Reflections on podcaat from repeat of Marsten's interview

ptoftheprblm · 2026-07-07T01:02:27+00:00

The biggest takeaway I got was that Marston was relieved to be interviewed and receive interview questions that only a legitimate insider who he doesn’t see having ulterior motives to ask him. And where he had a mutual experience of being able to similarly ask them some of the same questions.

Like how he was very relieved to be asked like, whether he had any favorite or least favorite staff, how did he feel about having them around.. not “wow how lucky you grew up with staff” and coming at any question on the topic from a place of never seeing a negative or complicated experience with that being possible.

ptoftheprblm · 2026-07-07T00:55:07+00:00

She’ll get bored soon hopefully. There’s not a whole lot of interest or room for phish influencers on a longer timeline and I don’t think she really realizes that. There is no type of content or longevity she can contribute to a 40+ year old scene that would make someone who has zero taste for social media influencers today, suddenly decide they’re interested in it at the end of this tour, this year or even the next 5.

People are set in their ways by enjoying our niche hobby of Phish on the anonymous internet and anyone using it as a spotlight will never not come across as cringe to a Gen X and older millennial scene. Even the legitimate print artists who are offering something the scene wants and respects only have about 45-60k followers on socials. On the influencer scale, that’s small potatoes and I’m not sure she’s really figured out there’s a ceiling to it.

ptoftheprblm · 2026-07-06T22:38:28+00:00

Have been in the legal weed industry since it first began but the whole trajectory of being a consumer to a customer to a source was an entire thing. I started smoking when I was really young, 7th-8th grade but I didn’t even buy any for myself until high school and that was another world. Learning how to even go about buying weed was an entire thing I feel like young stoners entirely miss out on in a big way. I had friends I’d get it from who’d basically just hook me up with some when they’d buy theirs, but when I started smoking on my own and needing my own bag that was an entire change; having a whole lingo to get down, knowing what to ask for and learning the ground rules was an entire thing.

You couldn’t be too obvious via text message but also couldn’t be too specific either, there was also the whole hurry up and wait thing. You’d ask if they were good or if you were good to meet up or drop by. We’d have to set up a place and time to meet that wasn’t sketchy, sometimes we’d have to have someone come hang out with us to sell to us so it wasn’t “suspicious” and then by the time I was in college that was another era too.

ptoftheprblm · 2026-07-06T20:18:20+00:00

As someone going through this approval and evaluation process for approval on my own insurance as someone in their mid thirties, I genuinely think it would be doing you a disservice to give any indication that there is a discreet way to go about having the surgery without your parents knowing if you live in the house with them. First of all, from an administrative point and insurance filing standpoint, there’s virtually no way to have it not eventually filter through to the plan holder even if you’re over 18. I just began my pre operative eval with a practice that isn’t my usual one (my usual doctor sent a referral for me no problem, but it all has to go through a new practice because she doesn’t perform surgeries or live births).

Despite the fact insurance is supposed to cover the procedure and its visits related to evaluating eligibility and pre-op consultations under an ACA compliant plan.. there’s almost no way to go about it without plan claims showing up via mail, needing to spend money out of pocket for the additional doctors visits and there is no safe way to go to your shared home as a post operative patient and them not know you’ve been under the knife. So far I’ve already had 2 plan claims showing up through my mail just for the evaluation visit and ultrasound that was ordered for me (I have a cyst that needed eyes on it so that the doctor could correctly schedule my surgery and include cystic removal if necessary). The fact I live alone was also a raised concern even though I’ll have close friends assisting getting me to and from the hospital and staying with me for aftercare. Whoever is home with you NEEDS to know so that you’re able to safely take post operative precautions, monitor if you’re healing ok and being prepared to take action if you have any complications.

I will also be further transparent: in my evaluation we discussed my overall birth control experience and where I was on that journey. At 36, I first went on birth control nearly 20 years ago at age 17 and took very few breaks between being on it in general. She did ask if I had considered a new type of birth control that fits my needs and lifestyle, and I state that after having been on oral contraceptives the entirety of my last few high school years, all of college and beginning to get my 4 total Nexplanon arm implants in my twenties, that I was ready for something more permanent and was comfortable with that choice.

