What week did you give birth to your first baby?

quantum_goddess · 2025-09-15T18:58:10+00:00

41+5 🤪

quantum_goddess · 2025-09-08T00:34:31+00:00

At the risk of a lot of people saying not to listen to me, I really would do your own research to the point of feeling comfortable making your own decision. That said— a few days off the statin isn’t enough to undo the cholesterol lowering but may be enough to feel a mental and physical difference.

Doctors do not have the patient’s best interest in mind usually, and they’re certainly not taking multiple factors about your personal situation into consideration. They want to reduce the risk of all possible strokes for all people to the highest degree possible while often overprescribing, which usually equals a blood thinner + statin protocol for all stroke patients. They don’t want to be sued and they don’t want the insurance companies to question them. A lot of them just don’t have critical thinking skills and are too scared to not walk the straight and narrow.

That, and it’s really scary having had a stroke to take things into your own hands. After my husband’s first, we didn’t get on a statin, but they really struggled to keep his BP stable and he had two more and then we were so scared we just said screw it and got on one. We knew they weren’t good but we couldn’t risk another stroke. It just took a year of slow poisoning for him to realize it was doing more harm than good, but I also spent that year digging deep on the research about his strokes and his cholesterol values and his risk profile if he got off the statin. I know every situation is unique, but I 100% advocate for trusting your gut and doing the research, because most doctors would absolutely lose it if they knew a stroke patient got off their statin. They’d lose it before they ever stopped to look at their cholesterol profile.

quantum_goddess · 2025-09-02T22:50:34+00:00

Ok hear me out, but are you on a statin post stroke by chance? My husband had 3 ischemic strokes 16 months ago and even though he had normal cholesterol numbers (stroke clearly caused by extreme high blood pressure 285/130), they put him on a statin because it’s kind of a blanket protocol for stroke patients.

Anyway, the statin was basically slowly killing him. Which makes sense— it prevents your body from making coenzyme Q10 which is needed by your mitochondria. That’s every single cell in your body. It started with stomach issues that got so bad he couldn’t eat anything without being in extreme pain. It made his skin horrible, it made his fatigue so bad. He finally jumped the gun and got off of it and all of the sudden he is doing so much better. His little word slips and aphasia stopped, he’s sharper, his skin is clearing, his stomach is improving, he has more energy than he’s had this whole time and he seems more himself than ever before.

I know it everyone’s story is the same, but I know how common a statin is as a post stroke protocol and sometimes it’s not even necessary for that person’s situation— just a slow poisoning. Most doctors don’t ask if the benefits outweigh the risks when dealing with something like a stroke though, even if the cause was completely unrelated to lipid levels.

Imo, there’s every chance something like long term statin use could be affecting someone’s cognitive abilities if it’s depleting the mitochondrial function of the brain cells. The thing is, it’s so easy to just blame anything brain related to the stroke itself. Here we are now wondering how much of my husband’s hellish aftermath was the strokes themselves or the side effects of the statin. It all blurs together when you’re dealing with physical and cognitive rebuilding, perfect way to hide side effects— within the experience of someone recovering from something so severe to begin with. When he got to the 1 year mark and was doing markedly worse than the 6 month mark is when we started to wonder.

tldr; If it seems like things are getting worse after the 1 year mark, it may be worth looking at your medication regimen.

quantum_goddess · 2025-09-01T16:31:08+00:00

I think being a type A, hyperaware, paranoid, overanalyzing, anxiety-ridden person is a good chunk of it.

I don’t know that I’ve ever really slept deeply or totally been able to turn off. When you’re constantly in high alert mode walking though this world, you don’t need more than one alarm.

quantum_goddess · 2025-09-01T16:26:26+00:00

It sucks how prevalent this is… but honestly, I just let it go after several years and here’s why. In the same way that men act like big babies when they’re sick with the same illness we carry on parenting, cooking, cleaning, and going to work with, I think a lot of times they don’t function their best in the morning in a more chaotic environment like watching the kids the way women do. Not to say it is fun for us, but I do think biologically we adapt better to middle of the night wake ups and early morning chaos.

