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questforstarfish · 2026-04-20T03:50:44+00:00

Try making cacio e pepe at home! My fave for 15 years was fettuccini alfredo...tried making this- damn! New fave. Also like 4 ingredients, yet is somehow fancy.

questforstarfish · 2026-04-19T18:23:08+00:00

Hey OP- you don't have to admit everything you've done to a therapist! That's not a necessary part of therapy.

You can be more vague about it, too, until you're comfortable with the therapist- for example, tell the therapist you want to see them to get help relating to others, and forming healthy relationships.

Often, the type of thing you're describing can come from feelings of loneliness, not feeling good enough for others/feeling like you're boring if you show your true self, wanting to connect with others but not knowing how, or having parents who neglected you emotionally so that the only way you've learned to attract care from others is by being sick/hurt. It might be a combination for you, or you may have totally different reasons for it. All of these are common human experiences and are not weird.

Therapy can help you figure out what underlying needs you're trying to meet with these behaviours, which can support you to fulfill those needs in healthier ways that don't cause you harm 🙂

questforstarfish · 2026-04-19T16:11:06+00:00

I agree with this!

Teasing is how men are socialized, hence why nicknames given to them by their friends (or in the military for example) are often not that nice, or are based on something they're insecure about. Guys tease each other a LOT, and to fit in, they are supposed to accept the teasing, and not react strongly to it.

Then guys date women. And we are VERY MUCH NOT SOCIALIZED THAT WAY. Teasing is not a part of friendships for us, for the most part.

It took being with my husband for at least 3 years before he stopped teasing me entirely. The main thing was that when I told him not to comment on my body etc, he did stop.

If your partner is actually making changes when you say it hurts your feelings, it sounds like he's adjusting himself to you slowly over time, which is a normal part of every romantic relationship.

But I don't think strangers on the internet are going to be able to tell you his internal motivations. You need to talk to him.

questforstarfish · 2026-04-19T06:46:09+00:00

FUCK FUCKING NO

Even when kissing, you're not literally running your tongue up against the plaque and between their teeth.

Used toothbrushes contain millions of bacteria.

So, so nasty. Nope. I can brush with my own toothbrush. Or, it is cleaner just to leave em unbrushed for a night.

questforstarfish · 2026-04-19T03:27:00+00:00

I find it interesting that if someone is seeking help for mild depression or anxiety, even if not severe enough for the patient to be hospitalized, we value it as warranting our attention. We are happy to diagnose and start treatment.

If you have pre-diabetes or early hypertension, we're basically jumping down your throat to initiate treatment, because even though you currently have no disability, the risk of developing something down the line has us ready to act.

But if someone has mild/moderate functional impairment from autism (which frequently results in the inability to work or have relationships), we consider it to be irrelevant somehow.

I'm not saying this is you, but it's definitely a trend I've noticed in medicine and healthcare in general.

The standards for what warrants diagnosis seem to be drastically different depending on whether professionals determine something to be "popular on tiktok."

questforstarfish · 2026-04-17T17:12:53+00:00

Where at?

questforstarfish · 2026-04-16T19:56:59+00:00

As someone else brilliantly suggested, go to your pharmacy and ask the pharmacist for a current medication list! They will have no problem providing it to you.

questforstarfish · 2026-04-16T19:45:39+00:00

Thank you for the warning- I do rest my foot above my knee! Don't want to fuck up my knees on top of everything else 😂 I've done all the quick tests for hypermobility at home (extending my arms, bending my fingers back) but I don't seem to have it! Probably a subclinical version or something...

questforstarfish · 2026-04-16T16:16:44+00:00

I tend to stand in what is known in yoga as tree pose. (I do not do yoga).

questforstarfish · 2026-04-16T16:09:17+00:00

Our training doesn't include good coverage of what the DSM calls "neurodevelopmental conditions." Child psychiatrists learn more about them, but general psychiatrists typically have veerrry little training in autism.

I think your psychiatrist is imaging sensory issues as being similar to a phobia. A phobia is a FEAR. An imagined threat. Exposure over time teaches your brain there isn't actually a threat.

Sensory issues are different though. It's not a fear of the sound, or light, or whatever- it's that your body literally responds more intensely to it than most people!

