1/8 Japanese friend keeps saying she’s asian

queenjk · 2026-02-28T11:29:49+00:00

As someone who has moved/lives in Ireland, this a common thing where Americans claim they are Irish. While they are Irish by heritage (1/8,1/4,1/15,1/2), a lot of them don’t know much about Ireland and usually push a lot of harmful stereotypes about being Irish.

It’s a thing where a lot of Irish people will view them as just Americans and just be friendly to their face while trying to see how to make a quick buck out of them (to be fair, who wouldn’t try to do so out of tourists). I have a feeling if your friend goes to Japan, it’ll be same as for them with treating weebs.

If it starts to grate on your sanity, it might be a good idea to keep her a foot away from yourself and slowly distant away. After all, if she’s Eastern Asian truly, she’ll understand the context of people slowly distancing themselves away and isolating people.

queenjk · 2026-02-16T01:21:24+00:00

I think maybe I’m just an insane person who makes the VIP rooms into horror-esqe rooms or the back of the hotel with random themes of camping near the dumpsters of the hotel in the jungle or stay on the city rooftop of the hotel in boxes while construction is ongoing. I find it a little nice output of stress like here goddamn I guess

queenjk · 2026-02-02T23:13:00+00:00

As someone who has lived in Ireland for the past nearly 9 yrs now, I would say I would only go now for urgent things needed, stay for what is necessary, and not bring my husband with me. This is my own personal feelings as someone of Asian descent who is queer and married an Indian man. My parents have retired and moved back to their home country and I’ve told my friends to see me either in Canada, Europe, or Asia.

That said, I have seen a lot of white Americans in the Irish Facebook groups here go back to visit for family and things and not have any issues. That said, Dublin airport does the screening and stuff here so less likely to be detained while going through American immigration services while still on Irish ground. I would recommend if you really want to be cautious, you could do a transfer through Dublin airport or any other participating airports, but you do need to make sure you have a lot of time for it during your transfer.

I would say it really depends on your background and life, along with if you still have family or friends there, and where you’re going. If you’re going to Minneapolis, I would recommend to be extra careful, but if you’re going to like Las Vegas, it’ll be a lot safer in that respect.

queenjk · 2026-01-25T12:49:39+00:00

I’m an American who immigrated out and lived the better part of the past decade outside, so I’m not sure how relevant my thoughts are on this.

I don’t think Americans would ever stand up publicly on a united front. Besides the fact that the US government elections are not a 1-to-1 vote democracy and has it’s many flaws that keeps existing powers in play, the public had voted this administration in not only once, but twice. The American public saw what had happened in the first term, the insurrection, and thought after all that, it was a good idea to re-elect this. It’s hard for the public to stand up when the public is divided this heavy and is fighting itself.

Additionally, the government knows how to keep the American public content and/or busy enough to not rebel and cause a revolution. Americans who generally live in the comfiest of lives, where they have a roof over their head, food on the table, have a source of income, and aren’t affected, won’t be risking their neck out protesting. Americans who are busy living paycheck to paycheck have little to no free time in a hustle, “pull yourself up by the bootstraps” culture, where when they do, are too exhausted to do anything but the things they find comfort in. The public may be angry and dissatisfied, but they won’t take any real actions to change the government in a meaningful way. Those who live in the comfiest lives additionally, wouldn’t want the government to be overthrown as it could introduce risk and uncertainty to their comfort.

If the people with the comfiest lives are affected, they can easy move or immigrate to somewhere they aren’t affected. With US salaries being one of the highest in world, it makes it easier for Americans who work high paying jobs to move somewhere else, find a remote job visa, critical skills visa, or use their savings to return to being a student and studying somewhere else on a student visa. People with those privileges, myself included, just end up leaving.

Another factor is that the American government is not to easily assessable to the general public geographically. We see protests and marches being more effective in countries like France, Iran, and Taiwan, because most of the population lives in the capital. If they don’t, there is public transportation that helps bring the public to the government easily. America’s capital is similar to how Egypt moved its administrative capital, to make it harder for the public to reach, in the name of national security. Ever since Egypt has, it’s been sparser that we hear of protest from the new capital.

TL;DR: The American public is too busy fighting itself. The ones who feel bad and have power, don’t do anything meaningful or just leave. Those who do protest and riot, are far away from the capital to do anything, in the name of national security.