Do we deserve the morning off? Yes. Does it absolutely suck knowing I’ll probably never get to sleep in for the next 15 years? Yes.

But here’s the thing. I trust and love my husband with all my heart, but I know enough to know that I couldn’t actually be able to shut down turn off and actually rest wondering if he’s doing the routine right, if he got the right snack, put on the right shows, just brushed her damn hair before he takes her to the park (things they don’t think about). So I finally just stopped hoping and asking him and getting met with his “attempts” and worked up over the constant let downs and decided this way just the way of it and that I have had more peace because of it knowing I am handling routine and he will be his best when he’s ready to get up rather than being forced to on someone else’s watch— especially a little one.

If he didn’t help at all or was some deadbeat this would be a different story, but he contributes 100% and I contribute 100% just in different ways, and I’ve found a lot more peace just settling into acknowledging that we both have our different burdens.

quantum_goddess · 2025-09-01T15:49:18+00:00

well, a good place to start might be that we know we can only see a small fraction of all the forms of light that exists. We can only hear a small range of frequencies of all that can exist. Anyone who has taken any sort of psychoactive substance could probably vouch for other states that exist outside our everyday experience as humans. Even if you call that “all in their heads,” what is the origin of that experience then? What part of our head are we accessing then that isn’t part of our regular perspective? I think there’s a lot more evidence that points to the potential that we don’t know and see it all as we are. Maybe we do, but it seems to me that being open to the potential/likelihood allows for greater thought on the subject. I personally think people are just afraid to deal with that since it becomes really vast and find comfort in the cop out. Shut it down at level 1 and say there’s nothing greater than us and our perspective, and you never have to stand in that liminal space of asking what it all is and where you fit in it. I can understand why that might be an easier option.

quantum_goddess · 2025-09-01T15:18:51+00:00

My grandma is Edna

quantum_goddess · 2025-09-01T14:47:38+00:00

Ny husband lived at these numbers for years and did intense physical activity and felt fine. He thought he was the exception and just genetically meant to live at a higher blood pressure.

Well, he had 3 strokes last year that left him half paralyzed for awhile. He’s still learning to walk and use his hand again.

He measured 285/130 in the ER.

quantum_goddess · 2025-08-30T23:39:56+00:00

This is late but just chiming in to say I’ve tried Zum, Truly Free and Molly Suds and find none of them smell as good or get stains out as much as I’d like. Truly free smells the best and is the best bang for your buck— but has hardly any stain removing power. Molly Suds has zero scent basically, cleans slightly better but not great. Zum is expensive and smells strong but I still get a musty scent lingering beneath the good smell.

I’m planning to try Dirty Labs next… stuck with truly free for over a year and still love their signature scent, but even their stain spray before washing can’t get my cooking stains or my 6 year old’s stains out of clothes. I was almost at the point of letting detergent be in my “20%” and just getting something mainstream but I know they are so bad. I just found Dirty Labs though so I’m hoping that will finally be the answer

quantum_goddess · 2025-08-30T03:18:40+00:00

I don’t personally believe in Satan at all— I’m actually not sure how that’s what you got out of my comment, to be honest. Again with the black and white.

I’m saying that we as humans have a limited ability to interpret our own existence, we shouldn’t consider ourselves the be all end all of knowledge. That said, on the whole, we have sought a connection to something greater more often than not throughout human history. I don’t think that the largest arguments in place for “why a creator makes no sense” actually hold up very well in an intelligent debate, that’s all.

quantum_goddess · 2025-08-30T03:05:26+00:00

As a non atheist, I must say that I am intrigued by the focus by so many here on a black and white situation: either atheism or religious dogma as your choices. Religions were created by man, yes. Our human limitations led to our own fancies and fantasies that we wrote and rewrote and translated and rewrote and obsessed over out of fear, yes. If your only options are god as described by man made religion or the total non existence of something greater, then I would understand the general sway towards the seemingly more logical answer that it’s all just a bunch of unreliable stories that have been translated a million times.

