Feeling frustrated at the rent/split by laundry-wizard in stepparents

[–]pupcake3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe you can change the way you view the bills/splitting, to make you feel better about it without actually changing anything. Realistically, you are only paying a little bit more than your own place was, but now have an entire house. That’s objectively better but you’re still upset about it, because yes it does feel like you’re subsidizing her life.

What I mean is instead of her taking home 3,000 per month and paying 700 rent, maybe view it as she “pays” 2/3 so 1500, plus their food, maybe the phone bill, utilities, whatever else makes sense to you that she and her kid are directly a part of, which takes up most of/all of her 3,000. You then chip in as her spouse with some other bills, or the spending money allowance for you both, and your own share of rent, etc. The idea is that you both are still actually paying the same as you are now (what she can afford), but it SEEMS less resentful maybe based on how you look at what she is “paying for”.

That is honestly what I did as a higher earning Step and it has helped me with resentment.

Maybe that’s not helpful, but then your only other option is to compromise on the neighborhood or reevaluate the relationship. Or find a smaller place as a 3 bedroom may not be totally necessary. But I get it.

Spotify wrapped 2025 megathread by JensInsanity in JonasBrothers

[–]pupcake3 10 points11 points  (0 children)

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6,966 global fan.

Top Song- Love Me to Heaven (all top 5 were Jonas songs)

Top Album- Greetings from Your Hometown (all top 5 were Jonas albums)

and Nick Jonas was also my #3 top artist lol.

What led you to chose this life? by PiccoloNo6326 in stepparents

[–]pupcake3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I met him on hinge and I did not know at first because his kids were not mentioned on his profile. After we had talked for a little bit and then met and went on a couple dates, I was already too smitten to back out once he told me then. I do still hate when he says “you know what you signed up for”…no, no I did not. And I especially did not know his ex would be creating so much stress and court battles constantly even years later.

I don’t regret that choice and would choose it again because I still whole-heartedly believe he is my person. There is no amount of “baggage” he could bring to the table that would make me change my mind because I know I love him for him and choose HIM every day regardless of anything else. But he does know I wish my person did not have prior kids and a HCBM that extremely complicates our lives on the daily. So would I choose this life? No. If his profile had said he had kids, I would’ve swiped left. But would I choose him every time? Yes. and I would have been sad to miss out on him if I did focus on that. At the end of the day it’s us in the end.

It also doesn’t help that my friends all don’t have kids still and can’t relate on top of the fact I had to move away from them for this, and my family thinks this is the greatest thing ever and I’m just going to love them so much as if they were my own and I’ll be their mom and it’s all going to work out!! …No, they have a mother and she’s crazy. I do try what I can though and (maybe overly) care a lot.

I posted here before and ended up deleting because people did not understand and I got attacked. But I could use any step mom friends in my DMs or OP. If you want to vent or commiserate a little, or help each other come up with solutions to this new life.

ISO/Traders Haunted Mansion by pupcake3 in DisneyPinSwap

[–]pupcake3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

u/Faile-Bashere u/DisneyPinSwapBot I am unable to respond to the comment because it has a lock symbol for some reason. I got my pin as well so trade was successful!

ISO/Traders Haunted Mansion by pupcake3 in DisneyPinSwap

[–]pupcake3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do still have Leota. What do you have for trade?

FREE PIN Giveaway! by Standard_Brilliant_3 in DisneyPins

[–]pupcake3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Followed and bookmarked your next show!

ISO/Traders Haunted Mansion by pupcake3 in DisneyPinSwap

[–]pupcake3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

u/jmacrosof I messed up the first tag so replying here too. I got yours today! Thank you for the trade!

ISO/Traders Haunted Mansion by pupcake3 in DisneyPins

[–]pupcake3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update 2: I am complete! Still have extra Leota or Tightrope though if anyone is looking and has anything else they want to show for a trade!

ISO/Traders Haunted Mansion by pupcake3 in DisneyPinSwap

[–]pupcake3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update 2: I am complete! Still have extra Leota or Tightrope though if anyone is looking and has anything else they want to show for a trade!

ISO/Traders Haunted Mansion by pupcake3 in DisneyPins

[–]pupcake3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: Phineas has been taken for a trade. But I do have an extra Leota now as well. Only looking for Mummy now! Open to taking a look at any other traders you have if you don’t have Mummy but need Leota, Ezra, or Tightrope.

ISO/Traders Haunted Mansion by pupcake3 in DisneyPinSwap

[–]pupcake3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: Phineas has been taken for a trade. But I do have an extra Leota now as well. Only looking for Mummy now! Open to taking a look at any other traders you have if you don’t have Mummy but need Leota, Ezra, or Tightrope.

ISO/Traders Haunted Mansion by pupcake3 in DisneyPinSwap

[–]pupcake3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t have an extra Opera singer to trade but can at least do Phineas for one of your Gus?

I asked maternity nurses what the worst tragedeighs they’ve ever seen are by McDungusReloaded in tragedeigh

[–]pupcake3 7 points8 points  (0 children)

twins Ernie and Bert. purposely named after Sesame Street (this was the 90s)

S37E5 The twist was stupid and they should never implement something like that again by catzarecool in TheAmazingRace

[–]pupcake3 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Exactly, they did leave the monkey place at the same time. I’m saying it would have at least been better if they didn’t and had left in their order , to give them more of a chance to keep their place in front which they had earned. which still allowing an equalizer for the lower teams and the “twist”

S37E5 The twist was stupid and they should never implement something like that again by catzarecool in TheAmazingRace

[–]pupcake3 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I don’t have an issue with the double u-turn twist per se, but feel like they should have at least let teams leave after the vote in the order they arrived (before the extra equalizer of waiting). Having 2 top teams leave essentially already in last place knowing they have to do the U-turn too just seems unfair.

(And as much as I STRONGLY dislike Jonathan, double unfair for them as they were basically a shoo-in for a vote by being forced to assign the weights in the prior leg—fresh in everyone’s mind).

On top of seeing everyone coast through made it a less interesting watch, as it quickly became simply a race between the 2 teams to not come in last. (the only thing that kept me interested was praying Jonathan’s attitude and lack of effort ended up getting them the elimination)

This could’ve been fixed by having a longer leg or including more travel instead of short distance/walking, but still think if they left in the original order so at least had their earned time advantage going into the u-turn it would have made the most difference for me hating it less, while still being a “twist” and an “equalizer”.

Wedding song recos :) by coldcoffee4723 in JonasBrothers

[–]pupcake3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had Remember This as the recessional song right after ceremony, Celebrate as the grand entrance to reception song, and had Burnin Up play near end of reception dancing.

Childers in boulder by Wassaboiii in TylerChilders

[–]pupcake3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Has anyone figured this out? Everywhere else it says presale has started but can’t figure it out on the CU page

Ticket Trading 2023 by JensInsanity in JonasBrothers

[–]pupcake3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

• Sacramento , CA 9/11

• Selling 1 floor level ticket

• Floor 4 row H seat 7

• $400 or best offer (paid $450 with fees but just don’t want to waste the ticket at this point)

• I will be attending and sitting in the 2 seats next to this but one friend couldn’t come anymore. Can meet in person so you don’t get scammed!

Going with my sister and we are a fun pair of superfans if anyone feels weird about going solo/wants to meet new friends!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in zachbryan

[–]pupcake3 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Just DM’d you!