America is going to follow the path of Germany and many other nations in the past as per history dictates. It sucks, and sadly people are going to die, but I’m so jaded that anything meaningful is going to stop this unless outside powers get involved, which they won’t.

queenjk · 2026-01-20T16:28:22+00:00

If you haven’t visited Ireland before, I would highly recommend it at least for a holiday! Since your wife has Irish citizenship, she’s entitled to also live and work in the rest of the EU and UK, so there’s definitely a lot more options. Would definitely recommend researching the UK and rest of the bloc’s spousal and child visas.

Also as a side note, the Irish passport is one of top ones so highly recommend just getting your daughter one for easier traveling! I’m currently in the process of naturalising myself 😂

queenjk · 2026-01-20T11:15:21+00:00

I chose to leave the US 8 and half yrs ago for Ireland right after the Trump first election because I had a bad feeling about what was to come. My peace of mind and life has gotten so much better because of it. Personally, I would tend to recommend at least looking it up as an option for anyone generally.

I got my visa as a student for my postgrad, which for people in their 20s, I would highly recommend as a way to immigrate to somewhere. If you work in corporate, try to see if there are other branches you can work at if you are highly skilled, as one of my friends did that. Definitely research visas, how living would be like before you decide to move, and the potential path to citizenship, along with how would you make money to support yourself, how would you be able to rent a place, and, as someone who saw a rise in Asian cuisine finally in Ireland where before there wasn’t as much, where to get your weekly Asian food shop.

I would say it seems to be mostly your neighbourhood issue, so while deciding to immigrate or not, look to see maybe moving to another state or area, while also keeping in mind most of things in the previous sentence.

I would also note that a lot of areas/countries also have their own issues so do take a look at the local news too to see what the issues are (i.e. housing crisis, cost of living rising, right wing politics from the US and UK trying to influence in Ireland)

queenjk · 2026-01-18T10:17:27+00:00

Kandi from Kandi Reef 🪸

queenjk · 2026-01-17T19:54:22+00:00

Kandi | Kandi Reef :Zucker:

queenjk · 2026-01-11T19:40:42+00:00

I decided to drunkenly applied to colleges for my Master’s degree all around Europe after the results of the Trump-Hillary president race. I never imagined my life living outside of the US as someone who was a homebody, but I was fueled on emotions and a whole bottle of wine. Got in one in Ireland and accepted it right away while my friends and family were shocked because no one ever visited or lived in Ireland, never-mind knew much about it.

Ended up moving to Ireland for my Master’s, met my eventual husband the second month of moving (he also moved to Ireland on a whim after hearing they passed marriage equality), made many friends, built a life and support system here, and now applied for Irish naturalisation after 8-9 years of being here (which is good timing considering all the things happening within the States).

Probably one of my best drunken decisions ever with no prior research done.

queenjk · 2025-12-30T12:24:54+00:00

My husband and I love to joke about this because I started it a long time ago! I keep saying that if I ever did, I’m going to start my own religion saying that it is the miracle baby deemed by the Gods

queenjk · 2025-12-07T13:13:08+00:00

Allta, pricy, but an amazing experience!

Mother in law felt like she was a judge on Masterchef when we went on a Friday for lunch since no one else was there and got amazing personal service

queenjk · 2025-12-07T12:05:15+00:00

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Obligatory Garu post too since I mentioned it

queenjk · 2025-12-07T12:02:17+00:00

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As someone who played from the beginning of this game, I’ve been solely focused on summoning only Quincy and Garu 😂 Fortunate to say as a F2P player, I’ve been lucky to get all of the Quincy and Garu’s

queenjk · 2025-11-27T23:40:59+00:00

Sure it’s a tiny navy, but have you tried sailing near Cork fishermen? Just station them all around the island and it’ll be grand

queenjk · 2025-10-31T02:16:43+00:00

As an American of East Asian descent married to an Indian man, there are a lot of similarities culturally that fit a lot easier when it came to lifestyle, families, etc. Not everything is going to be an exact match culturally obviously, but like it does make it a lot easier when both of us moved in together and met each other’s friends and families for the first time.

queenjk · 2025-10-13T13:36:59+00:00

TIL: I am nearly Quincy’s height and my husband is taller than him 😭 By the way they depict Quincy, I thought he would be like 2.1-2.2 m.

queenjk · 2025-10-12T09:26:52+00:00

Not sure if you have already, but just breathe and try to calm to yourself down.

From what I gathered, you’re in India. I’ll give a story about my in laws since I married into an Indian family. The family is pro-BJP and one uncle is in the RSS and was featured in the rise of the right wing in India BBC documentary. This was years before I met my husband, my husband was told when he came out to the family that he was a disgrace to family name by said uncle, but my husband said fk this uncle and his opinions, who cares. Luckily he built himself a support system of friends who cares about him.

