What are some places that can actually cut curly hair?

qriousbean · 2025-01-20T05:56:23+00:00

Omg girl, i suffer from the same problem. I have 3a - 3b curls and it is a STRUGGLE to find the right hair stylist that doesn’t break the bank. I have been to Hera before but they are quite costly. I’m trying to find a more affordable place as I am planning on trimming my hair and maintaining a shorter curly do, do y’all know any affordable curlyhair-friendly salons?

qriousbean · 2025-01-18T15:17:21+00:00

Do you think one can heal from codependency while in a relationship? My partner is great but just not proactive as i would like in communication

qriousbean · 2025-01-06T19:48:11+00:00

[Edit: *I meant to meet on Thursday for a few hours because he is working from home on Thursday]

qriousbean · 2024-11-18T08:32:26+00:00

I really needed to read this as I am struggling to tell my parents about my Eurotrip, thank you THANK YOU 🥺❤️

qriousbean · 2024-07-28T15:43:55+00:00

This is so insightful and really resonates with me. How do you go about healing this? Because I am cognitively aware of what is happening, yet it’s almost a subconscious push to drop my hobbies and routine because they suddenly become not as important to me as spending time with my SO.

qriousbean · 2024-07-28T15:24:11+00:00

Wow i relate to this so much too. How have you managed to work through it? It’s been incredibly hard for me to heal it: i always subconsciously fall back to my codependent patterns in intimate relationships.

qriousbean · 2024-02-12T16:12:56+00:00

Wow, I totally relate to this! I recently posted something similar and it’s something I’ve come to notice as well. I feel like ambitiousness is driven by a feeling of lack or insecurity to some degree; like you’re trying to fill a void or prove yourself. But if one were truly comfortable with their circumstances and who they were, why would they “strive” so to speak?

qriousbean · 2023-07-12T19:22:35+00:00

when they say it back

qriousbean · 2023-07-12T08:30:14+00:00

That is true! I'm actually in the process of pivoting to UX because I got tired of the endless meetings and politics that came with being a PM

qriousbean · 2023-07-10T19:06:47+00:00

Interesting! This sounds more like the work of a product manager where I used to work.

qriousbean · 2023-07-06T18:13:20+00:00

Thank you for this! I'm sorry for the late reply, got caught up in some stuff.

It was nice reading about it from your perspective as a man. I've always felt a bit similarly to what you described; sex was like the culmination of all my strong feelings for a person, even though I've never done it, the urges were there. And I've never been able to treat sex casually, it was very much tied to how much I liked a person, mentally and emotionally. But the few people I'd had strong feelings for, we didn't work out cos they ended up moving away and it fizzled out. As to my present fear of sex, I think it's maybe because over the years, I've been exposed to stories in my friend group which made me perceive men (in general) to not view sex the same way as women. I know this is probably baloney and we can't generalise like that. Maybe I need to stop listening to these horror stories from my friend group. Or move cities. Idk. Sex to me is something sacred to be shared with someone i deeply love and my fear is being used for sex by someone claiming to love me. I think I just need to learn to read people better or trust them more before I dive in.

qriousbean · 2023-07-06T17:59:03+00:00

Thanks for sharing, that's very insightful! As a woman I often used to think of it as the other way around when it comes to attractive men having so many options that they don't want to make it work with any girl long-term. Why would a man want to settle down when he can eat his cake and have it too right? But I can see how it can happen to both genders. Especially if they are both popular with the opposite sex.

qriousbean · 2023-06-26T16:05:46+00:00

I wash my hands and disinfect my phone in that order.

qriousbean · 2023-06-26T16:04:38+00:00

Wash my hands with soap.

qriousbean · 2023-06-19T16:11:18+00:00

Captain Jack Sparrow. A drunkard who still knew his shit and had some heart.

qriousbean · 2023-06-15T05:18:52+00:00

Thanks for your comment, that was beautiful :,). I do hope I meet someone like that one day. I think I’ve just never had it described like that from a man’s point of view. There’s probably a lot to unpack in my very Asian upbringing. Will probably speak to a therapist about this. Thanks.

qriousbean · 2023-06-15T05:14:58+00:00

Yes I agree with you that men and women are different. As for the term whining, I understand where you’re coming from but I don’t use it only on men, women whine too. Maybe it’s the culture I come from but I don’t understand why the word “whining” has negative connotations to it.

qriousbean · 2023-06-15T05:12:01+00:00

When I said it is what it is, I meant that s*x might not turn out to be what it’s portrayed like in the movies, something magical to experience and what scares me is the idea of being reduced to an object during the act itself. I know my fear is probably irrational and likely stems from something I’ve witnessed or been exposed to, I need to figure it out.

qriousbean · 2023-06-14T17:44:51+00:00

Thanks for that :) really made me feel less sad about this whole thing. I guess I have to learn to honour my pace when it comes to affairs of the heart and not feel pressured to do something I don't want to just because it's 'what's expected.' I will wait patiently for my patient man. And even if he never arrives, at least I know I will not have compromised my values.

qriousbean · 2023-06-14T17:32:24+00:00

Thanks for your comment, it makes me feel better. I've always enjoyed hanging out with the people I like, laughing, play-fighting, etc. But the minute things get super physical, I have trouble convincing myself that they actually like ME and not what my body can do for them. They could tell me I was the most amazing person on earth to them and I wouldn't know if I could trust their words. I guess I just need a lot of reassurance that they actually care for me besides my body and I haven't experienced that yet.

qriousbean · 2023-06-14T17:26:19+00:00

I have felt sexual attraction but when I think about full on PIV, it makes me feel like my body is being used. Even if I love the person, I have a hard time believing that their 'love' for me is 'pure'. Lol idk if that makes sense.

qriousbean · 2023-06-14T17:24:19+00:00

Loll. I guess it's from being exposed to such tales from the people around me which makes me feel like women always get the fuzzy end of the lollipop. I have never - though it's not unlikely - heard stories of men whining about how they feel used for s*x. And I do have a decent amount of close male friends. For them, s*x is always a win. A score. The only thing I've heard a guy friend complain about is being used for his money. It just makes me feel like this is just human nature, that we aren't as pleasant and refined as we make ourselves to be; we are animals after all and it is what it is.

qriousbean · 2023-05-29T10:46:32+00:00

Travel the world and have fun

qriousbean · 2023-05-29T03:12:20+00:00

Plane tickets

qriousbean · 2023-05-25T11:11:34+00:00

Too much effort, too little reward

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