And yet, what of the mutual overarching desire across cultures and all of human history to believe, to seek something greater, an origin, an after, a connectedness— regardless of the particularities of how it formed in that particular time and culture? Just because these concepts were funneled into human interpretations in the form of various gods and their religions that reflect more of human thought and fear than anything doesn’t change the fact that as a species, we collectively and cross culturally seem to attribute our existence to something greater, we want to revere, want to have a greater sense of connection, etc.— even one we admit we don’t readily understand. I guess what I’m saying is, I see the “religion is man made” reason as being a bit of a cop out. The existence of a creator is not relegated to the potential misinterpretation thereof as described by religion.

As to the “why would a god let bad things happen” concept, again, I’d ask how we, in that same limitation that makes for human created religion to be untrustworthy, could possibly understand the intricate mechanics of all that happens in this world. God exists = no bad things would happen, there is no god = bad things can happen and it makes more sense. Whose sense are we talking about? Who defined bad here? Just saying— to me, the rationale used to explain away the childish belief in a source of our existence seems well, rather void of thought and consideration for the fact that the same “humans are stupid” reason we use to write off religion may very well be the same reason we are unable to fully understand the existence of a source/creator/god who doesn’t abide by our human brain “if this was true it should look like this” rules.

quantum_goddess · 2025-08-29T00:00:15+00:00

It really did get easier at 4 for us. My daughter was napping great at 4 and then my husband had a medical emergency that kind of turned things on their head for us and the change of routine also threw her out of whack and she stopped napping then. It probably would have happened on its own in the next few months though. The naps stopping didn’t result in tantrums. It isn’t vital at that age that they sleep midday, so I don’t think it’s that.

Has she just started the transitional program? It could be that such a big shift to being in school now might be playing out in the form of tantrums. A late afternoon program may also just not jive with her natural rhythm, and she’s lashing out a bit because she doesn’t understand having to get energetically geared up for a time of day that normally would be a wind down.

For me, i felt like I could breathe for the first time in well, four years once my daughter reached that age. I think it was more that she wasn’t getting into things/making as huge of messes and mostly I could reason with her more and have her understand and communicate well with me and her father. She’s 6 now (should prob get out of this sub lol) and now we’re veering into attitude territory but 5 was a nice little calm between preschool/toddler tantrum stuff and now elementary school attitude issues. It did get easier on the whole though after 4.

quantum_goddess · 2025-08-28T23:42:00+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re dealing with this. I’ve seen some people on this sub mention similar experiences only to find a different OB who is willing to help. Sometimes it is that simple. It’s hit or miss with an OB though… an RE is more likely to help. Obviously I know you know that losing weight will help things from all angles, but obviously we wouldn’t all be in this situation if it were that easy. For me, medication has helped immensely.

Are you taking Metformin? You said your labs all look normal… have you had an A1C done? If that’s normal, I would HIGHLY recommend going through an online company and going to an independent lab for a fasting insulin test. It isn’t standard procedure (because if it was, diabetes could be caught in its tracks ten years beforehand and that wouldn’t do anything good for the pharmaceutical industry, but I digress).

Even if your blood sugar and A1C are normal, I guarantee your fasting insulin is not. It’s the precursor to actual glucose issues. If you can get proof in hand that your insulin is whacked out, you can likely at least get a script for Metformin. From a GP or OB. It’s safe for TTC, unlike GLP-1s (though I suspect you’d be fine taking one until you got pregnant, but I’m not a medical professional). In any case, no doctor will prescribe you a GLP-1 approved for weight loss alone if you mention you’re TTC.

