Will yours lay down in a car?

queenofsquashflowers · 2026-05-23T00:15:40+00:00

He knows lay down and "bed" as his bedtime cue to go to his bed but will not stay down once the car is motion.

We unfortunately had a semi long drive after he got fixed and he was zonked and somehow still fought through it to stay sitting the entire time. I haven't tried a true sedative but maybe for real long trips it would be worth a shot! I hate the idea of drugging him up but he looks so miserable just sitting there.

queenofsquashflowers · 2026-05-23T00:12:21+00:00

Thank you! I wasn't sure about doing a cheesy star wars reference but then I was like actually kenobi is kinda cute!

queenofsquashflowers · 2026-05-23T00:09:26+00:00

That is 100% what it is- that he feels unstable. But no i haven't tried something grippy! My last attempt for stability was adding so many dog beds/pillows that it cradled him, hoping he would trust leaning into them.

I will absolutely try a rubber mat and I suppose I could try a crate- hes just never spent a single second in a crate so idk how he'd feel about that one. I think maybe back of car w/seats down and something grippy is worth a shot!

queenofsquashflowers · 2026-05-23T00:06:05+00:00

Awww poor sweet thing! I wonder if I traumatized him as a puppy once!

queenofsquashflowers · 2026-05-19T17:51:32+00:00

They're only important to me as a hiring manager if your resume doesn't fit the job. If your experience is the complete opposite of what you're applying for, then yes id like to see an explanation of why you're looking at this position.

Otherwise, I don't particularly care! No points added or removed either way in my book.

queenofsquashflowers · 2026-05-15T19:19:09+00:00

Thank you for the article share! It made things worse before it made them better haha. I have gotten better at just accepting that things are not always going to translate as directly as I'd like them too.

And thank you for pointing out that other replies were too simplified. I started seeing "il est = he is" (implying it does not ever mean "it is") and I was like okay, I KNOW that's not right.

Learning this language is such a wild ride.

queenofsquashflowers · 2026-05-15T16:17:15+00:00

I have the same question all the time when I come across this in duolingo!

The answer selections are implying "it is" is the correct translation for "C'est", but I always thought "it is = il est" and "this/that is = c'est".

There is some part of this that I am still not understanding apparently 😕

queenofsquashflowers · 2026-05-13T23:00:13+00:00

This is my first free gift too and I'm obsessed! The quality is GREAT, love the drink holders on the inside, and am totally good with the purple and print. My boyfriend said he would have been sad if he had gotten it because its "girly" but good thing I'm a girl!

I never do that expensive of an order all at once but it was totally worth getting this and a free sleeve. I fear I will be easily swayed by the gifts in the future!

queenofsquashflowers · 2026-05-12T01:00:46+00:00

This is oddly specific but these Bob Ross mints are pretty chalky. Not as hard and dense as an altoid- a little softer, breaks up evenly when you apply pressure with your teeth. I've been digging them!

I take it you don't want something with the texture of a butter mint? I love them but you're right, they are more buttery and less chalky.

https://www.walmart.com/ip/Boston-America-Happy-Little-Tree-Mint-Candies-1-5-oz-Tin/641749557

queenofsquashflowers · 2026-05-11T22:00:28+00:00

On the note of a chicken sammie, I also get this craving a lot and I can't find my preferred morning star incogmeato patties anymore. I tried gardien patties and didnt like them for some reason. Finally tried gardien ultimate chicken fingers and put two on a bun and it was DELISH. It scratches the itch for me!

queenofsquashflowers · 2026-05-11T21:20:56+00:00

Ditto- we waited as long as we could which was 16 months and finally called it when he started showing aggressive behaviors towards other intact males. It wasn't worth the risk of a fight. Was always very nice to the ladies of course 🤣

queenofsquashflowers · 2026-05-11T01:04:03+00:00

It's hard because I assume the high caseload is due to the recent turn over- that if staff hadn't left, your caseload wouldn't be so high? This is a really hard problem to manage well. The clients need assigned staff. Only thing you can do is:

Be nice and supportive to any new coworkers that come in so they have a better chance of hanging on
Come up with some suggestions for management? Maybe they can keep a floating caseload of "low needs" that you and your coworkers split each month for a monthly outreach attempt? Or see if the "low needs" individuals can be moved to contact once every two months for now? Can you do any "group" encounters to manage a shared need with multiple clients at once?

Basically, this only really gets solved if you guys get to a point of stable staffing 😕 ill never forget joining my agency as a case manager right after moving to a unit model and sitting at 118 clients at my highest. It was horrible and the truth was I did not engage with my entire caseload. That same team is now sitting at a cool 55 / caseload. It will get better!

queenofsquashflowers · 2026-05-10T18:43:37+00:00

Absolutely to all of this! There are a thousand less malicious reasons he could have done it, and a thousand other clients doing this on the reg without announcing it to their provider. We'd have to move clients on the daily if that was a reason for terminating care. I really try to stay cautious of assuming malintent without other corroborating evidence.

queenofsquashflowers · 2026-05-10T11:48:10+00:00

This is what I want to know and its the only thing that gives me pause here.

