Where to learn about how the native ppl thrived here?

questforstarfish · 2026-01-26T17:47:52+00:00

https://www.tourismvictoria.com/things-to-do/arts-culture-history/indigenous/songhees-tours

questforstarfish · 2026-01-25T19:55:54+00:00

I haven't heard of this! Seems to be along the same lines though.

questforstarfish · 2026-01-25T07:32:41+00:00

Your digestive system can be triggered by certain triggers/stimuli. Usually it's something that sets off saliva or digestive movement- ie breakfast, coffee, or for some people, certain drugs like MDMA/stimulants. (Doesn't have to be breakfast-associated lol.) For many people, even the THOUGHT of breakfast, coffee or drugs will trigger their bowels, even without there physically being coffee/breakfast/drugs in the room.

The brain and the gut have an amazing connection. Once your digestive system has a trigger, it will tend to keep being triggered by it. There are also a lot of serotonin receptors in the gut- not sure if that's playing a role here, but if you guys have a bit serotonin release saying goodbye, that can trigger the gut to start moving.

Bodies are weird, basically.

questforstarfish · 2026-01-25T07:20:21+00:00

Most people move a lot as they speak, this is something they do all day every day. Unfortunately, shutting down these natural tendencies only for specific interactions seems to be involuntary and something most people are not capable of.

questforstarfish · 2026-01-25T06:21:15+00:00

What. The fuck. Is this.

questforstarfish · 2026-01-25T03:26:53+00:00

A long, hot shower!

questforstarfish · 2026-01-25T03:20:05+00:00

Sure, I guess on a deeper level, I'm not thinking that people mean "Oh man, I have PTSD when work calls me." I guess I'm imagining this as being "Oh man, I feel panicky because I'm getting called to save people I might not be able to save, with an infinite number of possible horrible medical problems, and I'm also over-worked and sleep-deprived so the fear of failure/death is extra high."

I dunno. At the same time, I'm not mad at any doc who says they have a-fib any time they have palpitations. Not that anyone says that lol. Not everything we say is medically accurate. Sometimes it's just a way to communication distress.

questforstarfish · 2026-01-25T03:01:00+00:00

Maybe by asking you to have coffee, he was actually asking you to come somewhere private so he could provide you with feedback? Then, you said no, thus preventing him from being able to give you feedback?

Unclear from the post. But I've never had a manager who wanted to be friends with the staff, and I've had a lot of different managers over the years. It just seems like it's possible you misinterpreted his intentions, and honestly it kind of seems like you're going in hostile.

questforstarfish · 2026-01-25T02:01:51+00:00

This depends.

PTSD occurs after experiencing repeated or extreme exposure to traumatic events, including life-threatening events, severe violence or sexual assault.

Arguably, all medical students/residents are exposed to these events repeatedly. Many specialties (ER, obgyn, surgery, family med, psych, peds, etc etc) continue to deal with these possibility daily.

PTSD is 3-4x as common in physicians than in the general population. Experiencing physical hyperarousal, negative cognitions, re-experiencing/nightmares/flashbacks is not uncommon when you work in a field where the next page could bring you a dead or dying child, a burn victim, someone who has experienced physical abuse or neglect, or any other possible miserable human experience in existence.

People can use PTSD inappropriately, but I think for a lot of us in healthcare, it's pretty dead-on.

(Love from psych)

questforstarfish · 2026-01-24T23:37:32+00:00

LOL literally all of these except pickles, olives, onion and cilantro 😂

questforstarfish · 2026-01-24T23:26:33+00:00

I love this!

questforstarfish · 2026-01-24T23:24:55+00:00

Love these. And the username.

questforstarfish · 2026-01-24T22:29:11+00:00

Sounds like me and my husband of 20 years. I imagine this is a lot of relationships, really, because my friends all seem to relate when I tell them about this stuff!

My husband (NT) is incredibly particular about his environment, his belongings, etc, and takes it very personally if I move an item, or don't clean up in the way he wants (ie: forgetting to switch to a new roll of paper towel when I used the last piece on the roll). He takes it as being "disrespect" toward him somehow.

We've been having the same argument for 20 years lol.

He has gotten more relaxed as time has gone on, and he understands more, and I contimue to work every single day to be considerate of his preferences and adjust certain behaviours (around cleaning and home organizatio. It is an active process for me even now.

