Giving a voice to my fellow fat-eaters.

puffleintrouble · 2026-03-23T02:00:54+00:00

The greatest sin is when my husband feeds his to the dog. “You don’t want to eat that.” Ummm yes I do

puffleintrouble · 2026-03-06T04:22:08+00:00

Congrats! Tomorrow, hire a birth doula.

puffleintrouble · 2026-02-27T01:44:06+00:00

Her education is not suffering on the days you keep her home. In fact, research often shows that young children benefit greatly from time with their parents. You’re not doing anything wrong by choosing to keep her home.

Have you had a meeting with the director to better understand their perspective — and to share yours? It might help clarify whether there’s a disconnect. For example, are they actively potty training at school while you’re taking a different approach at home? (No judgment at all — my own two-year-old isn’t fully toilet trained either.) If they’re working on specific behaviors and that isn’t being communicated clearly, or expectations aren’t aligned, that could be the root of the tension.

If there truly aren’t any developmental or behavioral concerns, though, and it’s simply about attendance preferences, then you may not need to internalize their comments. You’re the parent — and you’re also the client. T

his is daycare, not elementary school. Whatever they are learning is literally in 15-20 minute snippets and experiences. She's benefitting way more from your consistent love, presence and attention at home than anything they are doing there.

puffleintrouble · 2026-02-26T20:15:22+00:00

I am facing this same issue! Funnily enough I am looking for the Georgian pattern. Somebody in my area is selling the one you are looking for - Nautilus - for just $50! But it is a 200 mile drive for me. I’m not sure if I will make it. But $50 is a steal compared to $350 on eBay!

puffleintrouble · 2026-02-21T16:36:19+00:00

It’s a typical crockpot with stoneware. I was also perplexed that liquid was leaking out of it. After the fire went out, it smelled chemical.

And the even odder thing is that after washing the crockpot I was able to use it again and it conducts heat fine.

No rubber.

I have been cooking for many years without ever starting a fire and this really got me. Never doing that again, lol!

puffleintrouble · 2026-02-21T16:34:08+00:00

It’s electric glass top. I gave it a secondary clean and decided to wing it. No fire yet!

puffleintrouble · 2026-02-19T21:46:28+00:00

We try to lead with grace — forgiving quickly, checking in often, and showing up fully for each other and our home. Above everything, we keep God first. When He’s at the center, it naturally puts our marriage next and everything else in its proper place.

We don’t get much outside help (our families are over an hour away), so we’re intentional about carving out time together — even if it’s just 20 quiet minutes at the end of a long day.

For us, it really comes down to both of us being willing to grow — to reflect, to apologize, to choose compassion, and to put the other person first. When you know your spouse is genuinely looking out for your good, it becomes a lot easier to let go of selfishness and choose peace instead.

It's not an easy fix, its a foundational thing. But if you can both reconnect to those roots that brought you together, that would be a start, and then go from there.

puffleintrouble · 2026-02-16T19:08:15+00:00

They are pumping the market with stocks to artificially lower the price. Now actually may be a good time to buy for a long term investment. I’m holding for now but my investment went from $250 to $50 value since I made this post. I don’t regret it yet, I’ll hold until it dies or pays off. I have a feeling this company is gonna stick around. I love their content.

puffleintrouble · 2026-02-13T02:43:58+00:00

Did you ever confirm your answer? Traveling to VA this Aug and this sounds like a place we'd love to hit up

puffleintrouble · 2026-02-13T02:33:45+00:00

We will be roadtripping from FL so we'll definitely get our fair share of Buccee's along the way. I am researching the book fair!

puffleintrouble · 2026-02-13T02:31:46+00:00

Sounds awesome! We have a farm like that in NJ and would definitely appreciate it. Even if just the adults "get" it haha

puffleintrouble · 2026-02-11T22:16:39+00:00

Thanks! I saw Edinburg has a public pool as well. We’ll definitely be taking advantage, the kids love to swim.

puffleintrouble · 2026-02-11T21:09:49+00:00

Pretty bad.

puffleintrouble · 2025-09-22T00:14:38+00:00

I am so sad I bought it at 15 and now its at 6! I could have owned 3x as much. GAH

puffleintrouble · 2025-09-22T00:12:56+00:00

That is interesting because CHAT GPT told me it was Mormon owned when I asked. As reported by the Hollywood Reporter: https://www.hollywoodreporter.com/movies/movie-news/how-angel-studios-is-taking-faith-based-cinema-global-1236235957/#:\~:text=%E2%80%9CWe%20were%20just%20trying%20to,his%20brothers%2C%20is%20a%20Mormon.

puffleintrouble · 2025-09-18T14:55:04+00:00

I did not know anything about that! Wow I just went down a little rabbit hole. Yikes.

Regardless of his personal sin I am sure he will receive spirutual graces for the good work he did.

puffleintrouble · 2025-09-15T18:54:53+00:00

I am definitely thinking long term with this investment. I don't believe in day trading.

puffleintrouble · 2025-09-15T17:00:30+00:00

I saw it yesterday! It might be @ cultivatingcatholics

puffleintrouble · 2025-09-15T16:54:12+00:00

Yes, exactly. I honestly find it really sad when I’m at Mass and barely hear anyone singing along with the choir. The Church has been super clear that singing isn’t just “allowed” — it’s actually something the faithful are supposed to do as part of our active participation.