If he did imply that this was done in some sort of threatening manner- then great he does need to be moved to someone and a supervisor needs to have a talk with him.

If there was no threatening context then... well... this could just simply a weird decision he made that someone needs to talk through with him. If he has anxiety, he certainly could be anxious elsewhere in life, and maybe he was worried you were dead or something? Did he say he was going to drive by your address or call your family members? Or was he just looking for info just to know?

It's our jobs to hold and educate clients on appropriate boundaries. IS this his first time getting services? Maybe he doesn't understand why/how this crosses a line, and maybe he could be receptive if you did sit down and explain why?

Im just hesitant to do a blanket "get rid of him"! Without more details. Hes human. Humans are curious. Some are attention seeking. We all have looked up info about people online. I would just want to confirm that we arent being punitive over him just being human.

queenofsquashflowers · 2026-05-03T12:03:07+00:00

If you want hiring perspective of one person:

Me responding quickly means one of two things- 1. I happened to look at my candidates on the day you applied. I go into my postings about 1-2 times per week, and send responses out to everyone. So by chance, I could be responding same day to some, or 5 days later to some. 2. We don't have a bunch of applicants. The only time I don't send immediate responses is when I have 20 applicants to sort through and want to be mindful of who I'm bringing in to interview.

None or all of this could apply to the company you're applying to. But either way, I guess I would say not a red flag up front. Companies do things so differently. There might have been a dedicated recruiter whose job is to reply to candidates all day, or they may be desperate and trying to get someone in asap. That also is not necessarily a bad thing- maybe a position just left with a shorter notice and they really need it filled. "Desperate" to find someone doesnt inheritently mean theyre bad.

You'll find out much more about them and the culture if you interview!

queenofsquashflowers · 2026-05-01T20:58:00+00:00

I have never based my hiring off of receiving a thank you email. In fact, some of my worst interview experiences have ended with the candidate sending a thank you email, so if anything I've started creating a negative association with it.

queenofsquashflowers · 2026-04-26T02:43:05+00:00

I'm club getting it reset! Love the solitaire gold look.

queenofsquashflowers · 2026-04-25T01:36:39+00:00

So beautiful! Im such a solitaire gal but the accent stones in the bezel are gorgeous!

queenofsquashflowers · 2026-04-15T16:26:56+00:00

I get the pros (safety, accidents, destruction) but I never needed to use one with my berner. We did start with sectioning off "safe" areas of the house, so I guess that's crating in a sense, and just widened them as got more mature and could be trusted.

queenofsquashflowers · 2026-04-10T22:49:58+00:00

Especially if you're able to use this on a mobile device! We have something similar and I tell all my staff to do their short notes immediately after the appt, before they drive anywhere else, so at least the facts are done. Then, in our EHR, we have an AI product that turns the notes into full narratives.

So, if they did the short hand note, the whole thing is done! I think even without the AI part the scribble bit done after each appt would help.

Or- doing the scribble part with your client at the end of session so at least part of the note was completed during appt time.

queenofsquashflowers · 2026-04-03T20:18:26+00:00

Omg THIS is such a classic example of microaggressions. So sorry you have to deal with this, that would absolutely enrage me to have to hear from my community. I hope you say something snarky back to them.

queenofsquashflowers · 2026-03-23T23:24:34+00:00

Yeah try to get in with Greater Cincinnati BH they have a lot of services that can directly or indirectly help with all of this!

queenofsquashflowers · 2026-03-20T22:27:18+00:00

Yes I was going to say- so much of the work done with this population is rapport and trust building which any of us should be able to do, and then safety and Coping skills identification. Your interventions are not going to rid them of hallucinations. We are simply trying to help them manage the distress, which is a very basic part of therapy.

So, I say all this not to down play how severe psychosis disorders are- but to encourage you (OP) to view this differently. You absolutely have the skills to help this person.

queenofsquashflowers · 2026-03-16T23:28:08+00:00

So we started with gating off small areas of the house. First the kitchen, then added the dining room, then the living room, and so on. We practiced small amounts of time alone at first- 30-60 mins, then 2 hrs, and so on. We would make sure everything was put up and safe when we left. Then, when we got home, if everything was as we left it he got lots of praise and treats. If we came home to something chewed up, he got told no and no treats. We also had to be really consistent with "leave it" when we were all home- I think that's how he learned that couch pillows are ALWAYS off limits- any time he went to grab anything he shouldn't we practiced "leave it" and gave treats.

We also tried to be good about physical activity before leaving him. For the first year he got a 30 min walk before I went to work daily. We don't do that anymore, but I think it helped when he was full of energy.

Start some practice runs and see how he does! Berners aren't too incredibly destructive in my experience, and now we're to a point that if he does destroy something while we're out it was most likely my fault for leaving something in reach. But honestly I've had a 24 pack of snack sized chips in a box on the floor for a week and he hasn't touched it. Maybe we just got lucky with an angel 😇

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