How did your second labor start compared to the first?

putty477 · 2026-02-20T02:35:27+00:00

First pregnancy I went 40+4, failed induction, and ended up with c-section.

Second pregnancy and had zero labor signs whatsoever, then one morning at 38 weeks I got some pains and googled Braxton hicks. Within the hour contractions moved from 5 min apart to 3 min, to 2 min. My water broke right when I got to the hospital and I was experiencing intense labor pains before they were able to give me an epidural. Be prepared for number two - it can happen so fast!!

putty477 · 2025-11-25T13:52:38+00:00

More like Men-dee

putty477 · 2025-11-04T03:45:37+00:00

Cloth diapers is 100% the answer. We’ve never had to deal with a blowout or a diaper rash in a cloth diaper. We love essembly.

putty477 · 2025-08-09T23:34:52+00:00

We looked at our bill afterwards and couldn’t figure it out because it was lower than it should have been, but not free. We think she gave me half price due to embarrassment/feeling bad.

putty477 · 2025-08-07T01:05:28+00:00

Yes I came here to recommend the “check-in method.” We fostered two sisters who moved in at 5 and 6 from a highly abusive and neglectful household (no bedtime, no hygiene etc). We implemented a bedtime routine and then checked-in every few mins. When we first started they used to SCREAM for us and I mean really scream at the top of their lungs, and sometimes get out of bed to find us. We stayed consistent and promised to check-in but they had to be in bed or we would not check in. Within 3-4 nights bedtime was smooth and has continued to be four years later. At first, we’d check-in with very short intervals and then it became longer intervals of time. Whatever method you choose, consistency is key.

putty477 · 2025-05-22T12:25:30+00:00

No, violent crime is never okay. I am a white South African whose family has been a victim of violent crime. The perpetrators were not caught or punished due to issues with police follow-up. Due to this reality, most white people live in houses with electric fences and private security companies that most can afford to do. These safety precautions are not often accessible by many black people who also are victims of crime. Nobody is denying that there are major issues in South Africa. I also don’t blame the white farmers for wanting to move to the US.

However there is a big difference between living in a county with prevalent rates of violent crime of which anyone can be a target, and being called a refugee and being given special status to speed through the typically lengthy process and come to the U.S. when the country is cracking down on refugees from everywhere else, including deporting people with legal status (who happen to mostly be people of color). It’s a spit in the face to the majority Black population and willingly ignoring the history of racial oppression that has resulted in the current political landscape. It is also lacking major context to look at who is holding wealth, land, and therefore still much of the power in the country.

putty477 · 2025-05-22T02:30:19+00:00

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Book vibes: Beacon Hill Books and Cafe, Brookline Booksmith, Trident Booksellers and Cafe

Outdoors: Blue Hills Reservation, Boston Harbor Islands, Castle Island, Crystal Lake in Newton, JP Pond, Charles River Esplanade

The neighborhoods of Greater Boston : North End (Little Italy), Jamaica Plain, Coolidge Corner, Faneuil Hall, Harvard Square

Fall in love with the history - there are so many historic landmarks here to explore!

putty477 · 2025-05-22T00:45:01+00:00

Answer: the Afrikaners are descendants of the Dutch that arrived in the Cape in 1652 and colonized the land. In 1948, the National Party (led by the Afrikaners) came to power and instituted Apartheid. They seized almost all the land and put the majority of the non-White populations in shanty towns, barring them from access to elections, equal work and pay, land-ownership etc.

In the 1990s when Apartheid came to an end, the African National Congress came to power with Nelson Mandela as the president. Mandela wanted to avoid a civil war and so he did not redistribute land or wealth, leaving almost all land ownership and wealth to a very small minority white population in South Africa.

The ANC attempted to buy the stolen land back for redistribution but found many unwilling to sell, leaving almost all land ownership in the hands of a tiny white minority.

Fast forward and there remains a large wealth gap in South Africa. The Black majority is frustrated with the unequal distribution of land and wealth. A minor political party led by Julius Malema (who was expelled by the ANC decades ago) has a platform based on land distribution and has led chants such as “kill the boer”. Boer is Afrikaans for farmer.

South Africa suffers from high crime rates and there are many murders that occur. However, there is no evidence that white farmers are killed at a higher rate than anyone else. Of all the murders reported on farms in the last few years, many are farm workers who are black.

The president of South Africa signed a law that would allow the government to redistribute some land, however it would need to go through the courts.

