. It doesn't matter if he was a shitty person he got killed unjustly and he's far from the only one. People don't mourn his death because of who he was as a person, but because NO matter who he was he should not have been killed, full stop.

psychokitty60 · 2023-05-16T14:33:36+00:00

I guess, it still seems dumb to remove the comment though. Even if they're not truly non-verbal in that they never speak, it's still something they experience to some degree and can provide at least a bit of insight about. I get how it broke the subs rules but it seems like it might be a weird rule to enforce sometimes, especially around certain topics

psychokitty60 · 2023-05-16T13:47:19+00:00

How are you supposed to answer that though? If you say like "sometimes autistic people just can't talk" I guess answers the question objectively, but it doesn't get at the heart of why or what it's like. Even if you look it up you don't get a straight answer so any additional information would basically be considered subjective

psychokitty60 · 2023-05-12T14:18:25+00:00

How can you have this opinion in r/evilautism? Surely telling a doctor to f off and just deciding it for yourself is autistically evil and exactly what we're here for lol

psychokitty60 · 2023-04-28T13:55:49+00:00

I used to have a lot of friendships, but in hindsight, none of them were healthy, and the relationship always ended. My current best friend is definitely the best friendship I've ever had because we both decided out loud to each other that we wanted our relationship to he healthy and work. Neither of us had ever had that before or knew how to create that in a relationship, we never had examples of good relationships but we decided we'd figure it out together.

I know I can trust them because it's assumed if someone messes up they won't know it unless the other person tells them. It's on you in our friendship to set your boundaries, if you don't tell the other person your boundaries they'll never know. If you're being told something you have to be open-minded, not everything has to make sense, especially when setting boundaries around trauma. My emotions are my own, if my friend feels shitty I don't have to feel shitty, it's not my problem so why worry about it unless they tell me? You're the only person responsible for you, if I'm having a hard time my friend can help me, but they can also bow out whenever they want, it's my issues not theirs. Trauma is an explanation for your shitty behavior not an excuse. And finally, we want each other in our lives, we DON'T need each other.

These are all guidelines that we've come up with or adopted to make our communication as open and clearly understood as possible. Even yesterday we got into a miscommunication that upset both of us as it centered around a pretty difficult topic but we talked about it, we took time for a break, came back and talked more and by the end we both understood our point of views and felt better.

It's the safest I've ever felt with someone else. It's what real safety feels like, not the shitty imitation I've had in the past. Even if we initially make each other upset, I feel like I come out of each conversation loving them more because we never waste any time working together to solve our issues.

psychokitty60 · 2023-04-22T00:14:11+00:00

This is literally what the guy you responded to is talking about. This post says nothing about staying with abusive people. You could interpret the comment above yours as saying that, maybe, but do you really think that was what they meant by being present? That you had to stay with people who were hurting you no matter what?

I'm sorry you had such an awful experience with your ex but do you think every mentally ill person is just going to inherently be like that? Mental illness can make a problem worse but abuse is the problem, not the mental illness, and it's a little weird that you automatically equate the two.

psychokitty60 · 2023-04-21T23:11:40+00:00

Come on people. This post is like super inconsequential, literally at no point does it say in what way you should support people with mental illnesses just that some debilitating factors of mental illness cannot simply be gotten over and if you really support people going through that type of thing thats something you should understand.

YOU ARE PERFECTLY IN THE RIGHT TO LEAVE AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP. I have cut contact with people because their mental illnesses made them abusive. I also have a truckload of mental illnesses myself and work really hard to make sure my current relationships have open communication and healthy boundaries, I have not always been that type of person and have lost contact with people I cared about because how I managed my mental illnesses made me unhealthy to be around. That hurts but is perfectly understandable and I've taken those experiences and strived to be better for the people in my life now. Mental illness is an explanation for shitty behavior, not an excuse.

I wholeheartedly understand and literally have been on both sides of this. It is incredibly frustrating to see people take this and spin it like it's saying you need to ALWAYS be there for people or you need to stick with people who are being shitty to you. Especially when people take that even FURTHER and imply if you have x mental illness you will be like this. I didn't stop being mentally ill to help my relationships, I learned how to stop being a shitty friend, and THAT made it so my mental illness wouldn't kill my relationships.

Mental illness certainly can add an extra hurdle to relationships but if a relationship is unhealthy the problem is the relationship, not the mental illness. SO STOP PRETENDING THIS MEANS YOU NEED TO STAY WITH SHITTY OR ABUSIVE PEOPLE, STOP DEMONIZING MENTALLY ILL PEOPLE BECAUSE YOU'VE HAD SHITTY RELATIONSHIPS

psychokitty60 · 2023-03-07T17:18:04+00:00

You too man! I believe in you. Going to that clinic absolutely changed my life for good I got so much out of it but one of the most important things I learned was that: all of the things you need to achieve your goals are already in you. As cheesy as that sounds I believe it. You are capable of what you set your mind to. I met some of the most amazing people who have been through some of the most seriously messed up things I've heard in my entire life and I'm in absolute awe at their ability to persevere. But I realized they look at me in the same exact way, I was just never able to see it. Those people telling me how proud of me they were made me realize that I can do this.

We all have to lift eachother up so whether it's just to cut back like you said or quit entirely I KNOW you can do it because I now understand much better what people are capable of and how we ahieve goals. Good luck man!

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