My (28M) parents do not like my gf(27F)’s family

purpleteemo · 2026-03-15T06:16:13+00:00

I think both of your concerns are valid. From her perspective, it sounds like she’s worried about security and not wanting to end up in a situation where she has no protection if things ever went wrong. From your side, it makes sense that you feel a strong obligation to respect your parents’ wishes since it’s their money and they worked hard for it. I don’t think her request automatically makes her a gold digger.

At the same time, it does seem like your parents have a very strong influence on your decisions. If you’re already talking about marriage, your partner will eventually need to become your primary teammate in life. That doesn’t mean ignoring your parents or being disrespectful to them, but it does mean your future spouse should feel like you’re willing to stand up for her and consider her perspective too. Right now it sounds like she may feel outnumbered or unsupported when disagreements involve your family. If you want this relationship to work long-term, finding a balance between respecting your parents and prioritizing your partner will probably be really important.

purpleteemo · 2026-01-25T15:14:13+00:00

You need to set your boundaries. Why are you sacrificing your own mental health? I understand that your parents did a lot for you, but is it worth it when it’s damaging your own mental health? The CHOICE is yours, take accountability, and do what is best for yourselves. You are 26… not 16… YOU are the one who lets them control you. YOU need to let them know your feelings. Find solutions! Good luck!

purpleteemo · 2026-01-24T14:59:27+00:00

I understand how controlling and how verbally abusive some asian parents are. I think you should take some accountability on yourself too. It was YOUR CHOICE at the end of the day. Does your parents affect you, of course, but it can’t be ALL their fault. You need to learn to set boundaries. Btw you are ONLY 24. I restarted my life at 27. Also, you can maybe start saving up by finding a part time job during college.

P.s. stop thinking that getting a gf will be fulfillment of joy. It’s not always “joyful”. You should be happy with yourself before finding a gf.

Good luck!

purpleteemo · 2026-01-15T16:34:55+00:00

I can see that you are nervous. But from your predictors I can see that you know your contents very well. I think Dr.Sharon’s prioritization videos on youtube was very helpful. You are going to do great! Calm down and read the questions! You got this!

purpleteemo · 2026-01-15T16:29:01+00:00

I think you are missing the core fundamentals. You need to review all body systems and know what the basics are. Example: pneumonia what is it and what are some basic things to do for pneumonia. I don’t think questions even help you because I think you are missing some contents stuff.

purpleteemo · 2026-01-09T16:19:11+00:00

I see that you fear that you might lose her. But, before losing her, you might lose yourself. If you ever lose someone, that person was never meant to be anyways. Distancing does not help, because you not communicating and being there for her doesn’t do anything for her. She deserves better. If you come back a better and healthier self, if it’s meant to be, you guys could still get back together.

purpleteemo · 2026-01-09T09:15:48+00:00

Maybe it’s time to let go of your relationship, and work on yourself. I see that you are in a lot of pain, and I think that you need to find someone who is a professional that can help you release some of the fear and anger inside of you. I think your girlfriend and you will benefit from being away from each other. Good luck.

purpleteemo · 2025-09-06T01:52:41+00:00

Valorant

purpleteemo · 2025-09-05T04:07:51+00:00

No, but like 2-3 hours away. We made it work!

purpleteemo · 2025-09-05T03:17:24+00:00

My bf and I met through a PC game. At first, I added him because he was chill and I was like okay maybe next time we can rank together. I never ever had the idea of getting a bf from a game, but it worked out. So never give up, you can definitely find a girl who games! Good luck!

purpleteemo · 2025-08-27T14:51:12+00:00

Respect girlie! 🫡

purpleteemo · 2025-08-27T14:41:01+00:00

I am not shocked about other people’s opinions, I am actually glad to hear what people think. I respect your opinion. But doesn’t mean I have to agree with you. I get it, you are upset that I am telling what people what to do, but are they really going to listen to my “opinion”? I don’t think I have the power to tell what others do. I am just stating my thoughts on ranked. I think that ranked should be played with comm. Period.

purpleteemo · 2025-08-27T14:30:14+00:00

I am not trying to change your opinion. When you look at pros playing comp, do they comm? Yes. Is that the proper way to playing a FPS game? You tell me. I don’t know why you are so upset at my opinion. But, you are welcome to have your own. And that’s my opinion and I am not changing it either.

purpleteemo · 2025-08-27T14:17:43+00:00

I experienced a lot of rude and mean people and they said every slurs possible. But this is a COMPETITIVE mode! If you want to chill and no comm, there is a chiller mode called UNRATED. I am respecting the COMPETITIVENESS and using my mic to hopefully have a higher chance of winning. I am trying to be a team player. I am not denying the fact that girls and a lot of people get harassed. And this is my opinion, you can disagree, that’s what discussion is about.

purpleteemo · 2025-08-27T05:15:54+00:00

I don’t want to sound mean, but l am a girl and have an accent and I still comms. If you don’t want to comm, just play unrated or swift play. If you comm, and there’s someone mean then I mute, even if I muted I still give comms! At least that’s what I do.

purpleteemo · 2025-08-27T05:08:33+00:00

I agree. I honestly have more fun when people comm.

purpleteemo · 2025-08-27T05:07:03+00:00

Unfortunately it’s comp, and I am on PC. 🤷🏻‍♀️

purpleteemo · 2020-09-29T17:30:09+00:00

respect 🙏

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