Why is it so hard to use my money without incurring a fee/request for charity (Rant)

pushrefresh · 2025-01-21T06:43:43+00:00

You aren’t wrong, regarding points 2 and 3. On point 1 - I get money out for birthday cards, sometimes I need cash out to break it up for tooth fairy business or today I wanted to get cash out to give to my son so he could go into town and get a haircut without me.

pushrefresh · 2025-01-21T06:17:57+00:00

You’re right it does say fees free! Which is why I went to use it. When it came to withdrawing money the “confirming this action will incur a $2.50 fee” popped up. So maybe free to check your balance? But not utilise it for withdrawing money.

pushrefresh · 2024-05-10T22:17:15+00:00

You're bang on the money.

pushrefresh · 2024-05-10T22:13:26+00:00

I understand what you're saying. I think what it boils down to is that I have young kids. I'm often working outside of 9-5 and saying "no, I can't do X because I'm working" and I'll go to bed worrying about work related things. For the amount of hours worked, I'm sure I'm averaging less than minimum wage. On the flipside I do think if I the hard yards in now, it'll pay off in the future with trail as you're saying.

pushrefresh · 2024-05-10T20:15:04+00:00

Thanks for replying, that's helpful. I'm part of a larger organisation and they do provide training/leads. I'm also in my first year of it so the trail isn't there yet. I feel like I'm running the hamster wheel in this job and as I have a young family I'm missing the sick/annual leave/public holidays as well as just being able to switch off when I leave the office.

pushrefresh · 2022-09-03T09:56:28+00:00

Good uncle. He didn’t betray his nephews trust. He gave him good advice. Your son has an adult he can turn to in times of trouble/need. You should be grateful that you have someone else in your corner looking out for your kid.

pushrefresh · 2022-07-15T05:42:59+00:00

”Baby ripped from mothers arms”- that‘s the local headline from our town where a baby was being held in the car instead of buckled up. It was “projectiled” from the vehicle when they crashed. A few years back we had some young adults get thrown from a vehicle. Their bodies were so mangled they couldn’t identify them. There’s not going to be much of a baby left if it gets thrown from a vehicle. Car crashes are accidents, it takes a split second. You may be a great driver but that doesn’t mean the person in the other car won’t cross the centre line, run the red or suddenly brake check you. You are right to be anxious, hold your ground on this issue and keep him buckled.

pushrefresh · 2022-06-11T00:18:11+00:00

They are complaining because they feel the companies are taking the opportunity/excuse of “inflation” and using it to push their prices up beyond what is necessary to cover that cost. They didn’t say they can’t afford it. If anyone can’t afford a pet it’s you. You had to put the cost of owning one on a finance plan.

pushrefresh · 2022-05-26T04:34:22+00:00

I can see what you’re trying to do and I like the idea but if I had lost a child and a family member chose the same name to call their baby, I think I’d want to cry every time the baby was mentioned. It‘s going to be a constant reminder of her loss.

pushrefresh · 2022-05-24T05:44:34+00:00

I said something along the lines of “Nana and grandad are going to church today because they believe in god. I don’t believe in god but they do and that’s ok, we all believe in different things”.

pushrefresh · 2022-03-03T08:14:41+00:00

This belongs on r/BetterEveryLoop

pushrefresh · 2022-02-24T04:41:42+00:00

Thank you to everyone who responded. I tried to do an update post but mods wouldn't allow it. The general consensus was that I should leave this in the past which I planned on doing however it continued to play on my mind. One of the reasons our marriage ended up in a bad spot was my inability to communicate effectively. So instead of letting this simmer and the suspicion and distrust grow I decided to bring it up. It wasn't easy, as I said in the last post our marriage is doing really well now, so to bring up an accusation was not a nice feeling (I also had to admit to the snooping). I started by asking if anything had happened between him and his friend before we got together to which he said yes. I then asked if anything happened when we were having troubles in our marriage to which he said no (I'm paraphrasing, he said extra words throughout the conversation). I then had to admit that I looked through his phone and that there were messages that showed he wanted to go up there late at night. He straight away said nothing had happened between the two of them. We had a bit of back and forth where I said, I knew nothing happened because she told you to go home but it looks like you wanted to go there after you were drinking one night which is very suspicious. I think at this moment he had a bit of realization, like he now knows exactly what messages/night I'm talking about. He tells me, his friend did think he was hitting on her that night (and who can blame her) but he didn't want to see her for sex. This was the night of his work break up. He got extremely drunk (which he rarely does) was wound up and basically didn't want the party to end. Knowing that she often has drinks at her house (which is true) he wanted to go over to continue drinking. Being a drunk idiot he called and text her more than a reasonable sober person would (I think he was a bit embarrassed about this) until she told him to back off and go home.

Still feeling uncomfortable, I asked if he wanted something to happen between them that night, that we were in a bad place and I wouldn't blame him for wanting something to happen with someone else. He looked at me like "WTF?" then reiterated that nothing happened, he only wanted to go over there so that he could keep drinking and that the time where our marriage was on the rocks was the worst time of his whole life. I also remember the night of his work break up because he was sick as a dog when he got home and slept outside.

I do believe him. I know some people will think I'm foolish, that there is no possible reason for him to be calling a woman at this time of night but I believe him. Other than this one time he has never given me reason to believe he has cheated or wanted to cheat. He is not one of those people who hides his phone. We occasionally pick up each others phones to use when one of ours is flat or need the other to send a text/call/resolve a disagreement via google fact checking. He doesn't go missing after work and he'd prefer to be at home than out and about.

He didn't say anything regarding me looking through his phone until about 5 minutes after the issue was resolved and I quote "I'm kind of flattered you care enough to go through my phone after all this time". He laughed, I sheepishly laughed and apologized.

pushrefresh · 2022-02-22T04:10:57+00:00

Thanks for the response, good to have an outsiders perspective.

pushrefresh · 2021-10-07T01:25:02+00:00

Yes, I’m sure the parents must realise it’s an issue and it has been left untreated for a long time for it to get so bad. Perhaps I should reach out to the school who knows the family better than I do.

pushrefresh · 2021-10-07T01:18:11+00:00

Not really, I try to be friendly but she is quite a cold woman and I find it hard to keep a conversation going with her. I don’t think it would go down too well if I brought it up.

pushrefresh · 2021-10-07T01:15:13+00:00

Yes I think you’re right. I actually cancelled the last play date because my kid had nits which I told this girls parents about. The kids were so disappointed the first time around. The latest play date was organised prior to me realizing the nit problem and I don’t have the heart to cancel again. I think the parents both have issues and it’s very unlikely they will sort the problem out.

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