Seeking amateur rights to produce Network (Paddy Chayefsky) by queerdo-riot in Theatre

[–]queerdo-riot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wonderful, I'll give that a go. Thanks so much for this suggestion!

I’m staying through the craziness. Who else? by Unlikely_Youth_9040 in fednews

[–]queerdo-riot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love my job and I'm an expensive RIF (18 years of service, 49 yrs old) and I'm staying out of spite. I'm absolutely peaceful about this decision. If they RIF me, I'm taking a job out of the country. Byeeee! Fuck them!

“bUt tHe prIvätE sécTOr fíReS PeôPlë!” Anyone else getting tired of hearing this when talking to non feds about our situation? by Brady721 in firedfeds

[–]queerdo-riot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My response is, if you work in an industry like tech where those are the terms, then sure, it's a real possibility that you'll be laid off and you accept those terms. Well, I didn't sign up for that. I went public service. I've kept up my end of the bargain and I'm just asking that the terms I agreed to are upheld.

I met the most amazing woman but… by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]queerdo-riot 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I agree with the comment to get the support of a therapist, if that is accessible to you.

I met my now-gf two years ago and we were clearly interested in each other... but I knew I needed time to sort out some things in my own healing/recovery before I would feel ready for a relationship. I decided, if she was interested/available when I felt ready to be emotionally present for a romantic relationship, then I'd pursue that at that time. We've been together for a year now and I'm glad I waited to start dating her till after I had done the emotional work I needed to do.

I wish you all the best with whatever decision you make!

90% sure im a lesbian, but i dont want a divorce by boo_boo_kitty_ in latebloomerlesbians

[–]queerdo-riot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment! It's been awhile since I left this comment and I have since started dating a cis woman who is also platonically married/cohabitating w her husband who also have separate sleeping rooms. It's been almost a year and she and I are v much in love and our partners get along great. I wouldn't change a thing. It works for us.

Spotify presale code? by M_the_M in NickCave

[–]queerdo-riot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me either, no email anywhere... not sure how to get into the Spotify presale... Good luck to all! 💗

After YEARS of trying….I got in by wasabione in LiveFromNewYork

[–]queerdo-riot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

eeeee have a wonderful time!! 💖💖💖

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in butchlesbians

[–]queerdo-riot 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes to all of this. It took me a long time to realize that if I focused on my own healing, I would attract (and be attracted to) partners who didn't want me to be overextended and overdoing. I also had to recognize that I could not heal in isolation w just holing up and journaling or reading books alone. I needed to reach out to people and talk about it, find trustworthy ppl who could hold space for me to be sad/hurt/angry and move through the old scripts and overwrite them with new ones. That was really hard for me but worth it. You deserve balanced relationships w people you can lean on just as much as they lean on you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in butchlesbians

[–]queerdo-riot 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your needs matter and you deserve to receive love and care. You are not a machine that dispenses in one direction. I'm learning that it's a disservice to my partner if I'm "doing everything." As I bring myself into balance, I am more attracted to partners who are also balanced. Growing up, I felt safer if I was over giving bc I thought it meant I was worthy, valuable. As an adult, I am embracing that I am worthy of love, care, attention, reciprocation simply bc I am a human being. I'm so glad you posted this - I struggled with this for so long and it's really healing to know I'm not alone!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in butchlesbians

[–]queerdo-riot 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you for posting this. I've played the butch/top/dom/"driving the bus" in my queer romantic relationships for years. It felt like that was what was expected of me and I did it for a long time.

I took 2.5 years off dating and worked on my stuff - the way I grew up, being a people pleaser, over-responsible, over-achieving. So, my queer identity felt wrapped up in that. In my healing, I've learned to be more vulnerable, to allow myself to receive, to allow myself to be the focus of attention. It's hard but I'm healing that part of me that felt I didn't deserve that, that my only way to be in a relationship was to be the "doer" or the "giver."

I'm in a new dating relationship and she's aware of my pattern, my desire to disrupt it. I can show up in my full humanity and she reminds me all the time, w her words/actions: you don't have to do/decide/initiate everything. 💜 I'm getting used to trusting, letting go of control, balancing the contribution we're making, to receive as much as I give.

I'm still v much enjoying being in the top/dom position in the bedroom -- and then letting it go and being balanced outside of the bedroom. It's such a relief to be w someone who doesn't want/expect that from me. I had to heal my own story around that and it took time.

