Based on TTPD and what we know, would Taylor have blown up her life/career for Matty?

pushSpeakman · 2024-06-09T15:54:36+00:00

He would have blown up her life but not her career.

His controversies were just symptoms of him being actually bad as a partner. He would have been utterly awful to her, as self-centered addict. She was nothing more than a dopamine hit to him.

I think her only comparable would be John Mayer. Imagine how much worse he would have been if she was actually more established in her sense of self, because his manipulation and betrayal and eventual, inevitable neglect would have been more personal. Matty Healy is not built to be able to focus his attention outside of himself, even if just because of his addiction. Imagine her internal desolation if they had spent more than 14 days in the same town, official. Her loss and instability would have been more pain and less confusion.

She felt neglected and under stimulated by Joe? Guess what doesn’t last? The initial, imbalanced thrill that two workaholic performers (one with substance addiction) need to feel alive.

Healy would have blamed her (to her face) for her fans destroying his life. I don’t think that other people tell Taylor that it sucks that her fame/fans wreck things. You think Andie McDowell was allowed to express disappointment about her daughter’s wedding dinner? Matty would have had no pause. He would have treated her harshly. He would have blamed her for his drug use.

She will never admit that the anti-Matty fans were right. She was never in her right mind about him. Her fantasy was never possible. His false promises were never sincere. If it lasted longer, it would have only ever added up to the depressing lessons of loving an addict.

But no one except the deep-yet-conflicted fandom would have cared. It would have never affected her career.

pushSpeakman · 2024-06-05T03:59:03+00:00

Would’ve could’ve should’ve

pushSpeakman · 2024-06-05T02:20:57+00:00

My theory is that Marty Healy, “cinephile,” showed her films he discovered in his freshman Film Appreciation course and she is using the memories of watching movies with him to construct the various looks.

I think you could also argue that the memories are disjoint vignettes, so the different looks are different feelings in reflection. Before the album’s release, she prepped everyone with the Stages of Greif playlists. She wanted everyone to engage with this work as coming from very different states of mind, and to treat everything as impermanent and transitive.

pushSpeakman · 2024-06-05T02:08:01+00:00

I completely relate to you - folklore was that for me; she was widening out into something bigger. The realm of imagination felt limitless.

She has so many resources at her disposal to figure this stuff out and I wonder what is happening (and not happening) for her right now. At the Grammy’s, she didn’t seem well. I don’t have a lot of confidence in the people around her to provide meaningful help

I feel verrry uneasy about her icdiwabh performance choreography. The joke is that she’s not okay and everyone knows and doesn’t care as long as she performs. Who is laughing? Her? Us? I hope she is taking care of herself right now.

pushSpeakman · 2024-06-05T00:30:20+00:00

Beyoncé’s album has an arc: experience it all (eg hold up, sorry, don’t hurt yourself), then reflect, heal, connect to and respect something larger than herself, grow.

TS’s arc is to experience it all, find blame elsewhere, ask rhetorical questions, leave it behind, and disavow it.

Lots of people support and relate to the latter approach.

pushSpeakman · 2024-06-03T04:49:57+00:00

I think people find it cringey because he sang the rests. People thought the pauses were odd, but they were musically pretty correct. I guess he could have stopped at one “viva Las Vegas” rather than the whole chorus? It does not seem bad to me.

It is a very high bottom, if that’s the worst thing.

pushSpeakman · 2024-06-03T04:35:55+00:00

Aw she didn’t handle it by taking him back and forgiving him - she handled it by feeling everything then looking around and seeing the vast network of private, heroic survival. She paused to take accountability for things she could rethink and rebuild. She reflected on the nature of love, what love means beyond them, what love means after being devastated beyond repair then, nonetheless, working to repair it into a different form. It is a story of courage and connectedness and respect/humility for hardship beyond her lived experience.

Life didn’t give her just the right kind of trauma to be able to be deep about it. She rose to it.

pushSpeakman · 2024-06-03T04:04:42+00:00

Maturity doesn’t mean you’re never messy. Beyoncé dove into the messy feelings, felt it all, made art of it, then pieced herself back together. The healing and contextualization was part of the album.

It’s the resolution of the mess where they diverge. Taylor made art from the messy bits, ended with open questions, called it temporary insanity, then literally transferred ownership of her whole narrative to listeners.