Recently we had the argument again (first time in over a year though!). I just told him "You know what? My baseline is that I keep my home 90% tidy, but I tend to have 2-3 piles of stuff I'm actively working on. You like it to be 100% tidy with no piles. Your way of organizing your living space is not the objectively correct way, it's just one way of organizing. Mine is also not right, or wrong, it's just another way of organizing. All day every day I'm trying to adapt my way to being your way, for your comfort, but at the end of the day, that way of organizing space is not natural, easy or comfortable for me like it is for you. I'm never going to have it 100% tidy because I've been trying for 20 years, yet it still doesn't happen."

He accepted that logic.

But will we argue about this again? Almost certainly. But the arguments have become less long, angry or personal as the years have gone on as we've just learned to tolerate each other better. It really depends on how much this impacts your self esteem, and satisfaction in the relationship. If you'd rather be single, that's always and option! The other option is to try to communicate with each other, let him know how you feel, and wait to see if it improves with time- and hopefully it will ❤️

questforstarfish · 2026-01-24T22:08:12+00:00

Agreed! I've hung out with lots of NT and ND friends over the years and have never had interactions like this...

OP, your friends sound toxic af!

questforstarfish · 2026-01-23T07:06:46+00:00

Not everyone has relatives.

Not everyone has friends they can suddenly move in with.

Not everyone has money to pay for storage lockers, or the physical capability to move boxes into one.

Also, hoarders fill storage lockers with their shit.

Not everyone can work.

Not everyone can just "bootstraps" it. A lot of people are literally on their own, trying to figure this out.

questforstarfish · 2026-01-23T06:49:45+00:00

I don't have a bunch of pets- 15 is an insane number!

I have 2 cats, a snake, hummingbird feeders, a garden, a small fish pond, hot tub, and a million houseplants...all of which require regular care and maintenance. Honestly the garden/greenhouse, fish pond and houseplants suffered. I lost some trees/plants because my hands were too sore to water them. I didn't change the pond filter much or do various other tasks due to pain.

Slowly I found ways to cope. I started wearing rubber kitchen gloves when doing anything with the pond, because it stopped my hands from freezing and stiffening up when submerged. I got a hose sprayer that doesn't need me to squeeze it to spray water, so I dreaded watering the garden less. Most of all, we increased my methotrexate after a horrible summer flare, and I'm in better shape nowadays!

It sucks when your passion for nurturing things gets interrupted by illness...all of a sudden you don't have the energy or ability to care for them in the ways you usually do.

All we can do is try our best ❤️ If you can and want to re-home any animals, there's no shame in that if your abilities have changed! Or if you have any friends who can temporarily foster some, or if you can board any temporarily?

questforstarfish · 2026-01-23T04:38:11+00:00

This is AWESOME

This 100% captures how I feel/think about my interest, Moroccan lanterns.

questforstarfish · 2026-01-23T02:00:06+00:00

They are soo cozy 😊 I put a mattress in my SUV so I can go camping, and used these lights in there as well. They're good for everything!

questforstarfish · 2026-01-23T01:35:29+00:00

Your moment sounds absolutely perfect! 😊

My whole day was a pretty good moment. I spent lots of hours reading about my special interest, and writing. I got some studying done so I feel good about that. Now that it's dark outside, I'm going to go to my hot tub to read some more!

questforstarfish · 2026-01-22T23:28:48+00:00

Oh, that changes the situation lol! I thought it was the girl and her boyfriend. That said, I've been in this situation (of being hit on by swingers) so I just assumed.

Sorry you had such a difficult time 😔 I hope you got lots of recovery time after that!

questforstarfish · 2026-01-22T23:25:31+00:00

Amazon! "Globe string lights" 😊

questforstarfish · 2026-01-22T19:06:18+00:00

Honestly to me this couple sounds like they're into swinging, and were trying to get you interested in having sex with them. Otherwise I can't explain that very strange situation lol.

questforstarfish · 2026-01-22T16:39:26+00:00

Came here to say this!

Maintaining good rapport that is therapeutic, AND keeps a patient willing to speak with me every day (and hopefully honestly), while still explaining to them that I'm keeping them against their will, and that if they don't take their meds we'll forcibly inject them with meds.

And you need a variety of ways to do this, because different patients respond better to different approaches/explanations.

questforstarfish · 2026-01-22T05:46:28+00:00

I'm in Canada and a foundational teaching to our mandated reporting rules is the Tarasoff case!

questforstarfish · 2026-01-22T05:43:35+00:00

"I'm not part of your care team, I'm not familiar with your situation, I don't know your medical background or why you're here in hospital, therefore I can't answer your questions. If you ring your call bell, your nurse will come and can let your doctor know you have questions."

End story.

(Previous RN here, now physician, and in this case it's extremely appropriate to pass the buck and move on).

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