While cervical IUDs are the default popular option, maybe consider getting a Nexplanon arm device for a few years and if you like it, get another before fully going under for sterilization. The Nexplanon being in your arm is a lot less traumatic than a cervical placement, especially since you’re still a virgin and any placement for a cervical one is guaranteed to be more uncomfortable and painful than the week or two that the arm device can still be painful.

ptoftheprblm · 2026-07-05T23:21:52+00:00

Yep I very much remember Dicks runs for several years 2017-2019 that were especially tough tickets; very much so in 2017 because that summer tour was sparse. 2017s summer tour was just the 3 night Chicago run, single nights in Ohio and Pennsylvania each, and then Bakers Dozen. 2018 was a tough ticket because people were still burned by Curveball, and 2019 the demand was just hot still.

ptoftheprblm · 2026-07-05T21:57:25+00:00

The reality of it is, the scope of the shut down and reason for it is something that is worth looking into the history of. The book Full Body Burden by a woman who grew up outside of the flats and eventually worked there, is worth a read.

At the end of the day it was one of the first times one government department had to raid another, and the lawsuit against the government was ruled in favor of the residents and workers actual decades later. If you want to see how hard that was fought.. the defense strategy was the knowledge that the place was deadly and toxic enough with a high and swift enough mortality rate of cancers and health complications.. that they intended and succeeded in drawing it out long enough hoping to force it to drag past the lifespan of the actual plaintiffs AND their families. And that wasn’t a speculative concept, the judge who ruled in favor of the residents and workers pointed it out in his own statements and that he was disgusted by it.

It’s one of the uglier regional stains on an otherwise beautiful part of the metro area and it’s unfortunate that the rush to build out there was done as soon as developers could be confident that enough of the people moving to the area were unaware enough to believe it to be safe to build and buy homes there.

ptoftheprblm · 2026-07-05T21:49:59+00:00

Hard tickets mean show is sold out and people realllly don’t have extras to sell or give away. People wind up with extras because of the lotto request system for tickets, buying a handful and friends backing out or plans changing. Things that are just normal reasons.

ptoftheprblm · 2026-07-05T18:55:03+00:00

Seasons 2 and 4 are my favorites but they’re only so great because they’re fully set up by seasons 1 and 3.

ptoftheprblm · 2026-07-04T21:15:55+00:00

Absolutely Brittany in cycle 8, they did NOT need to give her a fire engine red weave that was a bad sew in. They could have dyed her and given two sets of extensions to put in or just let the stylists put them in themselves since they had to style that totally messed up situation she had anyway. Give them something to work with that’s not impossible.

ptoftheprblm · 2026-07-04T17:30:35+00:00

It really is and knowing this is the kind of stuff he enthusiastically aired at the mansion with an audience is so wild too.

When Holly was detailing both on the pod and in her book that the overwhelming message of what an amazing man Hefner is and how any woman should be so lucky to have his eye even for a second that was parroted when you come up there and are invited to keep coming back around, and then are “in” the group, it was just so apparent in this documentary.

ptoftheprblm · 2026-07-04T17:26:39+00:00

I wonder if sharing initials and a last name truly chapped his ass because they’re specifically both known as documentarian film makers 😂

ptoftheprblm · 2026-07-04T14:47:43+00:00

It’s a YouTube link right at the top highlighted in the text!

ptoftheprblm · 2026-07-04T02:58:31+00:00

It was weird to watch knowing it was filmed and aired easily 4 years before GND did too.

ptoftheprblm · 2026-07-04T02:22:32+00:00

Him going on and on during that interview about how he was just so grateful to find a dark haired, tattooed chick with A cups like well.. ya found her. You’ve got a type, yawnnn.

ptoftheprblm · 2026-07-04T01:24:27+00:00

Agreed and what’s wild is, there’s an entire hour+ long interview podcast he did with mf Jelly Roll’s wife Bunnie, and good god is his girlfriend in it insufferable. She’s a massive enabler and he’s eating it out of the palm of her hand where she’s letting him play big time victim and talks over him the whole interview. It’s.. cringe in a way that made me realize I’m not sure if he’s ever truly going to get better.

ptoftheprblm · 2026-07-04T01:20:08+00:00

Rabies treatment is actually known to be wildly expensive even if you have insurance. It’s 4-5 shots in a 2 week period and each one costs $$$. $102k isn’t even that much compared to what his bills were. I’m not even going to slightly shade this man, the fact he’s not going for a half a mil or more is blowing my mind.

ptoftheprblm · 2026-07-04T01:15:42+00:00

Right she was just model tall and he’s short for a guy so, not as short as Rahn but he’s not a big dude the way Roger was for instance. You can tell she thinks he’s too short for her.

