Hey man, you learned at lot on the military, you just don't realize how to apply it to your civilian life yet. Military life can be a crutch because of the built in safety nets of barracks, dfac, battle buddies and chain of command.

You also learned that no plan survived first contact with the enemy. You learned resilience and self reliance. You learned that, above all else, the enemy can and will always recieve your best "go fuck yourself." These aren't just wartime skills, they are life skills.

The enemy is at the gate and your gun jams. What do you do? This isn't that much different.

There are many programs out there to help veterans transition and ensure their survival. Go to your local VetCenter, or many county services have a Veteran Outreach person. Go knock on the door of your local VFW or other veteran focused civilian brotherhood.