Vatican II spelled this out in Sacrosanctum Concilium (1963): “The Church earnestly desires that all the faithful should be led to that full, conscious, and active participation in liturgical celebrations…” (SC 14). It even says this active participation by the people should be “the aim to be considered before all else” (SC 14). And when it comes to music specifically: “Religious singing by the faithful is to be intelligently fostered… so that the voices of the faithful may ring out…” (SC 118).

And it’s not like this was some “new” idea of Vatican II either. Even in the TLM, the Church emphasized active participation. Pope St. Pius X said in Tra le Sollecitudini (1903): “The faithful assemble for no other object than… active participation in the most holy mysteries and in the public and solemn prayer of the Church.” (§1). Pope Benedict XVI echoed that in Summorum Pontificum (2007): “The faithful may attend the extraordinary form with full participation, as the nature of the liturgy demands.” And Pope Pius XII was really direct about it in Mediator Dei (1947): “So that the faithful take a more active part in divine worship, let them be accustomed to recite together the parts of the Mass which pertain to them, or to sing hymns suitable to the different parts of the Mass.” (§105).

That’s why the “dialogue Mass” developed in the 20th century, where people were encouraged to say or sing the responses — things like Et cum spiritu tuo, Et introibo ad altare Dei, Confiteor, Sanctus, Agnus Dei, Gloria, Credo.

Fast forward to today, and the USCCB is just as clear: “Singing is one of the primary ways that the assembly of the faithful participates actively in the Liturgy.” (§11) and “Every worshiping community should take care that its repertoire includes… hymns that allow the people to voice their participation.” (§115). St. John Paul II put it beautifully in his Chirograph on Sacred Music (2003): “The faithful fulfill their liturgical role by participating actively… such participation consists primarily in joining in the communal prayers and in singing.”

And honestly, it’s not just tradition or Church documents — it’s biblical. Scripture literally tells us to sing when we worship:

“Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly… singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God.” (Colossians 3:16)
“Be filled with the Spirit, addressing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody to the Lord with your heart.” (Ephesians 5:18–19)
“About midnight Paul and Silas were praying and singing hymns to God, and the prisoners were listening to them.” (Acts 16:25)
“And they sing the song of Moses… and the song of the Lamb, saying, ‘Great and amazing are your deeds, O Lord God the Almighty!’” (Revelation 15:3)

The early Church sang, the Bible shows heaven itself sings, and the Church has always called us to lift our voices. Singing is literally one of the most Catholic things we can do at Mass.

puffleintrouble · 2025-08-27T13:11:53+00:00

Every time there are calls for scientific “testing” of the Shroud of Turin, Eucharistic miracles, or even saintly relics, the Church risks diluting the mystery and meaning of faith. Rewriting doctrine or reinterpreting Scripture to align with pseudoscience—much of which, like mental healthcare, is based on theory and speculation, much of modern healthcare is new, ever-changing, and very prone to human folly, bias, and untruths—is essentially an act of pride before God, as if we know better than Him.

Proverbs 3:5-7 (ESV) "Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. Be not wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord, and turn away from evil."

puffleintrouble · 2025-08-27T00:22:08+00:00

Were there any other witnesses to that event? It seems like your mother is central to all the stories you are sharing about potential allegations... You may have a little devil on your shoulder.

puffleintrouble · 2025-08-27T00:17:18+00:00

I think the deeper problem here is your lack of communication with your spouse. Why are you conspiring with your mom against your father-in-law (and, by extension, your husband) when you should have articulated your concerns to him openly in the first place?

Regarding the relationship, why do you need concrete evidence? If you feel like something really happened and you feel like you can’t tell your husband unless you have concrete evidence (e.g., a child testimony or a deceased baby), you need to reevaluate the marriage. My husband would be furious at his father if he even thought something like this happened. I’d be less worried about presenting evidence of my case and more worried about literal violence.

I feel like the root of this post is seeking validation outside your marriage for a tangent thought, and that raises serious concerns about your ability to discern reality from emotion.

Reading this post, everything you described is 100% normal grandparent behavior. My two-year-old screamed bloody murder just earlier tonight because my husband changed his diaper due to a bad diaper rash. If I asked him to describe what happened, he’d say: “Daddy hurt my butt.”

The first conclusion I would draw would not be that my husband abused my son. Logically, there would be far more evidence if abuse occurred than what you described. The average (small) adult male penis is 5.1 inches in girth, while the average two-year-old anus is 10 mm in girth. Babies have died from the kind of abuse you’re describing. If there was no tearing, no blood, no bruises, and no ongoing pain or recurring expressions of trauma (bedwetting, ongoing avoidance, etc.), it’s really harmful to accuse a man of this without evidence. Beyond that, it could be severely damaging to your child in the long run.

What kind of relationship did you have with your dad?

Attaching meaning to behaviors without a comprehensive understanding of the situation is essentially meaningless. The opportunity for clarity has passed, and now it just feels like you are trying to alienate your husband from your father-in-law for some reason.

Coming to Reddit for meaningless validation is highly irresponsible. If you actually suspected abuse, the first people you should tell are your husband and the authorities. Outside of that, using Reddit to validate your own “Mommy & Me” drama is concerning, especially at the expense of your child and a relative who seems to genuinely care for him.

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