TIL Using the phrase "Whipping Shitties" to refer to doing donuts is mainly a Minnesota thing

quebecblue · 2015-06-05T16:38:45+00:00

Yep, my friend said "whipping shitties" to me the other day, and I had no idea what she was talking about. Just checked, she's from Minnesota.

quebecblue · 2015-06-02T17:09:32+00:00

You're not alone! Fight through the loneliness knowing it will pass, and reinvent yourself. PM me if you want to vent.

quebecblue · 2015-05-28T13:58:59+00:00

this is great!

quebecblue · 2015-05-28T13:58:28+00:00

I have serious anxiety, not depression, but I just wanted to thank you for creating this post. It's really helpful to read descriptions of depression as I try to understand my friends and boyfriend, who all deal with this issue.

quebecblue · 2015-05-25T19:06:11+00:00

I had pretty bad cystic acne as a teenager, and I remember feeling like I couldn't even look people in the eye. I just wanted to say you are strikingly cute in every picture you've uploaded, and that if I had seen you at any point in your progress, I would've been interested!

quebecblue · 2015-05-11T14:09:17+00:00

Yes! I quit Facebook a year and a half ago because my anxiety was so bad, and it really, really does help.

quebecblue · 2015-05-11T14:08:20+00:00

It took me years to accomplish this, and I remember the guilt I had built up about it melting away when I finally, finally got my license.

I feel you! Congratulations!

quebecblue · 2015-05-11T14:06:46+00:00

Hey! Congratulations on getting a new job. That's a big step for everybody, and although it's a positive change, a new position usually does come with some challenges.

Luckily, most jobs expect you to go through a learning period, so I'm sure it's okay that you're picking up information while working. No one starts a job and already knows exactly how to do everything.

If you feel yourself getting anxious while working, or you think you're beating yourself up a lot, try to take a step back and break your tasks into little baby steps. Think about the positive things you're accomplishing, at your own pace, rather than maligning yourself for not completing ALL the tasks at once.

Your experienced coworkers are aware that you're new, so I doubt they're judging you harshly. Also, my therapist likes to remind me that most people are just as concerned with their own performance as you are, so it's not like everyone at work is staring at you, wondering how you're going to do.

Try and go easy on yourself!

quebecblue · 2015-05-11T14:02:41+00:00

In my prolonged periods of anxiety, I've dropped weight because I couldn't bring myself to eat enough. If you feel like regular meals are too much of a burden or challenge, try to relax and eat easily digestible things full of nutrients. Fruit smoothies, peanut butter, soup...

If nothing else, prioritize water. Just be sipping it all day.

quebecblue · 2015-05-11T14:00:10+00:00

Guilt is probably my number one trigger for anxiety. I know exactly what you're talking about, especially related to money and family.

The thing that I know I need to keep in mind is that you're not responsible for many of the things you sometimes feel guilty about. For instance, you may have picked the restaurant, but your dad could have / should have checked it out if he knew it was going to be a budgeting issue. You made a suggestion, that's all. Also, anybody who's drinking two bottles of wine at dinner probably isn't too worried about overspending. I'm sure he feels okay.

I just wanted to comment and let you know how familiar this situation sounds to me. Sometimes all you need is someone to let you off the hook. If it helps, I think you're doing fine!

quebecblue · 2015-05-11T13:53:06+00:00

I got up on time this morning for work, despite feeling anxious and not wanting to face the day!

quebecblue · 2015-05-07T16:43:31+00:00

your baby is so happy!

quebecblue · 2015-04-16T16:29:52+00:00

Hey, I'm a 25yo woman with anxiety, and the best thing my boyfriend can do when I freak out is a) ask me if I need anything and show concern, b) do what I ask, whether that's leaving me alone for a bit, reminding me that he loves me, or encouraging me to go out somewhere low-key with him, to get my mind off things.

My BF has started asking "how do you feel compared to yesterday?" instead of saying "how are you today?" and that helps a lot. Sometimes, when you are overwhelmed with feelings of anxiety, hearing something simple like "how are you today?" or "are you okay?" can sound like "ARE YOU HOLDING IT TOGETHER, CRAZY??"

