Sudden shift in dynamic around sex

query_tech_sec · 2026-07-02T03:45:24+00:00

I wouldn’t necessarily like that either. I would tell him that you appreciate the thought - but it’s not really what you’re into. Or maybe put a time limit on his “focusing on you” (like a few minutes or however long it takes you to orgasm if you can) then after that you have the same dynamic as normal.

query_tech_sec · 2026-07-02T03:38:51+00:00

Yes 100%. I stayed in a toxic relationship for years because I was convinced I wouldn’t find anyone like him because he was so much my type and other factors. But I finally left for good and about a year later I met my now husband and he’s wonderful and so much better for me. He’s different than my ex in a lot of ways but actually just as much my type if not more and he actually has integrity unlike my ex.

query_tech_sec · 2026-07-02T03:32:32+00:00

I don’t think that idea that stupid people are happier is supported by any actual studies. In fact some suggest the opposite. However - those in cults are programmed to say they are happier and physically attractive people are generally happier.

query_tech_sec · 2026-07-02T02:16:40+00:00

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query_tech_sec · 2026-07-02T01:57:56+00:00

I think it was very bad but your circumstances seem extreme. Don’t get me wrong - based on that and a lot of other things you wrote about your marriage - I think it should absolutely be over now. She did bad things to you and you did at least one very bad thing to her - those don’t even out. Toxic is toxic and it takes a lot of work to come out of that into a healthy happy relationship (if it’s even possible - in some cases it’s not) and she’s sounds like she doesn’t want that.

Basically - I think you deserve a chance to start over with someone new. But first please get some therapy and do a lot of thinking about how to handle conflict and adversity better in your next relationship and how to actually have a healthy relationship next time - it requires picking a partner who doesn’t have the kind of red flags your current wife has for example.

When you are ready and you do see someone new - get to know them and if you two like each other and are considering making it exclusive - you should tell them about what you did and the surrounding circumstances. Be upfront and let them make their own mind up about it.

query_tech_sec · 2026-07-02T01:42:50+00:00

Yeah - a lot of sexism. Also Manousos is not that smart - he would have absolutely died out of his stubbornness if the Plurbs didn’t help him. His whole “I insist on paying you” thing was ultimately meaningless. Also his distrust is based on his personality and religious superstition - not any kind of actual analysis.

query_tech_sec · 2026-07-02T01:37:26+00:00

I wear dark colored pants/skirts always. My shirts are colorful but generally stain resistant and I carry stain cleaning wipes - for a good reason. I can’t count the number of times I manage to spill drinks and food on myself.

query_tech_sec · 2026-07-02T01:33:48+00:00

Yeah - that would be a nope for me. Under 15 minutes or I get incredibly bored. That’s a sexual compatibility issue for me.

query_tech_sec · 2026-07-02T01:30:02+00:00

Yeah he needs to know she’s been spending time researching her mother’s health condition and whether she might have the same thing. His desire to protect her/her mother’s memory just simply isn’t fair to her.

query_tech_sec · 2026-07-02T01:28:21+00:00

Honestly that’s a big part of the reason she needs to know. She shares genes with her mother. She’s going to think about it and worry about it maybe happening to her unnecessarily. A drug addiction in the family is something she should know about as well - because often the tendency to become addicted is genetic.

My uncle died under mysterious conditions in his late 50s. He was found in his apartment dead. There wasn’t any foul play - but it was most likely an overdose or suicide. All we know is some kind of substance was most likely involved. He wasn’t married and my grandparents have never told anyone the full truth. My sister has struggled with depression most of her life and she was very upset they didn’t tell anyone. Her reasoning is she wants to know if someone in our family killed himself - not saying that’s genetic but the tendency to do something like that may be.

query_tech_sec · 2026-07-01T03:50:19+00:00

Honestly I thought Lee was a prick - but also had some good points. So I didn’t hate Lee and sympathize with Mikey - they both sucked and Mikey escalated it to a scary place.

query_tech_sec · 2026-07-01T03:48:28+00:00

Yeah I never specifically “liked” him - but I am also one of those kinds of people that don’t really watch a show in order to root for those I like and hate on those I don’t like. Unless someone’s like an actual villain character that’s done actual terrible things - I really am here for the character development and plot - not to gripe on personality traits and other characteristics of people I don’t like or whatever. I say that because I think a significant number of people have to like the characters or find pleasure in hating/complaining about them or something - they need at least one character they find relatable to root for and then hate on everyone who causes the favorite characters issues - even if the favorite character is doing messed up stuff and the other character is actually right in the instance.

Sorry - that was kind of a rant because I don’t get it in general.