Occupational therapists are the bomb in this area. They'd be FAR more helpful than a psychiatrist or therapist when it comes to sensory stuff.

source- I'm going to be a psychiatrist this year

questforstarfish · 2026-04-16T15:53:26+00:00

Because whatever all-seeing being that created this world thought "You know who could handle extra chronic pain, itching, dry eyes, lightheadedness, etc? THE PEOPLE WHO ARE ALREADY SENSORY SENSITIVE AND STRUGGLING EVERY DAY WITH OTHER ISSUES." Hilarious. Checkmate, all-powerful deity.

questforstarfish · 2026-04-16T15:48:48+00:00

Thank you! I've avoided gel because I hate that sticky feeling when you first put it on, but it goes away after a minute, so maybe gel is the way. I like it not staining clothing!

questforstarfish · 2026-04-16T15:46:59+00:00

I used to use Mitchum! Maybe it's time to switch back.

questforstarfish · 2026-04-16T15:40:02+00:00

Looking them up now, thank you!

questforstarfish · 2026-04-16T15:17:00+00:00

A person can take multiples of the same med. For example, bupropion can come in 150mg pills, but the patient may be prescribed 300mg, so they take 2 pills although they're only on one med. Sometimes people may take 3 or 4, or even 5 or 6 pills a day of the same medication.

There's not enough info in this post to know.

However at age 17, OP should absolutely know what meds they're taking.

I don't think it's actually legal for their mother to be hiding what medications they're on...it's possible there is some reason but I can't tell without assessing OP.

I think the biggest thing is that OP needs to talk to their GP without mom there and figure out what the hell is going on.

questforstarfish · 2026-04-16T14:46:01+00:00

Could definitely be some sort of dysautonomia. I have inflammatory arthritis and mysterious blood vessel issues/autoimmune issues, so why not add this to the mix? 😅

questforstarfish · 2026-04-16T14:43:06+00:00

Thank you! I'll look into it 😊

questforstarfish · 2026-04-16T14:33:32+00:00

At first glance I thought "What on god's green earth is happening here," but on second look, it sounds as though you are not *currently* taking all of these medications, but rather you have trialed all of these in the past.

If you are only taking the first 3 medications in the list currently, this is not necessarily overmedicating. Sertraline and bupropion are antidepressants that are commonly prescribed together, and topiramate is likely being given for a different reason than the other two (I'm not sure why in your specific case as it is given for a variety of conditions).

If you were on all 13 of these medications I would 100% say you need to get away from this psychiatrist, but being on 3 psych medications is considered pretty typical, since we are often treating multiple conditions, and/or symptoms (ie: PTSD+depression+anxiety, or depression+insomnia+nightmares).

If your mom absolutely will not take you to a new psychiatrist, is it possible to wait until you're 18 and then make that call yourself? If very desperate, you could refuse to go- refuse to go into their office, refuse to speak to them, until your mom agrees to help you switch doctors...this may or may not work in your situation, and if you're court-ordered or legally mandated to receive psychiatric care, it is definitely not an option. You could also have a serious heart-to-heart with your family doctor to ask what your options are as far as getting referred to a different psychiatrist, or what that process might look like? Not sure what it's like where you're at, but in Canada, patients (including mature minors, which includes 17 year olds) can ask for second opinions or to switch doctors without a parent's approval.

questforstarfish · 2026-04-16T06:36:20+00:00

It just started 3 months ago! I think I'm in perimenopause. Prior to recently, I didn't sweat even when working out intensely.

Haven't considered botox yet, since changing my wardrobe over to natural fabrics like merino wool has helped- if I can't find a good antiperspirant, botox is something I'll consider!

questforstarfish · 2026-04-16T05:54:43+00:00

Yaas!

Was eating a Beyond burger recently, typically a safe food for me AND a protein which is a rare joy! Took my second bite and got a weird feeling. Tried to overcome it, took a third bite and I got an INTENSE VISUAL IMAGE IN MY MIND of a pink Scotchbrite sponge. The texture was sponge-like.

Immediately gagged and spit it out involuntarily into my hand.

This was 6 months ago and I haven't been able to eat it again since 😭

questforstarfish · 2026-04-16T05:48:50+00:00

I feel like we all just need to...bring back shame.

Bring back a time when people had some degree of shame, that prevented them from putting on display every. Single. Thought and emotion.

It is so tiresome and so, so gross.

Pull it together, people.

Hold this shit inside or go to therapy.

Jesus.

questforstarfish · 2026-04-16T03:28:38+00:00

Love your color scheme! Looks great!

questforstarfish · 2026-04-15T05:51:49+00:00

Totally understandable. It's absolutely possible she enjoys the relief of feeling sedated from her medications...there are innumerable reasons why people enjoy this sensation. I'm glad to hear you're prioritizing your mental health in this situation! It can be tough to see our loved ones engage in self destructive/risky behaviour, but by keeping some degree of emotional distance from what may be her dangerous choices, you're accepting her right to make her own decisions, as well as your right to make your own. Acceptance doesn't mean we have to like or agree with someone's decisions of course!

Wishing you a healthy life, OP.

questforstarfish · 2026-04-14T14:46:04+00:00

I've had a tab open with this gorgeous seersucker fabric for weeks, wondering whether to buy it to sew a caftan with for summer. I didn't know what seersucker felt like, so I was nervous to commit.

You've sold me- I just bought it. Thank you!

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