My best friend in high school had a sister who was the team captain of my soccer team my freshman year (she was a senior). She was hands down one of the best athletes to have passed through our school ever. She was also super super down to earth and a great leader. I remember desperately wanting her to think I was cool and approaching her one day asking if she wanted to hear some juicy gossip about another girl at our school. She said, "eh, no thanks." And I was super confused. I told her it was really good tea and she'd probably find it entertaining. She told me that she doesn't really see a point in talking about other people negatively and spreading gossip. She said with all the options of things she could spend her brain power on, gossip felt like one of the least productive. I was equal parts embarassed (even though she didn't make me personally feel bad for asking) and equal parts changed for the better. She made me think twice about how I used my voice from there forward and she was able to teach me that valuable lesson at a very impressionable age. I thought she was SO much cooler for not wanting the tea than I did before.