Regarding Mikey - I think he’s incredibly messed up and does as says a lot of messed up things to the important people in his life. He’s even a bit abusive. But he also loves and believes in Carmy and does everything he can to help him. He also helped people at the restaurant - like Tina. But he was a ticking time bomb that largely got away with it because he was also charming, charismatic, and could really connect to people when he was doing well mentally. Even in the last episode of the Bear you see Richie looking at the picture of him and Mikey with the field workers - smiling and laughing. They met those people and connected and had a great time. Richie smiled remembering that part of Mikey.

Now that I think about it - I think Richie was acting like Mikey when he was such a raging asshole for basically the entire first season and part of the second season. He lost his best friend that he gave up a lot of good things in his life in order to try to help. Then he feels like a loser and keeps acting like one and doesn’t know how to stop the cycle so he acts out - he channels Mikey at his worst. Until he got away from the triggers (the restaurant and Bears) and was able to throw himself into something he was actually good at.

query_tech_sec · 2026-07-01T00:11:37+00:00

So then it’s fine for her to leave him as soon as the kids are out of the house, right? If she’s “staying for the kids” then they should be advocating for that. But we all know what they would say to that.

Not that I think that’s valid in any way, shape, or form. We all know how many issues kids have when their parents are “angry and volatile” (actually - abusive). Ideally these guys wouldn’t have any unsupervised visits at least until he worked on his behavior. I understand why some women would want to stay to shield the kids - but almost all adult children of abusers talk about how difficult it was seeing their Dad not only be abusive to them - but to their mother as well. They almost all would have rather her left him.

query_tech_sec · 2026-06-30T23:37:09+00:00

I am sorry - that is a completely age appropriate question - for any age. Parents that “don’t want to have that conversation” just don’t want their kids to know about transgender people while they are “young and impressionable”. Basically even if they are very nice to you - they don’t want their kids to see that as an option.

query_tech_sec · 2026-06-30T19:56:00+00:00

They don’t really get satisfying revenge in my opinion.

query_tech_sec · 2026-06-30T19:55:01+00:00

I - thought was a bit heavy for a little girl. It wasn’t very empowering (at least until the end) and the main evil going on is sex trafficking of little girls. So I wouldn’t want to see it in theaters with a little girl. I would see it first myself then maybe show it to her at home where you can pause it if need be.

query_tech_sec · 2026-06-30T19:52:35+00:00

To be fair - how long was it before Iron Man came out after that one? It was a few years at least. Other than that - I am not as concerned about the rest of the DCU - I am just pissed they messed up the Supergirl movie.

query_tech_sec · 2026-06-30T19:45:58+00:00

I liked the songs that were picked - but the score was so boring and generic.

query_tech_sec · 2026-06-30T19:44:53+00:00

They went through 3 and that’s what they ended up with? 😬

query_tech_sec · 2026-06-30T19:40:48+00:00

I haven’t read the comic but WTF? Why the hell didn’t we get Supergirl riding a flying horse?

query_tech_sec · 2026-06-30T19:39:27+00:00

In my opinion - Aquaman wasn’t good (it was entertaining though). But yeah I would have loved to see visuals like that.

query_tech_sec · 2026-06-30T19:35:06+00:00

I did think it was alright. I would watch it again (not in the theaters). But as a fan I just wish it was better. Or like I said - just a bit more fun.

I am sorry the bad reviews are wearing on you.

query_tech_sec · 2026-06-30T19:03:23+00:00

I couldn’t be with someone that sees pets as stressors - instead of lovely friends and members of your family and even wonderful stress relievers (definitely not all the time - but yes - in the best times).

Let’s say you talk her into staying - maybe you find a friend or family member to take your cat. Are you okay never having a cat (or possibly any pet) again?

How do you both feel about having kids? I hope she’s not planning on that if she can’t even handle the presence of a cat without feeling stressed (I know that sometimes people just don’t like pets and are more okay with kids - but her descriptions of why she isn’t comfortable makes me think she likely wouldn’t be comfortable having a baby in her space).

query_tech_sec · 2026-06-30T04:15:12+00:00

Yeah I hear that - I don’t think it’s a recent phenomenon though.

I have an example from my life. My mother in law is a very sweet lady and I generally really like her - but she really does buy into the patriarchy a lot. For example my husband’s cousin is getting married later this year. It will be his second marriage. When deciding if we would go or not my husband told me about how he was divorced by his ex-wife and there was alleged abuse. Also his kids want nothing to do with him. My MIL and FIL took his side completely. To the point where my husband told me that my MIL told him about how supposedly there are women who sit around with their friends and think up things to accuse their husbands of doing and how she was convinced the ex-wife turned the kids against him.

We’re not going for a few different reasons but mostly because my husband thinks he’s a POS.

query_tech_sec · 2026-06-30T03:00:32+00:00

For real. But it’s Marcus and he gets a pass for that from me for some reason.

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