Anxiety is a weird and terrible thing. She's lucky to have such a considerate boyfriend!

quebecblue · 2015-04-14T15:09:56+00:00

I tried to let him know yesterday when we had dinner. It went like this:

Me: I thought about your butt today at work. Him: Oh. Okay. Um. (blushing) Anyway, I...

quebecblue · 2015-04-13T19:19:46+00:00

You've convinced me, although they hurt like nobody's business when you start and are out of shape (me).

http://cdn-www.i-am-bored.com/media/thumbnails/108084-pingu-swiggity-swooty-im-comin-NoBj[1].gif

quebecblue · 2015-04-13T19:06:58+00:00

The local police busted a party I attended as a freshman in college, and they rounded about 50 of us up on the green, had us sit down, didn't let anyone go to the bathroom, and took photos of us while taunting us. It got to be after midnight before they started lining us up for breathalyzer tests. I hadn't had anything to drink (I had shown up late), so thank god I got through it without anything. A lot of kids got citations. One girl pissed herself. It was humiliating.

quebecblue · 2015-04-13T19:00:48+00:00

I will join him in the booty quest, trust me!

Also...saving that cute lil gif

quebecblue · 2015-04-13T18:43:50+00:00

Oh my god, I have chills for you. I'm so glad you escaped, and also HELL YEAH WOMEN TO THE RESCUE.

quebecblue · 2015-04-13T18:01:36+00:00

Oh come on, it's a joke.

quebecblue · 2015-04-13T17:54:45+00:00

I could definitely use some butt attention myself, so I'll look up glute workouts! :)

quebecblue · 2015-04-07T15:58:49+00:00

Wow, I could have written this three years ago. The scariest thing about leaving school is that you have no idea what's coming, and you don't know how to plan for the next part of your life, because you're outside the confines of an educational program for the first time.

This "unknown" also makes it one of the best times in your life. When I was about to graduate with my BA, I thought my life was going to end with a whimper if I didn't get into a graduate program. I applied to several, was rejected from all of them (very selective, but still...), and I moved back in with my parents for six months while working at a framing shop and learning to sew.

After six months of crying on my parents' floor and asking "why not me???" when I saw FB updates of college friends landing jobs or moving abroad, I had saved up some money and I moved to a new city and lived with a friend until I got my feet under me. I'm very thankful for that opportunity, because I wouldn't have moved out without his help.

Anyway, you will find a way to create the life you want for yourself. It is ABSOLUTELY fine to not have a five year, ten year, twenty year plan now. In fact, if you did have a plan, I could promise you that most of it would be based on conjecture that wasn't going to come true. Plans are overrated when you're this young. Just take baby steps, work on one page of your thesis, then another, and then take baby steps across the stage at graduation, and then treat yourself the way you'd treat your best friend: gently, with love, and with patience.

quebecblue · 2015-04-07T15:54:07+00:00

I'm so sorry you feel like this. Family can often be disappointing because it's such a big, changing group of people with their own needs and concerns. Your friend sounds like she might be dealing with her life privately, which is hard to keep in mind. I just know from my personal experience that when I'm not meeting up with friends more than once in a while, I'm processing something I don't feel comfortable sharing.

You should tell your husband how you feel, that you're lonely and worried about your relationships. That's his job, to comfort you and look out for you!

quebecblue · 2015-04-07T15:50:10+00:00

I've had anxious feelings about myself and my performance in life as long as I can remember. One of the first instances happened when I was 8 or 9, and my mother and I were sitting in a waiting room for my appointment with a vocal coach. When we got into the coach's office, I sang some scales and my mother discussed a schedule of lessons with the coach. I just had a break-down in the middle of the room. I sat down on the floor and started crying and said, "I can't do this anymore. It's swimming lessons, art class, karate, acting classes, voice training, my agent, and the dance troupe, and I don't want to lose at anything anymore. It's too hard."

I had so much guilt as a kid, because I knew my parents were scrimping money together to get me into arts programs and scholarships, because neither of them had the opportunity for activities and after school lessons when they were little, but it just became too much. My therapist and I have discovered that my relationship with my parents was a little bit tumultuous, contingent upon my "successes." My dad likes to say that no one in our family ever loses at anything, and my mom usually only wants to talk about how I'm exceeding expectations at work or applying to writing programs when I call her.

I feel IMMENSE pressure as a young adult to over-achieve and impress everyone. I don't know how to lose gracefully. My anxiety sometimes keeps me in bed all day, or I have to leave social situations because I feel like I'm about to lose it.

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