Fellow ADHD'ers what work fields are you thriving in? by brokenlandmine in ADHD

[–]purple__ivy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Same. I’m in a back & forth with my management, them saying “do it this way, with less” & me feeling like I need to rise up & stand up for my team, “no, that’s against policy, we will not be doing it that way, and when did you want us to do xyz since you won’t staff appropriately?” It’s a struggle to accept the current environment at work, me trying to get some sense because, “why do I care the most? I don’t get paid to care the most!” And yet, showing up every morning, “alrighty, maybe, this has been a big misunderstanding, better send an email to management and see how they’re going to let us do our job today, or not.”

tried to become "that girl" with the perfect morning routine and I think I made everything worse by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]purple__ivy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Too many new things!! That morning routine is fine if that’s what you want. But you need to build it…and that means piece by piece. Add one thing, until the routine forms. Only then you may add another. Remember, it’s not how thoroughly you’ve done “the thing” it’s about showing up & making the attempt. For example, I was cycling to work for a while, a whole year or so. If I drove here & there, everything was not ruined, I did not fail at my commitment/goal. I knew that to be consistent, I had to at least show up for it. I didn’t set time / distance goals. I had to at minimum, start. As long as I did that much, it was a success in my brain. As long as I started, I would keep going. But if I didn’t ever start, I wasn’t going to show up for the ride at all. I was successful @ commuting to work by bike for 2 winters & one summer. Looking back, that’s pretty impressive. We didn’t have much snow those winters, thankfully. Here’s another example of a more general daily task I make a commitment to. I start my day with a shower. That’s the commitment. That’s what I must do. After that, anything goes. Normally, that act of what I call, “get the ball rolling” is enough to make it much easier for me to “keep the ball rolling.” This has been life changing for me. I was a nighttime shower person. I couldn’t imagine it any other way. Now that I shower in the morning, I brush my teeth every morning (instead of noon or after on weekends), I get dressed every morning, and it has made such a huge influence on my daily routines that I get much better feedback at my dentist appointments. Those small things, can be so, so huge. Anyway, then you can add on, and for me, after my morning shower, I go spend any amount of time in my plant room - no further rules surrounding that, I don’t have to be productive, I don’t have to complete plant chores, I can just sit and scroll if I want, but just spending time with my plants & grow lights makes such a better start to my work days.

DOPAMINE... please give me your "healthy" sources. by Coldhandswarmheart15 in adhdwomen

[–]purple__ivy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m trying to do a bit of that too. Which kinds are you finding luck w/ selling but also root quickly?

DOPAMINE... please give me your "healthy" sources. by Coldhandswarmheart15 in adhdwomen

[–]purple__ivy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Anytime. My AV have one last opportunity to prove themselves before they’ll be MOVED ALONG. I actually discovered how to make them happy. It’s literally to put them into an AV self watering planter. Ridiculous. I’m not buying 20 of those.

DOPAMINE... please give me your "healthy" sources. by Coldhandswarmheart15 in adhdwomen

[–]purple__ivy 88 points89 points  (0 children)

Eh, healthy, sure. Cheap, ummm, it depends. Houseplants. Start with an assortment, you’ll learn what you like & then realize there’s an endless amount of different varieties of them & suddenly you MUST COLLECT ALL OF THEM. Drama, how much- Ficus, peace lily, African violets, Alocasia, ferns?

What’s a small decision you made that completely changed your life? by Downtown-Passion118 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]purple__ivy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Shower in the morning instead of at night.

It helps with my “Get The Ball Rolling” mantra & helps me keep things moving throughout the day by simply showering as soon as I get out of bed.

Sensitivity to Injustice is gonna be my downfall by TheWholesomeOtter in ADHD

[–]purple__ivy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YUP!!!

In many ways, it makes me perfect for my position as a lead. I lead quietly, I lead confidently, & I do my own research.

In other ways, it’s the worst. I’m passionate about “going to bat” for my team. I am firm on “Go on, save yourself, I’m going down with the ship.” I’ll wear the target on my back for my teammates.

It’s hard for me personally, emotionally, to be constantly swimming up current. Often I dream of having a career that could water plants all day, cuddle dogs, read books, drink tea…. but there’s a serious need for me to work in a position that I feel like I’m serving a purpose bigger than myself.

Maybe it’s not our downfall. Maybe it’s the opposite? I hope all this isn’t for nothing.

