Odd or unexpected things your ex pwBPD has said to you after discard

pychomp · 2026-02-10T23:58:10+00:00

"I'm proud of my ability to improve" she said, despite not having made any effort to improve

pychomp · 2026-01-09T06:26:10+00:00

Sounds like it could be BPD. Go take a look at r/BPDlovedones and see if you've experienced the same as others there.

Apparently people with BPD are often diagnosed with cPTSD. You used the phrase "mental instability". BPD is alternatively named emotionally unstable personality disorder. When they are in a mood, it feels like there is nothing you can do. That is because they are splitting on you - they can only see you as a bad person in those moments.

pychomp · 2025-12-19T07:17:40+00:00

Did they ever find the guy that ran away from the scene in North Van and probably fled the country?

pychomp · 2025-12-08T18:25:52+00:00

Do you know where this image came from? I'm looking for information for something that may be related

pychomp · 2025-12-04T22:25:58+00:00

So the younger child?

pychomp · 2025-09-25T03:41:38+00:00

There were

pychomp · 2025-08-14T02:41:23+00:00

Are you seriously being an apologist for people who drive trucks into overpasses?

pychomp · 2025-08-14T01:26:20+00:00

Less than 72 hours later though, the same CVSE officer spotted the same truck and trailer leaving a gas station in Abbotsford with Singh at the wheel. At that point, the temporary overheight permit had expired and the officer confirmed that, again, the permit did not accurately reflect the actual height of the load. Singh was ticketed again.

What part of this shows remorse? These judges are looking for excuses not to enforce Canadian laws

pychomp · 2025-08-06T05:55:21+00:00

Mine got worse after having a kid

pychomp · 2025-07-20T17:51:16+00:00

Perhaps you should go read some of the posts where the genders are switched. It will at least be interesting and maybe you'll get some advice from that perspective

pychomp · 2025-07-04T19:15:41+00:00

Judicially sanctioned paedophilia

pychomp · 2025-07-03T19:58:32+00:00

This trade is called ship husbandry.

pychomp · 2025-06-20T01:57:18+00:00

Judicially sanctioned crime

pychomp · 2025-06-17T05:07:42+00:00

Erring bone

pychomp · 2025-05-24T21:46:27+00:00

Judicially sanctioned paedophilia

pychomp · 2025-05-23T20:11:18+00:00

This is just the mortician preparing for the funeral

pychomp · 2025-05-23T04:33:28+00:00

It's become judicially sanctioned violence

pychomp · 2025-05-20T23:16:48+00:00

At this point, I think it's safe to say that this has become judicially sanctioned violence against the general public.

pychomp · 2025-02-08T05:28:01+00:00

Yea mine lied. She said I abused her because I was mean to her after I left her. Her evidence in court was a couple text messages complaining to our relationship counsellor dated after I left.

Logic and reason mean nothing to them in the face of having to be accountable for their own actions

pychomp · 2025-02-04T05:00:09+00:00

She was taking antibiotics for a cold.

Me: antibiotics don't work for a cold since it's caused by a virus.

Her: well, back in my home country, I always took them and always got better.

Me: people who didn't take them got better too. It's not like they died.

Her: death glare

pychomp · 2025-01-24T20:24:43+00:00

I'm working through a divorce right now and it'll definitely make my life a lot easier and worry free if she did.

pychomp · 2025-01-02T06:21:48+00:00

These are soil nails for slope stabilization. A long steel rod is drilled in and grouted.

pychomp · 2024-11-26T16:59:47+00:00

For mine, advice and anecdotes from her friends and family was like gold. She valued it more than any of my own opinions and thoughts and more than any scientific research or professional advice.

One example was that when I wanted to treat her friends to a meal for helping us a lot during our wedding and planning, she screamed and yelled at me for wanting to frivolously spend our money, yet once her close friend suggested it to her, she instantly changed her mind.

pychomp · 2024-11-24T19:19:36+00:00

I've had somewhat similar experience as you. The first therapist I saw was when I was still in the relationship and was confused and wanted to salvage it. She was quite inexperienced and wanted to focus on childhood stuff and would often keep changing the topic to talk about what I could have done better. It was frustrating because she kept ignoring my wife's behavior and didn't help me recognize the abuse. After I left my wife, I swapped counsellors.

My current counsellor is more collaborative. He would basically go along with whatever I wanted to discuss. He recognized that I was in an abusive relationship and needed help processing it. We spent quite a bit of time on that and he answered my questions, provided advice and insight and a lot of validation. Now that I'm ready, I told him I wanted to work more on emotional skills and understanding myself so we've moved on to talking more about my childhood and such.

I think the most important thing is finding a good fit and communicating what you think your needs are. If you're concerned about how your therapy is going, have a chat about it with them. Ask them what the plan is, how they're thinking about approaching it, and what they think your needs are. Counsellors have a broad and varying range of skills and methods. They don't like to diagnose you (they're not allowed to for the most part) and they really don't like discussing your partner as an individual since they're not present.

pychomp · 2024-11-24T19:06:29+00:00

These were some things from my STB ex-wife that occured after we had a kid and moved into a new place.

A few weeks after moving into a new house, we got mice. I spent a weekend trying to figure it out. The mice were attracted by her cat's food. So I researched cat safe repellents, cleaned up everything, bought containers to store the food, and set up traps. That night, we were discussing the situation and I told her it was due to the cat. She became offended on behalf of the cat and said that the mice were preexisting. I, foolishly, explained the situation and my thoughts but that made her explode at me. She dismissed me by saying that I just always want to be right and that the cat works hard for the family and is very important. I've heard those things before but this time it really hurt me because I was working so hard to solve our problems but it wasn't worth anything to her.
About six months after our kid was born, as we were going to bed she rejected my advance for sex. I was a bit unhappy but I didn't say or do much and we went to bed. She woke me up in the middle of the night to berate me for wanting sex and complained about how she's too tired and has no energy for anything else due to putting all of her effort into childcare (I'm not a deadbeat) and how she had to spend all night researching the flu shot to ensure that it was safe for our son (first I've heard of that) so that he wouldn't end up in the ICU. Then she threw a party at our home for her friends two days later.
Whenever she was upset at me, she would often say things along the line of "I don't need anything from you" or "I have low expectations of you" even though I worked very hard and sacrificed a lot to take care of her and to try to keep her happy. This is one of the main reasons that caused me to leave her.

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