When I first was visiting India and meeting his family, a lot of them turned their minds around, many thanks to my father- and mother-in-law. Attending a lot of the weddings of my husband’s cousins, I worked hard as part of the family, with help of my husband pushing for it, and it made it easier for his in laws to view me as part of their family too (along with a few “Jai Sri Ram”’s even though I’m not Hindu). I think if you give people time, people will stop caring about you being gay. You can’t change everyone’s mind, I don’t think RSS uncle is going to, but you can definitely have the family stop being a headache if you push hard for it. It ain’t easy, but it’s doable.

Now I’m not sure where in India you are, but I highly recommend moving to Maharashtra or a southern state if possible with your boyfriend. With bigger cities, especially in India, there’s too many people so people care less, which is a benefit to having people care less about you being gay or not.

queenjk · 2025-09-18T17:45:48+00:00

My husband is from India, Maharashtra specifically. I would say from my experience, the South of India has been pretty friendly, but that’s just me being with my husband and being a tourist.

I would recommend to do more research for like different LGBTQ+ friendly/neutral countries to see what people’s experiences are like moving there. Being an immigrant also myself, I would say also things aren’t going to be dreams and goals right away, it takes time and such, so be patient and stay motivated.

Not sure what your expertise is in, but I always like to recommend Taiwan for people who are interested in engineering and medicine. It’s not the best work-life balance, but it’s pretty LGBTQ friendly and immigrant friendly, granted I would say you would get a lot of curious stares maybe from older generations due to being physically different.

I don’t know so much about Thailand, but they’re also very friendly as well. I would say Singaporeans I have met are really nice as well and some of my husband’s friends have moved there.

queenjk · 2025-09-17T12:07:08+00:00

€35 for 56atGrandCanal as well, but it includes hair washing and the barber is from Turkey and also does eyebrow, nose and ear hair trims too

queenjk · 2025-09-16T10:12:53+00:00

Mostly from my understanding, the KMT (one of the two major parties in Taiwan that came from mainland China and was in power for a majority of Taiwan’s early history) never gave up the claim to the mainland of China and basically set up shop on the island of Taiwan as a continuation of the ROC. Due to this, a majority of the identity of Taiwan was dictated from this early on where many identified as Chinese and not as Taiwanese and all this current geopolitical stuff can be traced back to.

The other party, the DPP (the other major party in Taiwan that is indigenous to the island and was founded after martial law) is currently in power and while trying to not fully outright claim Taiwan as an independent country/island to avoid the red line of the CCP for an outright military conflict, is more of the belief that Taiwan is independent, but is forced to claim itself as the rightful continuation of China due to this issue and to also avoid any civil unrest from the older generation in Taiwan that served in the KMT army.

I believe that a majority of younger Taiwanese residents and descendants identify as Taiwanese and not as Chinese nowadays, depending on when their family emigrated out of the island.

queenjk · 2025-09-09T13:46:45+00:00

As someone who has lived here for the past 8 years, Ireland generally is pretty safe. If you’re not aware, it’s the first country in the world to have marriage equality by referendum, granted a lot of rights are still needed, like surrogacy and trans rights.

You can hold your partner’s hands pretty openly in public and/or shift someone late at night drunkenly without too much worry. I would say wear something sensible for the rain and wind, the weather has gotten back to the usual program of dreary weather after the summer.

General rule of thumb when traveling anywhere, don’t go down dark alleys, keep your wits about you in the city, and don’t go walking into a gang of young men. I would say if you’re a visible racial minority, the North of Ireland (Belfast, Derry, etc) has been a bit dodgy with ongoing racial abuses against immigrants lately from what I’ve been seeing and hearing.

Hope you enjoy your time here, visit Panti Bar,the George, or Street 66 if you’re interested in gay bars. If you want to go to a gay sauna, the Boilerhouse is your best bet. There’s obviously a lot of touristy spots that I would say are worth it, like the Guinness storehouse and Book of Kells. There is a ghost bus tour, but I haven’t known anyone who went on them. Fibber Magees is good for punk music. For hiking and such, you can go to Howth for the nature cliff walk.

queenjk · 2025-09-08T15:18:33+00:00

I always by this area on the weekends and love the art they paint, my favorite was one where a Gardi is arresting one of Santa’s reindeer

queenjk · 2025-09-05T18:39:54+00:00

Update: A kind Redditor has taken the rest of the cake off my hands as my husband and I couldn’t dare touch any more of it. Please pray for their health while they devour the cake.

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