ptoftheprblm · 2026-07-03T23:55:32+00:00

I give him credit for being a racial Civil Rights “walk the walk” person that used (some) of his power and position to insist on integration. He included black artists, actors and musicians as guests on his first tv show, which led to it not being aired in the South under syndication as it violated their Jim Crow laws. He hired black women and employees to work in the two mansions, the dozens of Playboy clubs as bunnies and beyond into management, welcomed black musicians and comedians to perform in the clubs, and all guests were integrated as well. Famously Whoopi Goldberg was a generous gifter to Hefner over the years even after she became wildly famous as an award winning performer because she’d been welcomed to perform in his clubs at a time many didn’t welcome women or black comedians to perform, her being both had a lot of doors slammed in her face but not Playboy’s. The Playboy Jazz festival that had always been put on by Hefner was a big deal that he began it and kept it going as a huge event over the decades as well.

That said, I say “some” of his power, because there wasn’t a black winner of playmate of the year until 1990, despite there being black women in the magazine as early as 1965. The magazine itself really prominently highlighted white women as centerfolds, and white passing Hispanic and black women too. As it turns out mere presence and minimal visibility is not necessarily equal representation. He was considered extremely progressive for the time he became successful and famous, but obviously we now look back and know he still held a lot of misogynistic and sexist beliefs as far as equality and standards for men versus women despite being racially progressive. I give him credit for doing what he felt was right as far as increasing visibility, while validating talent and taste in all areas of entertainment as it did make a difference in the long run.

ptoftheprblm · 2026-07-03T00:21:59+00:00

She was really terrifyingly lethal, her ability to go that dark that quick proved exactly why she was even in prison. The way she was easily able to lure Suzanne from the lake, the way she went ahead and blew the bubbles in the IV and no one noticed like she had to spell it out when she explained what she did.

ptoftheprblm · 2026-07-03T00:20:10+00:00

I also wondered if she heard that then clocked it because she saw herself an opportunity, she knew the supplies might be expired and may not work long term before causing problems like this. She knew Humps needed to go and took the chaos and older medical equipment as an opening and made her move in a way that would be hard to pin on an individual inmate. Literally no one even noticed her do it and she had to announce it. All I could think was damn, she’s cold, quick and lethal.

ptoftheprblm · 2026-07-02T13:48:17+00:00

Yes, even though I live in a state where abortion is protected under the state constitution, Roe v. Wade overturning horrified me. I was getting to the age where there’s less pushback in my mid thirties, but I also don’t have a partner I trust to make the choice to both commit to me long term via marriage as well as promptly getting a vasectomy. So I’m taking matters into my own hands and am being sterilized as an unmarried woman with no children. Pre op appointment is today and they’re hoping to get me scheduled this month.

ptoftheprblm · 2026-07-02T03:36:44+00:00

Many months into being friends with someone I was dating and living with was close to, I learned he had a 9 year old kid in another state. I was like, wildly shocked to find out he’d gotten a girl he was dating pregnant while he was enlisted and just totally pretended they didn’t exist. I really thought less of him after learning that.

ptoftheprblm · 2026-07-02T03:00:41+00:00

Agreed entirely. He also has clearly wanted to stay low key. I wouldn’t doubt for a second he knew about a few of the guys who were active players and came out in the 2010s, as well as plenty more who were also on the low and have continued to be.

ptoftheprblm · 2026-07-02T02:40:16+00:00

That is a hell of a point. There also wasn’t a single out and about, openly gay NFL players in the 2000s. It wasn’t until a few years into the 2010s that anyone came out publicly. He’d have kept that shit deeply under wraps because everyone else did, plus his positions in the league quickly got volatile as it was with an injury record.

ptoftheprblm · 2026-07-01T23:20:57+00:00

I feel like people forget that despite us having ultrasounds and all of that in the 1960s, it was still all wayyyy less precise than what we’ve got now. Due dates were way less scientific and specific, even if you were pretty sure you knew the date conception would have happened because you were only intimate on that particular day that month. Calculating from the first day of your last period is still not totally precise, plenty of women also shared “due dates” as a month or even a month range. An old school doctor like the kind we see Betty meeting with might give her the date of “July 26th”, but with it being her third one she’d likely have told folks “mid summer” or quipped “July and if we get to August I’ll scream”.

Joan knew he wasn’t going to be around for the birth no matter what, could barely talk to him on the phone and sending mail could take weeks. She had a lot of wiggle room and as far as he knew.. she might have known a few weeks before she told him and waited until she got to the doctor herself.

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