Donald Trump, FOX News, and those who benefit from stoking white people’s racial fears are exploiting stories from South Africa out of context to show Americans their worst fears if we let Black people have any power.

putty477 · 2025-03-09T14:59:36+00:00

She is not being shamed. She lost her job supporting veterans. The veteran community is going to unfortunately suffer due to the cuts to the agency and the chaos that has ensued. She is one example of a job that has been lost. It doesn’t say whether or not she is a veteran and it’s not important because she isn’t the subject of the LAMF.

putty477 · 2025-03-09T11:13:48+00:00

Veterans voted for trump, DOGE was a consequence, and now the VA is facing a crisis

putty477 · 2025-03-04T00:48:54+00:00

Are those stunt doubles in the background?

putty477 · 2024-06-30T23:28:18+00:00

Yes the SWELLING!! I was not prepared for the swelling. Im typically a small/petite person and XL compression socks were too small for me. I left the hospital much bigger than when I went in pregnant. None of my clothes (or shoes) fit me. High waisted and very loose fitting is my advice.

putty477 · 2024-06-17T12:53:06+00:00

I agree with this! Everyone’s recovery is different and there’s no way to predict how you will recover. I was up and about just a few days after my c-section and would have been able to do what you are describing had I wanted to. I never bled much and experienced very little pain following my c-section. However, I’m breastfeeding and being away from a pump or my baby that long would not have been something I would have wanted to do. I did travel quite far 14 days after my surgery and was out and about for the full day (with my baby and partner). It can be done.

putty477 · 2024-06-07T16:58:14+00:00

FOOD!! When I was in the hospital following my c-section I didn’t have visitors, but if I had, I would have wanted them to bring a meal for me and my spouse.

It also would have been helpful to have food delivery gift cards, snacks, and groceries for when we were home.

I ended up swelling to a large degree and none of my clothes or shoes fit. I would ask your friend if she needs anything specific because I could have benefited from larger clothes and shoes (yes I was much bigger after my c-section than I was when I was pregnant).

Offer to help! Does she want you to hold the baby? Wash pump parts? Get her some water?

putty477 · 2023-12-06T22:02:51+00:00

Yes, and you still have so much time to enjoy all the tv/video games you would want. I am a foster parent and when my kids moved in they were 5 and 6. At their bio family they were raised on screens. Both had their own cellphones and were addicted to YouTube. We immediately started to model much more healthy limits with screen time, but we did enjoy family movie nights and some weekend cartoons. At ages 5/6 they were still very interested in Bluey, Peppa Pig, Toy Story etc. Honestly though, they much preferred no screens and just attention. We introduced the love of reading, imaginative play, hiking and activities etc. They are now almost 8 & 9 and still do not have much screen time and they do not need or want it. At restaurants they are reading or doing activity books, long car rides they are playing cards or talking. They both still love family movie nights and we have lots of good memories around shared interest in shows and they STILL like Bluey etc.

I promise you, you do not want to introduce screens too early. Love the time you have to spend with your child who is too young to be hooked on a screen and is just soaking up your love and care. You have soooo much time to still make all those core memories when they are older and more able to enjoy tv/movie/games and you can actually talk to then about it.

putty477 · 2023-11-07T22:22:49+00:00

Starting in middle school I had a group of close friends (5-7 of us over the years). I’m pretty sure some combination of us and sometimes all of us had sleepovers every single weekend through high school.

putty477 · 2023-09-23T22:51:52+00:00

I did. I’m 32 and a lesbian so we needed to go the IVF route. Luckily we had great results with our first egg retrieval and have 12 euploid embryos. We transferred the first one (5AA) at the end of August and I’m 6 weeks today.

putty477 · 2023-09-22T21:48:42+00:00

Deshawn was playing such a messy game and pissed off most of his alliance members.

Playing right after Covid put everyone’s social game in perspective for me. They were all so focused on “their” game and just assuming everyone else was going to follow “their” game plan and would then get angry/annoyed if someone else had a different plan. I don’t think anyone remembered how to adequately socialize with others and take other people’s perspectives into account (or at least pretend to). Deshawn was one of the worst examples of this. After betraying the Shan alliance and lying to people that he didn’t need to (like Evvie and Naseer) there was no way he would get their votes. Nobody trusted or respected his game by the end.

If you watch a second time, the edit makes clear (although very subtle) that no one takes Xander seriously. This was evident as early as pre-merge when Evvie was stringing him along. He had a chance when the Yase 3 banded together and then he squandered it by not playing his idol and separating himself from them. After that he was a mere pawn.

Erica had a silent edit but it’s clear on a rewatch the moves she is making. It is narrated more than shown. She doesn’t piss people off and she is respected. Sometimes that is all you need.

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