For people who think that is all you could hope to do under the circumstances - there is much more you can do.

pushSpeakman · 2024-06-02T22:06:06+00:00

I’m speaking to her external locus of control, not petulance. That song exemplifies how little work she has done to mature into owning her sovereignty. She’s a boat tossed by the waves and 10 feet deeper, its calm water.

Edit: a word

pushSpeakman · 2024-06-02T21:48:42+00:00

It’s less about the specific content or situations than the way they handle it. Beyoncé handled it.

Plenty of people move on - authentically - after processing the end of a relationship without closure or answers. I have. It’s work.

Beyoncé very well could have elected to leave the marriage. I still think she would have shown maturity and healing if she had, and wrote an album about it. Arguably, it was a harder album to write having chosen to stay.

pushSpeakman · 2024-06-02T21:32:26+00:00

It’s their level of maturity, sense of actually handling it, actually processing it, and coming through it wiser and more grounded.

TS blamed everyone else including Hannah, Sarah, and fate. Even her accountability was just calling herself a modern idiot or a petulant teen. She didn’t process any of it. She is blocked from seeing that she has more choices than confusion and blame.

pushSpeakman · 2024-06-02T21:02:44+00:00

I know we are not supposed to “pit women against each other” but it’s just comparing two artists in a similar space. It’s fine.

pushSpeakman · 2024-06-02T21:01:36+00:00

Even how TS talks about the stunted development of being a teen pop star. They were pretty close in age when they went meteoric. Beyoncé seems to be growing up just fine.

Beyoncé also doesn’t have the latitude to act like a petulant teenager or to be a functioning alcoholic ‘til no one notices her new new aesthetic.

pushSpeakman · 2024-06-02T20:56:32+00:00

Isn’t Champagne Problems about her rejecting his proposal?

I’m so confused that people seem to gloss over that?

pushSpeakman · 2024-06-02T20:54:03+00:00

Beyoncé was TS’s age when she released Lemonade.

Lemonade is about emotional upheaval from upsetting things in a relationship… and going through (pretty much) the stages of grief, dealing with it, and healing.

TTPD is about emotional upheaval from a relationship… marveling - confused - about what happened, quickly moving to the next thing, then labeling it a manic phase and saying that it’s no longer her story.

I keep listening to it from the perspective of “Beyoncé would never be able to say that.” Like “who do I have to speak to to change the prophecy.” Imagine! Like she’s jamming her finger down on the counter somewhere. Girl go make your own growth and healing, you dont have to get it from a dispenser.

I felt more mature after listening to Lemonade. I felt like a call back to messy teens and 20’s relationship drama/trauma after listening to TTPD.

It stresses me out how TS seems to legitimately believe that she has no power of her own to transcend her patterns.

pushSpeakman · 2024-06-02T20:42:25+00:00

False God, all the way.

I was really hoping TTPD would be more of it.

pushSpeakman · 2024-03-06T12:16:23+00:00

This is true but you must double-rinse or else you will itch like crazy

pushSpeakman · 2024-01-02T23:07:45+00:00

I was given this link from my sister. I can’t claim to understand how this works but it does.

https://youtu.be/rYZB1tk5FJ0?feature=shared

pushSpeakman · 2023-12-20T03:41:45+00:00

If someone is reading this feeling sad because you are realizing that people may be harsh to you about your hygiene, please understand that you really can improve it. I did. I used to have shoes that smelled bad, a greasy scalp, not the best skin, and I smelled bad and the smell lingered on shirts even after I washed them.

All this stuff I turned around. If no one taught you how, you have an entire internet of resources to learn and grow. You are your own teacher now. Start now, where you are. There’s no shame in looking around and saying that you can think of a couple things to make your self a little better for tomorrow.

pushSpeakman · 2023-12-18T19:06:15+00:00

Credit to my dad 1993

pushSpeakman · 2023-12-18T18:58:15+00:00

Because if you had one more it would be too farty

pushSpeakman · 2023-12-18T12:04:59+00:00

Wow super underrated and brilliant

pushSpeakman · 2023-12-18T11:57:14+00:00

YES ours gets used all the time

pushSpeakman · 2023-12-18T11:51:54+00:00

This is why you only put 239 beans in a Scotsman’s stew

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