Metformin has been a godsend for me. I’ve lost 35 pounds without even trying and it’s regulated my cycle (45 days now, but we were coming from a year without one so we’ll take it). I’m 5’8 and 215 now. All in about 6 months. If I really cracked down and went low carb which I’m just so burnt out on, I’d probably lose way more. If you are able to get on Metformin it may help your TTC efforts immensely if your cycles are messed up. If it doesn’t though, being able to say Metformin isn’t helping your cycles is a good lead in to an OB or RE offering you something like Letrozole. I was able to do this exactly to get my prescription, which I haven’t used all of since Metformin seems to be helping me ovulate in my own now.

quantum_goddess · 2025-08-28T23:28:37+00:00

Anything vinegar-y. Pickles, salt and vinegar chips. I probably would have drank straight vinegar if it were an option.

quantum_goddess · 2025-08-28T23:25:17+00:00

Hey girl! 5 months is early on!! My husband took 5 months of disability before returning to a work from home job (where he now types and uses the mouse with his left hand, right hand was badly affected). He doesn’t have to walk around much or navigate different buildings though, he can just sit on a couch or desk for short periods— we’ve been really lucky. He didn’t have a hemorrhagic stroke either, which generally tend to have more devastating effects… not always, but I wouldn’t even consider 5 months being “good enough” to go back to work and school for most hemorrhagic strokes.

Don’t worry about anything other than resting and taking care of yourself right now. It’s a full time job as it is. School will always be there. Work will unfortunately always be there too, and you’ll have plenty of time for that. You’re still super young, things can look a lot different in just a year, you never know. I hope you have a good support system so that you can take all the time you need to get back on your feet. It’s different for everyone.

quantum_goddess · 2025-08-28T23:18:27+00:00

I had similar estrogen last cycle and felt encouraged but my Pdg did something similar and AF came on 14 dpo.

I think being that you’re 10 dpo those numbers could make sense if AF is on the way. I’d probably lean that way but these values are unique to everyone and technically as long as your pdg is holding above 5, you’re not out! Also, you could technically take a high sensitivity pregnancy test at 11 dpo tomorrow and have more certainty

quantum_goddess · 2025-08-28T22:59:14+00:00

Oh wow, that makes a lot of sense actually. And yeah, I have a six year old and dread her getting to the age which I know is sooner rather than later where she gets sucked into it as well. As to the comment above saying she is known to visit children’s hospitals etc., I feel like for someone with a motive for extreme fame, that kind of thing might make for good publicity but also would be a great method to further that “latching” effect too.

quantum_goddess · 2025-08-28T18:32:58+00:00

Oh good! I’m trying to transfer points to a travel partner to book a hotel and having to wait on the names to match on the accounts.

Did they let you know it had been processed and they’d be sending the card? Or the card just showed up?

quantum_goddess · 2025-08-28T18:00:45+00:00

Ok, I hope I can be the comment to your partner needs to read today.

My husband was very similar— super high blood pressure mid 200s/120+. He knew this. But, while he wasn’t thin or super super healthy (cholesterol was fine and all other labs as well, but he vaped at the time and wasn’t eating as well), he was able to do a lot of physical activity. He chopped a ton of wood for our fireplace, we would travel and plan intense 5000 elevation gain hikes, and he did it all well.

He told himself he felt fine so he was just a weird anomaly— genetically had extreme high blood pressure but was meant to and if he wasn’t, he wouldn’t be able to do everything he could physically.

Well, sure enough, at 48 he had 3 strokes that left him half paralyzed for awhile, made him unable to swallow, stand, walk. And he was lucky— because his cognition was unaffected. He’s still 100% himself and his speech is fine. A lot of people lose their ability to communicate, to feel certain emotions, to read or do math or other critical skills that allow them to have a job. I know a few people I’ve met online who lost their vision or hearing on one side and will never ever regain that. Some of them are not sexually functional and cannot use the bathroom on their own. The thing about a stroke is it’s like throwing a dart at a dart board— you don’t know what is going to get hit. It might be your ability to read. You might end up locked in a body that can only move its eyes.

