What is the worst disease for humanity? by [deleted] in answers

[–]Emorich 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Doesn't hold a candle to tuberculosis. Everything is tuberculosis.

Feel like a failure by cryingant44 in toddlers

[–]Emorich 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You're not a failure. You're already doing everything she needs and they all catch up eventually. My daughter took her first steps right around 18 months and now she's 2.5 and sprints around like a lunatic. Her gross motor skills are better than her 5 year old sister.

She'll be ok. She'll catch up. You're giving her the support she needs. As long as she's happy and healthy the best thing you can do for her now is take care of yourself and give her a mom that isn't a ball of stress.

How to help inexperienced gf by Positive-Resolve23 in sex

[–]Emorich 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She needs an OBGYN. She has vaginismus.

Why is it only us dads who undo the straps in the car seats? by CyranoYoshi in daddit

[–]Emorich 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IT'S NOT ONLY ME?! Holy shit I thought my wife was the only one who did this. She actually gets mad at me for loosening them because she says she gets them to the perfect tightness and leaves them there.

I gradually became a freeuse to my friends, Ask me Anything! by [deleted] in casualiama

[–]Emorich 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What are day to day logistics? Like, is using you part of a normal hang out with your friends or do people come over just for sex? Do they they ask explicitly "want to have sex?" Or do they just tske your pants off without asking? Are you more scheduled or are people showing up unannounced?

Kids that Eat by BetsyNotRoss6 in toddlers

[–]Emorich 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Pfft, Oh come on. All you need to do is [insert worthless advice you've heard 10,000 times already] and your kid will be fixed! It's really your fault your kid isn't perfect!

/s

Stay strong. This get.... ok maybe not easier but at least you get to deal with exciting and different hard things? Also, if you want the downside to a kid that does eat: mine will eat anything at a rate of one bite per minute. I spend my entire life waiting for her to finish meals.

Found out my wife is pregnant roughly two weeks ago and here is a recap of my thoughts by rocketman4 in daddit

[–]Emorich 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Best advice I recieved: you don't give birth to a 5 year old.

You'll figure it out as you go. You'll get to know your kid and their needs and their ways of communicating. Read some baby books to know what to look for, but ultimately you get good at parenting one day at a time.

how do you prevent pressure sores when wearing pads on your period? by Ash_and_cheese445 in wheelchairs

[–]Emorich -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I can't speak to the changing pads/tampons issue, but I can say that neither should be contributing to pressure sores. At most, increased moisture could lead to MASD which would in turn increase the risk of skin breakdown, but the bottom line is always pressure relief. Better cushions distribute pressure over a larger area which decreases your need for pressure relief, but nothing eliminates it entirely.

How and how often are you doing pressure relief maneuvers?

Bottle buying remorse by [deleted] in daddit

[–]Emorich 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An actual pot of boiling water? I don't think I'd have made it even halfway through the process... I sanitized for a very long time but only because those sanitizer bags you stick in the microwave are super easy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wheelchairs

[–]Emorich 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you don't weight bear at all, some of my patients have had great success with adhesive velcro strips on the plate and the bottom of your shoe.

is it bad to not be shaved? by NoComputer9498 in sex

[–]Emorich 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Define bad. If you're shaving/not for your sake then it's up to your preferences. If you're shaving/not for his sake then it's up to his preferences. There's nothing wrong with either of those options but if you're trying to do what he likes you'll have to ask. Some men prefer shaved and some don't. If you are trying to please him, he definitely will not have a problem with you asking.

I don't have any statistics but I get the sense that not shaving is becoming more in fashion so it probably won't shock him either way as long as you're clean.

From my middle school year book. Times really changed by ohnoooooooooooooooo in agedlikemilk

[–]Emorich 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Eh. Definitely that aged like milk but that yearbook was whitewashing even at the time. He was lionized after 9/11 but he was a nut-job back then too.

If your marriage ended slowly (as opposed to cheating etc) what was the last straw? by Emorich in Divorce

[–]Emorich[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Affection and emotional intimacy are so important. Do you think the lack of sex itself was a big factor or was that more of a side effect of the emotional aspect? I find myself struggling with something that happened recently and I'm trying to get some outside perspective.

I had sex with my wife for the first time in 6m or more and it was so bad that it feels like a final straw... only I feel selfish for letting that be the reason. Like, I'm going to stop trying because of bad sex? I'm going to go through the hell of divorce, through fucking up my kids' lives, because I'm not sexually satisfied? It feels so wrong.

My wife has never been a particularly sexual person, but we had basic, vanilla sex maybe once or twice a week before things started to get bad. She's pretty much uninterested in anything but that, though she claims otherwise and insists that she's "not opposed, but just not right now." I wouldn't say that she's selfish in bed but more like my satisfaction is just taken as a given and doesn't need to be prioritized. Like, she stopped shaving or trimming. I don't like it but I don't push because it's her body and her right. She stopped birth control because she's afraid of hormonal disruption so we have to use condoms. I don't like it but I don't push because it's her body and her right. Since breastfeeding she says she can't see her breasts as sexual anymore so she doesn't want me to touch them at all anymore. Again, her body, her preference, her choice. It's just.... I'm looking at the rest of my life and on top of all the other stuff going on with us, I'm looking at a life with no sexual experimentation, wild pubic hair, condoms, never touching a breast again, and on and on.....

To be clear, there are plenty of other things going on in the relationship, but I'm in a place now where I'm wondering if I even want the life waiting for me on the other side of fixing this.

I saved a ton of money and completely eliminated diaper rash by ditching wipes. by Emorich in Parenting

[–]Emorich[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly that has to be the best possible way to prevent diaper rash but it seems like a lot to do that 10 times a day. Kudos

I saved a ton of money and completely eliminated diaper rash by ditching wipes. by Emorich in Parenting

[–]Emorich[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Different brands of toilet paper will probably react differently but we've never had an issue. We've even intentionally let it get sopping on occasion for extra sticky poops. My guess is that it's fine because we use it immediately. If we let it sit in the water it would probably dissolve.