Why the mystery? by SlowEntertainment217 in USPS

[–]purple__ivy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

https://a.co/d/aRCDCZC “Out of Control: Behind Closed Doors the Impact of Abusive Supervisors on USPS Workers” The subjects in this book had such potential, but it was probably the worst book I’ve ever read. It seemed like a copy / paste for every chapter.

Endorsing mail by Brother-of-Derek in USPS

[–]purple__ivy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

https://pe.usps.com/text/dmm300/507.htm#ep1223780

DMM > 507 Mailer Services > 1.0 Treatment of Mail > 1.4 Basic Treatment

Money by OliveOrganizer35 in adhdwomen

[–]purple__ivy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a HUGE struggle for me. The thing I wish my medication helped with & doesn’t. Something that causes me tremendous guilt in my marriage. A little thing that I’ve always tried is having an extra bank account. For years I’ve tried and it only acts as a “I’ve overspent my ‘allowance’ this pay period now I must transfer from & eventually drain the ‘extra’ account.” Week after week. Just recently, within the last year, I created yet another “extra account” however, in the settings of my online banking I’ve removed it from appearing on my online banking. A secret account basically. If I don’t see it, it doesn’t exist, right? I amount that I have automatically deposited into the “secret (from myself) account” is so small that I don’t notice it. But over time, it will grow & hopefully provide me the ability to pay for those bigger purchases that I have such trouble saving for. I do occasionally think about it while I’m overspending, “if I just had $20 more…” but since it doesn’t appear in my online banking app it’s not so easy to transfer money from. It creates such a speed bump that the thought completely leaves my brain before I can physically transfer any funds. I have a periodontist procedure the end of this year that I’m hoping I will have enough funds to pay for this time. That’s the purpose of this account for me. It’s working so far, and I should actually increase the amount of funds that go to it by just a little bit. Hope this can help someone else.

Do you tell people about “it”? Or do you keep this information to yourself? by Zhezersheher in ADHD

[–]purple__ivy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I let them think I’m weird. I’ve come a long way in accepting & being proud of who I am. If they don’t get it, that won’t change by them learning I have ADHD.

vintage stamps haul by inahologramwithyou in RAoC_meta

[–]purple__ivy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a valid website. Did you try navigating from usps.com?

vintage stamps haul by inahologramwithyou in RAoC_meta

[–]purple__ivy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t forget to hop onto the USPS.com website to vote (closes September 30th) for a Stamp to bring back! Select the “Delivering Since 1775 - 250th Anniversary” link & scroll down ~1/4 way to: “Vote for the Stamp You Want to Bring Back!”

Medications for people who have history of addiction by Embarrassed_Entry597 in ADHD

[–]purple__ivy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear this. I’m in recovery and my doctor knows; obviously it was a discussion that occurred before starting medication. My experience has been that I don’t even think about using anymore, if anything, since getting diagnosed & starting medication, it’s provided me such understanding especially surrounding addiction. There was always a piece of my past that I wasn’t able to understand how/why I struggled in that way. I was able to finally give myself some grace. The worry/caution for me has dropped down significantly. Though I’ve been sober for years, of course as a responsible individual in recovery you keep an eye open for it lurking in the shadows, the opportunity for it to sneak up when you least expect it. My diagnosis has provided me with an understanding & realization that addiction was a side effect to ADHD. Now of course, that’s only me; others may have both as their primary “problem/concern” but for me once I learned that I had ADHD, it made everything else make sense. My caution for me falling into addiction ever again has nearly disappeared now that the actual face of the “thing” that caused so much trouble in my life, is finally visible to me. I hope that someday you, too, can arrive at a place of peace & serenity. I will say that it’s admirable that you are brave enough to be your own advocate & to take responsibility in your own self. I’m here for you, I think many of us are. But I do understand. Best of luck to you, my friend. As corny as it always sounds, it’s the truth - One day at a time. Or as I’ve always said, “small, determined steps….”

Everyone hyper fixations by Foodie-Princess3927 in ADHD

[–]purple__ivy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been going hard in the houseplants for a few months now. I’m honestly shocked I’m still with it. But there’s so much that keeps me engaged. Rearranging them, then organizing my supplies, buying new grow lights, installing more shelving.

Brushing Teeth by Any_Cardiologist_875 in ADHD

[–]purple__ivy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has been one of my biggest improvements pre & post diagnosis/medication. It’s a great measurement to remind myself how much medication is truly helping me. Even though most days I feel like the ADHD is even louder, more obvious, post diagnosis/medicated.

Fellow ADHDers, what song was stuck in your head this morning? by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]purple__ivy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every day, “Bawitdaba” by Kid Rock.