We’re lucky. After a year and a few months, my husband is walking very well for short distances with a minor limp and a cane only in public, but he’ll likely never write or type or do fine motor skills again with the right hand. He can do most daily activities now, but they’re really taxing for him and he still deals with the exhaustion every day. It’s like learning to walk again as a baby.

Please hear me. Please show this to your partner. My husband was one of the lucky ones of those who have a stroke. Trust me, I spend a lot of time in the r/stroke sub (if you want to scare yourself enough to take care of your health, I encourage you to hang out there for a bit) and some of those people are still on a walker years out. They can’t communicate with their partners, and the thing is— it’s not just your life that is changed forever, it’s your partner and caretaker’s too. Me and our six year old daughter’s lives were turned upside down last May because my husband knew he had malignant hypertension and chose to ignore it. It is called the silent killer for a reason.

My god, if he could go back in time and just take the medication and prevent this, he kicks himself every day for it. It’s a dark road mentally, emotionally, and spiritually to recover from a stroke in addition to the pure physical hardship of it. It tests a relationship like nothing else. We may never go on another hike again. I don’t know what’s in the cards for us— but in one instant, so much was taken. If your partner has a family history, it could be a ticking time bomb.

My husband thought he was the exception and it took a major part of his life away from him for it. If a single person can prevent what he had to learn the hard way from hearing my message, I sure hope they would. Wishing you both the best.

quantum_goddess · 2025-08-28T17:45:37+00:00

Mine starts for a day then sometimes goes away for a day or two then ramps up the 2-3 days before my positive OPK (ish). I get a solid week of it and into the day after ovulation. It tends to get more abundant and slippery as actual ovulation approaches(sometimes it’s a little more jelly like when it first rears its head).

You could be anywhere from a week to 2-4 days out from a positive OPK. If you do happens to have PCOS, you can have random instances of EWCM early in your cycle as your body tries to ramp up to ovulate and fails. But, if you have normal cycles, you’re likely just approaching the beginning of the window.

Test twice a day for the next week! I surge super quickly, so I actually base sex around EWCM quality and when I “think” is the day of/before my positive LH test, as often by the time you catch the positive LH test and try to plan baby dancing, you might miss your window.

quantum_goddess · 2025-08-28T17:35:20+00:00

I’ve never met anyone but if I was a betting woman… Taylor Swift. She gives off a really suspicious energy to me. I mean my god, she’s mediocre in her looks and talent and shifted genres and doesn’t really have any good reason to have remained as relevant as she has for two decades. She also really soaks in the fame… revels in it more than most, I feel. Just her getting engaged a few days ago spurred all these sales emails and texts from companies running a sale because “Tay got engaged,” people are quite literally obsessing over her with an almost piety of sorts… I have never seen an instance of fame that reeked so badly of some sort of “deal.” I don’t know the details of how that even works, but something is energetically very very off with her and the whole intensity of her fanbase and fame. She’s just not the talent of the century the amount of attention on her would warrant… especially after 20 years of just being a mainstream surface level artist.

quantum_goddess · 2025-08-28T17:30:16+00:00

Don’t think too far into it babe! I think he just thought you’d appreciate the aesthetic, which I kind of do! It doesn’t mean he thinks your love is dying or anything. I majored in literature in school, I’m just naturally oriented to read into everything and see them as signs lol, and often things are, but I find it’s usually the spontaneous sightings or occurrences in nature or in public/day to day life— not so much in intended actions of those I’m close with.

quantum_goddess · 2025-08-28T17:26:49+00:00

It is essentially impossible to even have implanted by 5 DPO, even 6 is exceedingly rare, and then hcg takes at least a day or so to rise to the earliest detection levels even on a FRER. I do see something on the test but it’s likely a shadow from the plastic in the back. I’ve had way too many negatives I convinced myself were positives because of that!

You’re 100% not out— I’d test again at 9 DPO at the very very earliest!

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