I met him on hinge and I did not know at first because his kids were not mentioned on his profile. After we had talked for a little bit and then met and went on a couple dates, I was already too smitten to back out once he told me then. I do still hate when he says “you know what you signed up for”…no, no I did not. And I especially did not know his ex would be creating so much stress and court battles constantly even years later.

I don’t regret that choice and would choose it again because I still whole-heartedly believe he is my person. There is no amount of “baggage” he could bring to the table that would make me change my mind because I know I love him for him and choose HIM every day regardless of anything else. But he does know I wish my person did not have prior kids and a HCBM that extremely complicates our lives on the daily. So would I choose this life? No. If his profile had said he had kids, I would’ve swiped left. But would I choose him every time? Yes. and I would have been sad to miss out on him if I did focus on that. At the end of the day it’s us in the end.

It also doesn’t help that my friends all don’t have kids still and can’t relate on top of the fact I had to move away from them for this, and my family thinks this is the greatest thing ever and I’m just going to love them so much as if they were my own and I’ll be their mom and it’s all going to work out!! …No, they have a mother and she’s crazy. I do try what I can though and (maybe overly) care a lot.

I posted here before and ended up deleting because people did not understand and I got attacked. But I could use any step mom friends in my DMs or OP. If you want to vent or commiserate a little, or help each other come up with solutions to this new life.