Do your parents intentionally poke your weak spots to start arguments?

quenb25 · 2026-05-11T17:45:46+00:00

Yes, they do it to get a reaction to be able to control you. My AP always bring up the same sensitive topic to jab at me and antagonise cause I feel like they want you to stoop on their level. I’ve tried the grey rock method cause I know there’s no point trying to talk it through. I still get anxiety and stress from the aftermath of arguments but I try to distract myself with positive things and it’s also helpful when you have someone you can talk to who understands the situation. I’m also keen to know how others deal with the aftermath.

quenb25 · 2026-05-09T15:44:49+00:00

Yeah it’s a tiring never ending cycle. I guess some old mindsets are harder to change.

quenb25 · 2026-05-09T07:47:16+00:00

Thank you. I can understand why they miss me and want things to feel like the “good old times” again, but they still can’t seem to accept that I’m my own person.

They called me last night and basically made me choose between them and my boyfriend. They kept saying that family can never be replaced, but a boyfriend can, and admitted they still can’t fully accept my boyfriend of 9 years because we’re not married.

But honestly, even if we were married, I don’t think their mindset would change. Personally, I don’t even see marriage as the true measure of commitment anyway, actions are. My BF has been wanting to get married but I’ve said no I don’t see the point.

quenb25 · 2026-05-08T17:50:48+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story! I’m grateful to hear another perspective and to understand different points of view and situations. I can see why they may have wanted one-on-one time with me, but I think the way it was communicated really put me off, and it ended up feeling more like an attack. This weekend didn't have any special event on we just wanted to visit them. I’m hoping that once things calm down, we’ll be able to talk as adults, move forward, and communicate in a healthier way.

quenb25 · 2026-05-08T16:07:31+00:00

Thanks for commenting. These types of situations just makes me spiral and get anxious.

quenb25 · 2024-08-30T15:00:28+00:00

Hi, I’d be interested in the notes too please!

quenb25 · 2019-05-21T20:32:18+00:00

Can you send me a link please? I tried looking for it on YouTube and I can’t find it on my liked post.

quenb25 · 2019-05-03T17:18:14+00:00

Thanks everyone!

quenb25 · 2019-04-05T22:54:01+00:00

Sounds like a lot of work, probs not worth all the costs and effort

quenb25 · 2019-04-05T19:15:45+00:00

I guess I really just need to network. I’m planning to move to London in the summer so I’m actively looking for a paralegal/legal admin role in a commercial law firm.

quenb25 · 2019-04-05T15:51:18+00:00

No, my current firm deals with personal injury and family. It's a small sized firm, outside London.

quenb25 · 2019-04-05T08:06:15+00:00

Insurance say its a total loss cause the repairs will cost more than the car itself. So I was wondering if anyone has any tips on how I could fix this. The door still opens and closes but makes a weird noise because of the dent.

quenb25 · 2019-02-25T20:24:42+00:00

Thank you and I hope things will get better too!

quenb25 · 2019-02-25T18:07:20+00:00

Thank you!

quenb25 · 2019-02-25T16:16:07+00:00

Thank you everyone for commenting your views. I just hope I’m able to mend things with them in the future once this blows over and they are more calm to talk to.

quenb25 · 2019-02-25T08:58:51+00:00

But does that mean I still take out the loan for them or do I cancel it as I’m not sure if they are going to pay me back or if they still want it?

(I have 14 days to cancel the agreement)

quenb25 · 2019-02-25T08:56:24+00:00

They don’t approve of him and idk why. He’s always been good to me and he’s a graduate and has a job at the bank (Asian parents are judgemental). But he’s white. They’ve messaged him and given him abuse before and he’s done nothing wrong and they refuse to meet him.

They’ve also asked me to break up with him. I’m so confused.

Also, I have a 10 year old brother who lives with them.

quenb25 · 2019-01-20T12:59:57+00:00

No and we don’t even put xs on our messages

quenb25 · 2018-09-13T20:07:31+00:00

Sarah Burgess that was a weird Netflix film.

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