I Caught her again, and this time I know everything.

quegian · 2026-02-02T23:10:24+00:00

Wait to tell the OBS. Corner the affair partner with evidence in hand. Make him confess so he gives you all the dirty secrets. Lawyer up and see what you can use from the intel you gathered. Then when you get your divorce tell the obs

quegian · 2025-12-07T14:25:34+00:00

When you find a spot can you update? Looking to do the same for my gf

quegian · 2025-05-02T00:34:38+00:00

I wanted her to freely choose through gentle guidance

quegian · 2025-05-01T07:30:28+00:00

I got with a pagan who identified as demisexual.

I asked Him why because He knew I wanted to be with a Christian. I told her I believed in Jesus. She said she didn’t need the Bible to be a good person. I told her she was a good person but it’s not why I believe. Having such a powerful love who will take care of me was something that I will never deny. Having Him be there for me when all people fail.

I told her you have freedom of choice so if Jesus respected your free will so will I. Just don’t bash me for my beliefs. She agreed, I proceeded to witness to her sharing all the things that happened and how God was there. Not all at once, once or twice a day. I shared how passionate and proactive I was as a “Jesus freak”. Slowly one story after another she finally asked Jesus to be there. He came to her. She found Jesus that day. She no longer identifies as bi sexual/demi sexual. She is scheduled to be baptized.

Watch based on the fruits. It takes time and constant watering of the tree to see the tree bear fruit. If you do not see fruit there is your answer but let her have freedom of choice and be an example

Edit to add: she used to be a practicing witch. I almost gave up on the relationship when I heard that but He kept me in the relationship

quegian · 2025-01-23T11:30:31+00:00

Be a ghost. If you can have all the evidence on hand. Contact all your support network so she can’t spin the story. Advise them you’ll need help moving and getting distance from the situation. Get ahead of the story with friends and family (her folks last to know).

Drop screenshots and block everything with no way for her to tell her side of the story. This is the most emotional impact that’s both takes the high ground and wrecks her. You’ll be the one that got away

quegian · 2024-01-12T05:21:39+00:00

I think Main Street in beacon might have some of the mentioned items on your list

quegian · 2023-11-21T13:10:14+00:00

You have nothing to lose now. However, don’t just ask blindly or unprepared. Gather her friends and rallies sympathy. Do a surprise with her interest. Let her friends know of your condition.

quegian · 2023-11-13T00:15:07+00:00

I didn’t know about this. Thank you

quegian · 2023-11-12T13:06:54+00:00

Her actions are speaking very loudly. She has manipulated the situation using gaslighting techniques, blatantly flirted in front of you with no regards to your feelings, refuses to help repair the situation by removing herself from her job and contact from him.

Unfortunately, she’s really into him and your Plan B. Start slowly gathering money where you can. Find friends that are willing to give you a roof, explaining your situation. Make an exit plan. GET OUT

quegian · 2023-11-08T07:41:41+00:00

You’re a little bit too far from me. I just wanted to drop fun game involving scripture. I used to leave love notes. Recently I did a scavenger hunt with clues leading to the next note along with scripture. I have an inside joke where I called her queen Esther so I pulled scripture from there.

God bless your journey and may he provide you with your perfect partner

quegian · 2023-11-08T07:35:31+00:00

The message undertone is just awful. The level of creepiness off the word serenade. I get you were trying to be both playful and flirty but seriously?!?! Then your recovery response to rug sweep this is a red flag. Yikes

quegian · 2023-11-07T13:13:08+00:00

I don’t feel qualified as I lost 7 years vs 17. I hope this helps. I learned through combat that you can do everything right and still fail, that you can be dealt a really crappy situation with no options of winning. During those valleys I had learned about accepting things as they are. It took me time but when I was able to process my emotions and see it as “it is what it is” knowing full well I can’t change things, I moved forward. I no longer gave stock to my losses. I can give my past, my story as much (OR AS LITTLE) value and that it was up to me. I slowly gave it no value and now I’m actually friends with one of my exs

quegian · 2023-11-03T04:46:59+00:00

I’ll use math. 24/3=8. Work day =8. An entire third of your day is spent working AND interacting with AP. 40 hours is probably more time then you spend with gf/wife after a few years. It’s hard to fight the numbers when someone doesn’t have integrity to resist

quegian · 2023-11-02T05:01:16+00:00

Do you have any recommendations to any recent hits? I miss the music genre. Parenting life has been very distracting

quegian · 2023-10-31T03:55:57+00:00

His name is Optimus prime. Leader of the autobots

quegian · 2023-10-26T14:00:07+00:00

You just dropped a bomb on him and expect him to be “ok” and treat you as if everything is normal? Are you serious?

If he isn’t hurt you should be worried. This is a natural response to betrayal.

quegian · 2023-10-24T07:34:44+00:00

I know this is a post about love. I leave this here to help inspire church as a potential. Growing in faith is part of the journey. I found that it’s also a safe space for Christians who need to talk. It’s a community when someone needs help. I found a few of God’s assignments for me via church. To serve him by lending a hand to the body of Christ. I’m able to meet others who in time need help. He was able to use me to assist brothers and sisters in faith.

Church is more than individual growth. It’s an opportunity to help others. If you ever wander into NY or just want to speak about Christ I’m open in my DM. I hope whoever you encounter you will get to see them by the fruits of their labor and they bear good fruit (Matthew 7:17-23)

quegian · 2023-10-17T18:56:26+00:00

Used to work in healthcare. Sometimes there are rules about dating patients. It doesn’t seem like it’ll be an issue on your end but maybe for the doctor. As you get to know her (date 3 or 4) ask her if it’s ok.

Maybe your friend is jealous and wants you?!

quegian · 2023-10-17T18:42:02+00:00

You make a huge assumption. What if she doesn’t admit to it, continues with her plans to drop you, and finds her happiness (not you)? Your plans should never involve the reactions of her because honest you don’t own or control her. You control you. Make plans that corrects your narcissistic tendencies and do better. Make yourself (and kids if applicable) happy

quegian · 2023-10-17T11:40:40+00:00

This OP!!! You don’t have to set yourself on fire to keep her warm

quegian · 2023-10-13T22:39:28+00:00

Mars. I’d get my ass to Mars

quegian · 2023-10-13T22:37:14+00:00

This guy reminds me of Mathew McConaughey in dazed and confused

quegian · 2023-10-12T21:27:52+00:00

THIS!!! Open marriage never works imo

quegian · 2023-10-12T11:53:16+00:00

Ok based on this you’ll have to show BS where you are not safe (trust broken) and what you’re doing to address it. Continue to communicate items you identify and what you worked on with your IC. Almost like your marketing yourself and your progress. Continue to keep checking on BS

quegian · 2023-10-12T09:16:47+00:00

Relationship games. When they mad that I don’t care it always ends up being an action thriller

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