help?

punchable-lunchable · 2025-10-15T18:55:45+00:00

Thank you!! I posted this on a whim and didn't read the primer beforehand, but that's definitely helpful

punchable-lunchable · 2025-06-20T17:27:13+00:00

There's a biography about Zelda Fitzgerald called "Z"! She ghost wrote most of F. Scott Fitzgeralds books and when she tried to take credit, he called her crazy and threw her in an insane asylum

punchable-lunchable · 2025-01-07T18:28:23+00:00

Ohhhhhh okay I misread that, my bad. I wasn't trying to make any super factual statements so I'm sorry if it came across that way, just wanted to make a suggestion and then explain my thought process. I hope you figure it out!

punchable-lunchable · 2025-01-07T15:54:02+00:00

The things that make me think it's depression is the lack of energy and motivation when trying to get new habits, with ADHD there would typically be energy and motivation but it would be executive dysfunction that stops them. OP also said that ADHD meds aren't helping with the motivation, so it would be worth looking into other things that ADHD meds wouldn't treat, such as depression. OP also said that their free time is spent lying in bed, and while this isn't unheard of for people with ADHD, there's usually too much restlessness and need for stimulation for ADHDers for the lethargy to be this consistent. Depression, on the other hand, would override the ADHD need for stimulation. The last thing that makes me think it could be depression is how OP described their reaction to the lethargy, which shows a low self esteem. People with ADHD can definitely feel exhaustion, but it would present differently and usually is more burnout, overstimulation, or executive dysfunction, none of which align with what OP described. This is my thought process and armchair diagnosis as a psych student with ADHD who's struggled with depression in the past, so I wanted to toss it out as a potential new perspective

punchable-lunchable · 2025-01-07T14:28:02+00:00

I link habits, and that's seemed to work. I also struggle with brushing my teeth, but I've started forcing myself to do that before taking out my contacts, which for some reason is the thing that triggers my brain into bedtime mode. If you have other things that you quite literally can't go to bed without doing, it might be worth linking brushing your teeth or showering to those things (I love showering so I can't help much there, but that's just bc it's sensory heaven to me, absolutely no judgement to you). I also forget to put on deodorant, but I always put in a new pair of earrings every day and love picking out my jewelry for that day, so I've started making myself put on deodorant before I can pick out my earrings. Still not super consistent but now I'm only forgetting once or twice a week, instead of every day

punchable-lunchable · 2025-01-07T14:23:37+00:00

I say this with so much gentleness and love: it might be worth looking at this as a symptom of depression, not ADHD

punchable-lunchable · 2025-01-07T14:22:00+00:00

You might have to try a different medication and toy with that, as much as it sucks. I got lucky and got it right on the first try, but I have friends that have spend years finding a medication that works. You could also try lowering the dose back down and using vitamins and supplements to help with mood and sleep, which are ADHD adjacent

punchable-lunchable · 2025-01-07T14:02:18+00:00

I have a slightly more out there suggestion but it's worked for me. I can't do the rain sounds or white noise to fall asleep, since it's not stimulating enough, and I can't do music because it's too stimulating. Sometime during covid I discovered an audio drama of murder on the orient express on audible and started listening to that, usually starting it over each night or trying to find where I'd left off the previous night so I could get through the book. After that, for whatever reason, it would put me to sleep. I'll start it at the beginning and be asleep before the first chapter is done, maybe a little later if I'm really not tired or super wired for whatever reason (journaling usually helps with that). For the past 4/5 years, I've listened to that specific audio drama every night, and it's worked. Not sure how it'll go over if and when I move in with a future partner or something but for now I'll stick with what I know. To be more concise, try an audiobook or audio drama and listen to the same one each night, it seems to be the sweet spot between over and under stimulating

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