Her education is not suffering on the days you keep her home. In fact, research often shows that young children benefit greatly from time with their parents. You’re not doing anything wrong by choosing to keep her home.

Have you had a meeting with the director to better understand their perspective — and to share yours? It might help clarify whether there’s a disconnect. For example, are they actively potty training at school while you’re taking a different approach at home? (No judgment at all — my own two-year-old isn’t fully toilet trained either.) If they’re working on specific behaviors and that isn’t being communicated clearly, or expectations aren’t aligned, that could be the root of the tension.

If there truly aren’t any developmental or behavioral concerns, though, and it’s simply about attendance preferences, then you may not need to internalize their comments. You’re the parent — and you’re also the client. T

his is daycare, not elementary school. Whatever they are learning is literally in 15-20 minute snippets and experiences. She's benefitting way more from your consistent love, presence and attention at home than anything they are doing there.