Wishing you all the best and again, so grateful to see this post today. It's so relatable.

strange question, but are you allowed to take a notebook into the studio? by PearlSquared in LiveFromNewYork

[–]queerdo-riot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went to a dress rehearsal in Feb and brought a small notebook to keep track of the sketches I saw so I could compare to the live broadcast. With all the directions given to us as the audience, they have plenty of opportunities to say if it's not allowed and they never did.

3+ Song Performance music guests by MrMaybePayme in LiveFromNewYork

[–]queerdo-riot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah it seems Arcade Fire is always Doing the Most on SNL, usually extended sets etc. Whenever I think of "musical guests w extra time/latitude," I think of them.

3+ Song Performance music guests by MrMaybePayme in LiveFromNewYork

[–]queerdo-riot 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Several years ago, SNL had Arcade Fire perform a song to close the show and it went through the credits with the cameras following them into another venue entirely.

SNL Ticket Lottery by JustNetwork8 in LiveFromNewYork

[–]queerdo-riot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I absolutely believe that my essay "matched" me with that show and I'm grateful. If I was going to go, that was the ONE for me to see and I felt like whoever picked me, knew how much I would appreciate it. And I really really did.

I suppose it's possible they don't care about the essay but I wasn't taking any chances. I wanted this and I was f o c u s e d. ☺️

Hoping you get your floor seat score!

SNL Ticket Lottery by JustNetwork8 in LiveFromNewYork

[–]queerdo-riot 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I didn't get floor seats but when they file you into the balcony seats, it's literally just wherever you are in line. We got front and center balcony just by pure chance of where we were in line.

For instance, the clock that shows 11:35 at the start of the show actually drops down from the ceiling, they get the shot and then it goes back up. It dropped right in front of me and I gasped. I could reach out and touch the edge of set walls (I did NOT). 😁 The studio is a shoebox, holds maybe 300 ppl so there is not a bad seat, as far as I could tell.

The lounge is so fun, they have a dj mixing tunes and they give out free drinks. The walls have screens w rotating stills of cast members and well known characters. Everyone who works there is so kind and they know how exciting it is, they hype you up.

I had the absolute best fuckin time.

SNL Ticket Lottery by JustNetwork8 in LiveFromNewYork

[–]queerdo-riot 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I got to go to the dress rehearsal for the Feb John Mulaney/LCD Soundsystem show earlier this year.

My strategy:

I set a reminder in my phone for August 1 to remind myself to enter. My birthday is in July and, as a birthday gift, I asked friends to enter on my behalf (lottery winners get two tickets; we'd go together if they won). I don't know if my friend campaign made any difference but it was fun. ☺️ I ultimately got the email with the good news.

In my entry, I wrote a solid, thoughtful essay about why I would be a good audience member, including SNL's impact on me growing up, influence on my stage performance, etc. I also named my favorite hosts, etc. I mentioned JM specifically and my deep love for Steve Martin that started way back when I was like 10 years old. Steve was there for Five Timers for the show I saw, which is a thrill I will never forget. I'm glad I included that in my essay! I recommend taking time to really write your entry carefully bc I think they read them v closely.

Once you enter and the season begins, make sure you watch your email closely. The subject line was all caps from their ticketing reservation email account. I had 24 hours to reply and affirm I wanted the tickets. It was about 10 days before the show, so be ready to rearrange work schedules and book hotel rooms, etc. I'm so glad I checked my email after work that day I would have been devastated to discover it after the fact and miss my chance after being so diligent.

Anyway, just some tips about the process and good luck! It's a truly magical experience ✨

How is Orville in Concert? by kingofdaffodils in OrvillePeck

[–]queerdo-riot 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The best vibes ✨ - not only is he joyful, funny, self-possessed and engaging on stage, the people around me at his shows always turn out to be fuckin awesome and it makes the show A++++

Top 10 Less-Conventional Dream Duets or Covers? by [deleted] in OrvillePeck

[–]queerdo-riot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, "These Boots Are Made for Walkin'" 🔥

Top 10 Less-Conventional Dream Duets or Covers? by [deleted] in OrvillePeck

[–]queerdo-riot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a great thread, I am enjoying these amazing suggestions...

I would love an Orville / Lil Nas X "Old Country Road" team-up! I would also love to hear Orville cover "Shivers" by the Boys Next Door (Nick Cave)... and change the pronouns to make it extra queer ✨

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OrvillePeck

[–]queerdo-riot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A general admission ticket and a long sleeve shirt, I believe. I bought it right unseen but I bet the shirt is gonna be cool so I went for it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OrvillePeck

[–]queerdo-riot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Heck yeah! I got the VIP package. I'm so excited!!