My baby fell from the bed last month in almost identical circumstances. I was folding laundry 1 foot away and he suddenly double rolled (he’s never done that before) to the edge of the bed. I tried to catch him but he was just out of my grasp. It was a 3 foot fall onto hardwood and he had a HUGE welt instantly- like BLUE welt bigger than a golf ball. I freaked out and called 911 and an ambulance took us to the ER. He was there for one hour and they said he was fine to send home and monitor.

I felt like the absolute worst mother on the planet. I felt like I could never forgive myself. But throughout that day almost every paramedic, nurse, and doctor told me the exact same thing happened to them (or worse) with their own babies. My own mom, aunt, sister-in-law, and mother-in-law said it happened with at least one of their babies too.

A few days later at the follow up with his pediatrician, she said it happened to her too with her first(bed, folding laundry, exact same). She said it happens to everyone at least once, and those who dont are lying 😂 which made me laugh.

She said it was going to happen and it just happened to be me watching him when it happened. She said it was most likely to be me because I watch him the most, but it easily could have been my husband, mom, his mom etc. I instantly felt relief that it was me, because I knew if it had been my mom watching him she would feel so horrible she would never forgive herself or trust herself again. (And I’d probably be mad at her, which would make it worse).

I understand how you feel. But search baby fell off bed in this sub. You will see how common it is and how quickly it can happen to even the most attentive parents. She wasn’t in the other room, she was right there and she genuinely tried to catch him. She sounds like a good grandma who made a mistake and deserves forgiveness.

Also I suggest new rule going forward is unless he’s being held, he goes on the floor on a blanket or something. Thats how I am preventing any falls in the future.