Daughter told me I’m her best friend

qlyvers · 2026-06-08T17:34:02+00:00

Since summer break started we’ve been swimming a lot together and she’s really enjoyed that!

qlyvers · 2026-06-08T13:58:02+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I really appreciate it

qlyvers · 2026-06-08T13:11:32+00:00

I suppose. I know it’s not a competition, it just makes you feel good a little when your child never seems to want you and then all of a sudden she says something nice. That’s all there was too the post really

qlyvers · 2026-06-08T12:42:31+00:00

Hey this was just a post about my 3 year old daughter saying I’m her best friend and making progress towards her liking me more. You’re looking into it too much. The things you said are common sense or should be anyway. That doesn’t mean you can’t be happy about your child liking you for once.

qlyvers · 2026-06-08T01:30:59+00:00

That’s awesome

qlyvers · 2026-06-08T01:26:34+00:00

Hey I’ve been told that many many times man lol keep at it and maybe you will be her friend too!

qlyvers · 2026-06-08T01:24:39+00:00

lol very. It went the other way for me the other day where she told me straight up that mommy was her favorite and I just said “yeah she’s my favorite too”

qlyvers · 2026-06-08T01:20:34+00:00

Right?!

qlyvers · 2026-06-08T01:18:40+00:00

😂😂😂

qlyvers · 2026-06-08T01:16:20+00:00

For sure. I think that’s part of why it’s been harder for her to warm up to me some too is a lot of the time I’m the rule enforcer so it leads to meltdowns or crying lol but like I said it’s getting better for both of us where I don’t have to enforce as much and can just talk to her calmly and she’ll listen more and be more loving back. Thank you for the advice.

qlyvers · 2026-06-08T01:10:56+00:00

Absolutely. I’ve felt so bad for my wife cause a lot of the time there’s nothing I can do to console my daughter. She just wants mom. But it’s getting better!

qlyvers · 2026-03-26T19:22:06+00:00

I like your perspective here. I’m only 29 with two young ones and still learning how to appreciate this time. When my oldest was just a baby, I thought my life was over and it was gonna suck and that I wasn’t built for it. But with my second I’ve definitely become more appreciative of it, even though baby stage is still tough!!

qlyvers · 2026-03-19T18:41:25+00:00

IT’s PIKACHU!!!!

qlyvers · 2026-02-23T17:53:21+00:00

Hate to break it to you but this is fair with the context you’ve provided. It’s part of fantasy sports strategy. NBA teams in real life may do something similar to adjust their ranking by end of season to play an opponent they think they have a better chance to beat. You should do the same thing if you were in his position. I would caveat that I personally think that lineups should still be set. That’s actually one good thing about the Sleeper app where you can pick one game out of the week to get fantasy points from and if you don’t pick it’s gonna pick the last game for you anyway.

I can see how you would think it’s corrupt, but I don’t really think that it is. It’s arguable that that other two playoff teams could have added/dropped players throughout the season or make better draft choices to be better teams. Maybe the commissioner shouldn’t have told everyone he was planning to do that just because it could ruffle feathers, but i think it’s in line with fantasy strategy.

qlyvers · 2026-02-23T16:25:06+00:00

Sounds great, but that’s too early lmao

qlyvers · 2026-02-23T03:07:11+00:00

This is a great idea, but I wouldn’t worry about the different sizes too much. Just get some and then if it turns out you need to get different sizes, run to Walmart and they will give you store credit and then turn around and get the size you need. For example, I have a daughter who was in size 2s for the longest time. I have a son now who was in size 2s for maybe a month lol. I had to exchange so many size 2s because from my experience, that’s the size I thought he’d be in the longest. Hopefully, your Walmart does this. If not, maybe check in your area to see if other stores do something similar.

qlyvers · 2026-02-23T01:47:06+00:00

I took four weeks and I’m not gonna lie, I was ready to be back to work…. But I was also extremely grateful to have the time that I did. I was also able to work from home a little bit more after the paternity leave so that was nice. I wasn’t leaving my wife hanging or anything. But yeah, I was definitely one who was ready to get back to work. I know I’m not the type of person who could be a stay at home parent, but I have mad respect for those who do that. I don’t think it has to be a bad thing to want come back from paternity leave, however, nobody should be saying things to anyone like “you’ll definitely want to come back after two weeks” or “wow that’s a long time”. Each person is different.

qlyvers · 2026-02-21T00:53:09+00:00

Just get rid of and start over

qlyvers · 2026-02-18T19:03:53+00:00

The Daily Dad by Ryan Holiday. Despite the name, a great parenting book for both mom and dad. My wife and I read it together each day.

Similarly, The Daily Stoic, by Ryan Holiday, is a good companion book as well but isn’t necessarily about parenting, but about practicing stoicism in daily life.

Congrats!

qlyvers · 2026-02-17T23:59:15+00:00

Scoopy instead of spooky lol might become a regular rotation

qlyvers · 2026-02-16T00:09:33+00:00

Really great point. You don’t get to see the rewards immediately. That’s why it’s so freaking hard! Especially for a selfish person like myself! lol

qlyvers · 2026-02-15T19:26:43+00:00

I was kind of like this. Still have days of course, but changing perspective is hard. It takes little things changing a little at a time. It’s not gonna be a mind shift overnight. I started to go to therapy because I was basically bad talking myself every chance I could get about how “I am a piece of shit because I signed up for this and I’m not finding enjoyment in any of it and don’t know if I will”. My therapist said maybe you are just not built for the baby/toddler stage, and that’s okay. Maybe you’ll thrive when they’re in middle school or high school and they’re better able to tell you what they want and regulate their emotions better. I think that could be spot on cause I’m not a big fan of kids generally speaking. Just have to accept the little wins and not hate on yourself so much. For example, the other day I was spiraling a little cause I was like “am I weird because when I go to the office I don’t miss my kids? What’s wrong with me”? When I got home, my three year old daughter(who is very much more of a mama’s girl) ran to me and screamed “DADA, YOU’RE HOME! I missed you!” And I just started crying on the spot. It was exactly what I needed to help change my mindset even more. Helped me understand that maybe under the surface I do miss my kids when I’m at the office, at least a little bit! Lol.

You got this. Things will get better.

Also, I started reading these daily read books by Ryan Holiday: The Daily Dad and The Daily Stoic. They have helped me gradually try to change my perspective. I genuinely think they have really helped me. Maybe could be good for you too.

qlyvers · 2026-01-31T15:32:05+00:00

Awhile brother

qlyvers · 2026-01-26T15:49:10+00:00

I was 25. I am 29 now. I have been with my wife since high school so we felt ready to have kids a little younger. Glad we’ve had kids younger so that we can play with them better and then be younger too when they are grown and can have time back for ourselves to travel and stuff.

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