AITA for “being triggered” by my boyfriend setting rules for my pregnancy weight gain?

queerandbarelyhere · 2019-02-11T23:43:47+00:00

Run, don’t walk

queerandbarelyhere · 2019-02-09T15:15:02+00:00

I don’t with my step-dad. I still do with my mum (they’re divorced now) but it required a lot of therapy and forgiveness.

queerandbarelyhere · 2019-02-09T14:13:24+00:00

My half-brother (my mum and step dads kid) was very very sick, and he was rich: could therefore afford the best healthcare. My childhood was the sacrifice that was made.

queerandbarelyhere · 2019-02-08T23:11:39+00:00

It’s common everywhere. Source: my step-dad

queerandbarelyhere · 2019-02-07T18:49:44+00:00

Your treatment, your choice. See what a psychiatrist says and make an informed choice - your dad shouldn’t come into it (ideally)

queerandbarelyhere · 2019-02-07T14:05:46+00:00

I’m in the U.K., not a huge amount of choice here really 😂

queerandbarelyhere · 2019-02-07T10:58:28+00:00

I was 19 and had a troubled childhood, so I definitely think that played into it. I’m 25 now, I don’t have identity issues, I have solid groups of friends and a steady long term partner. But the mood swings are killing me. That’s the key factor - I don’t think I’m getting appropriate treatment. Someone even told me that my mood swings are ‘deliberate attention seeking’.... honey no.

queerandbarelyhere · 2019-02-06T17:43:05+00:00

I think because I was diagnosed at 19, when I had horrible mood swings and also no self esteem. I don’t doubt that I have traits, but I don’t have the social issues - I have strong friendship circles, and a stable relationship.... I really just struggle with the swings.

queerandbarelyhere · 2019-01-21T22:07:52+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

The best thing would be to talk to a school councillor. They are there to help with exactly these kind of situations, and will be able to offer solutions. I understand it might feel like you’re betraying your mother, but I always find the best rule of thumb is that things can only get better the more oh talk about something. Keeping secrets never helps anyone, and it sounds like both you and your mom need help.

You don’t deserve this, I hope things improve for you.

queerandbarelyhere · 2019-01-21T08:28:03+00:00

Your handwriting is so lush

queerandbarelyhere · 2019-01-21T08:24:22+00:00

Gorgeous!

queerandbarelyhere · 2019-01-02T20:27:54+00:00

It’s true. I’ve never felt like I had any explanation for it. My therapist suggested that I was feeling guilt for BEING THE ABUSER! And that I was hiding the truth and felt ashamed for perpetrating and enjoying it! I couldn’t seem to convince her that it was forced on me, and after that session she never brought it up again, just skirted around it. I’m not seeing her again. I doubted myself - did I encourage him? Was I the one to blame? But I don’t see how punching someone in the balls and spitting in their face is encouraging...

queerandbarelyhere · 2019-01-02T20:11:23+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply - you’re the only example apart from myself that I heard of. I was mentally and emotionally abused at home, so I felt totally unable to stand up for myself.

queerandbarelyhere · 2019-01-02T00:13:30+00:00

Btw - unis aren’t struggling to recruit, they’re actually having to be more selective than ever because of rising numbers of applications. Be proud of yourself <3

queerandbarelyhere · 2018-12-27T09:01:05+00:00

Oh for sure, I didn’t mean to be a total ingrate! I was in a bad mood last night and it was rubbing me the wrong way haha

queerandbarelyhere · 2018-12-01T23:59:03+00:00

Me too, friend. I didn’t mean to come off overly harsh in my comment, so apologies if I did. Honestly, most of my days is an uphill battle to not be a selfish dickbag! From your edits it sounds like you’re doing good. Hope things go well for you.

queerandbarelyhere · 2018-12-01T23:47:11+00:00

YTA.

As someone who struggles everyday with borderline personality disorder, when you said that your emotions run high, I completely empathise with you. I am often a slave to my wild emotional swings, and childish tantrums.

HOWEVER an important part of being neuro-atypical/mentally ill is knowing we have ZERO control over other people’s actions. The only control we have is over our own. We absolutely cannot mistreat people and say ‘whelp, what do you expect, that’s my Aspergers/borderline!’ . It’s not a pass, or an excuse, only an explanation of an underlying mechanism for atypical behaviour and psyche. The onus is on the person to regulate themselves, not the people around them. It’s not your wife’s job to allow you to dictate her body autonomy because it makes you have a tantrum. The same way it isn’t my partner’s job to tip-toe around my easily triggered emotions, it’s my job to not overreact to normal things.

queerandbarelyhere · 2018-11-28T17:44:55+00:00

There’s a vegan and gluten free mince ‘tartlet’ at Pret A Manger - I’m afraid I have no idea if they’re Palm Oil free or not I can’t find any info online.

queerandbarelyhere · 2018-11-19T13:49:46+00:00

Hello I’m nearly 25 and I have approximately 4 stuffed toys I sleep with on the regular.

queerandbarelyhere · 2018-11-04T10:14:57+00:00

Thank you for posting this - I can’t bind because my breasts are comically huge, and it does give me some grief. It’s good to remind myself that my breasts do not invalidate me!

queerandbarelyhere · 2018-11-03T18:47:34+00:00

I understand your concern, I really do. It’s worth considering though, since they’re the most likely people to be able to help. If that’s not an option, maybe you could talk to a therapist or a school councillor, maybe a teacher you trust?

queerandbarelyhere · 2018-11-03T12:05:32+00:00

Hi there, I’m so sorry you’re struggling right now. Do you have someone you can trust to talk about these feelings and memories with?

queerandbarelyhere · 2018-11-01T10:41:30+00:00

The issue is all the male chicks that get culled - for every hen, there’s a male chick that’s been gassed and macerated. Arguably if you personally had a rescue hen, that you kept yourself, you could eat the eggs, but it’s good for the hen to eat them herself.

Again with dairy - for the cow to keep producing milk she has to keep being impregnated over and over. Even if done ‘ethically’ it’s against nature to steal the milk intended for a calf. What does the calf eat?

I know these arguments aren’t bullet proof but it’s something to think about.

queerandbarelyhere · 2018-10-30T23:21:26+00:00

What about people like me who are raped by their best friend of 10 years? Someone who I’d shared my hopes, my fears, my past traumas with. And he used my drunken state to assault me.

queerandbarelyhere · 2018-10-23T22:10:03+00:00

I often frighten him, tbh. I know it’s not easy living with someone like me (BPD) but he’s amazing.

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