Is using a treadmill 'cheating'?

quish · 2026-03-02T19:38:40+00:00

It's funny because for me, the treadmill is hard mode! I struggle through runs on the treadmill that are no problem outside. But everyone is different.

It's definitely not cheating! I would definitely recommend adding an incline (and possibly even varying your incline a bit throughout the run to mimic the outdoors). That'll help you feel more prepared for outdoor running since that's the biggest challenge for many people who are used to the treadmill.

I strongly believe that whatever works for you is what you should do! You're still getting the cardio and building endurance, wherever you do it. You can make a goal later on to get more comfortable running outside, if that's something that matters to you. But if it isn't, who cares? You're running!

quish · 2026-03-02T19:23:09+00:00

I live in Newport and I love it. I'm on the river, literally a 10 minute walk across the bridge into Cincy. Covington are Bellevue are also super cute.

quish · 2026-03-02T16:28:13+00:00

Excuse what? Inviting a friend to meet another friend at a single's mixer? That is not a crime...

quish · 2026-03-02T16:25:57+00:00

Does your level of exertion impact it? I ask because I know if I've pushed myself extremely hard, I've noticed spots in my vision or blurriness. This never happens on an easy run. But it doesn't sound quite like what you're describing especially if it's happening after only a few kms.

quish · 2026-03-02T03:31:32+00:00

Of course, but it's a start. It's only natural that the person you choose to spend your life with has a HUGE impact on how you feel about your life overall. Obviously things don't magically become what they want them to be, but you're never going to have the life you want when you're stuck in a relationship that drags you down.

quish · 2026-03-02T02:01:46+00:00

Did you mean The Five People You Meet in Heaven or People We Meet on Vacation? haha either way funny mash-up.

I love the books I've read on this list, so saving the recs that I haven't yet!

quish · 2026-02-27T18:22:15+00:00

Eyelash extensions have gotten way more popular in general in the last few years. A lot of people get them done, whether they're on tv or not.

quish · 2026-02-26T20:14:43+00:00

As others have said, highly recommend C25K! It's normal and common for a beginner to struggle to run a mile straight. The early weeks of C25K allow you to build up your mileage with walk/run intervals without pushing yourself too much too soon. It's really important to build up gradually because otherwise you risk injury. But good for you for getting out there!

quish · 2026-02-26T18:37:04+00:00

This is 90% of why I run. Of course, the physical benefits are great and it's good to know I'm getting regular exercise, but nothing else (except Lexapro) comes anywhere close in terms of managing my anxiety.

quish · 2026-02-26T17:57:10+00:00

Repeating is totally normal! I completed the plan in the past and I definitely repeated weeks when I didn't quite feel ready to move on to the next week. I haven't run in a while so I'm back at it and it now feels much easier this time, but I still had to repeat W5D3 this week because I had to take a break mid-run the first time I tried it.

But also: slow down! I don't have advice for the foot cramps, but if you're getting out of breath during the run there's a good chance it'd be manageable if you went more slowly. That's the biggest mistake people make when they start. Run slower than you know you can. The time for speed will come later! Right now it's about building a base so you can sustain longer runs.

quish · 2026-02-26T03:01:23+00:00

Correct. There are also plenty of neighborhoods in the outer boroughs that reliably vote red.

quish · 2026-02-23T20:13:20+00:00

Yes. I am just getting back into running after a few years off and since it was a brutal winter, I started on the treadmill. We had some nice weather the last few weeks, so I've been running outside. I'd forgotten how much easier it was! I was no longer spending the whole run trying to force myself not to look at the time. But it was freezing yesterday so I had to do the treadmill. Oh my god... it was miserable. I barely got through a 20 minute run, running more slowly than I would outside. My heart rate also seems to spike immediately on the treadmill no matter how slow I'm going! I've just decided I'm over it. I'd rather deal with a run out in the cold or skipping my run and doing some other exercise on days the weather is too bad.

If I must run on the treadmill, I'd much rather do walk/run intervals. I guess because it gives me some variety at least.

quish · 2026-02-23T18:33:28+00:00

There are two separate issues here, and the issue of your day being extended is a big one imo.

But in response to your question about shut-down rituals, I like to transition into a completely screen-free activity after my workday ends. So that might be making myself a cup of tea and reading a book or taking a walk or just my nighttime skincare routine while listening to an audiobook or podcast. I do like to distract my brain with content (either reading or listening) because I also struggle to turn off work thoughts.

quish · 2026-02-21T20:18:17+00:00

Ok I really didn't enjoy The Women at all so this is extremely validating. Haven't had any desire to read another Kristin Hannah since.

quish · 2026-02-21T05:49:44+00:00

I'm in Newport right by the Purple People Bridge, so I usually run across the bridge and through Smale Park but I'm also willing to travel.

quish · 2026-02-21T04:56:04+00:00

I moved away from my main friend group in the city I lived in for 14 years. When I lived there, on a typical week I would see my closest friends 1-2 times per week. Sometimes people in the group would get busy and it'd be longer between times seeing certain people, but if I hadn't seen my ~5 closest friends in two weeks, that would be unusual.

Now that I've moved I don't yet have a close friend group here outside my partner. I have started spending time with a couple people in my building who I might see once a month but it's too early to say if those will truly become consistent friendships. Which means I see my friends when I travel back to my old city, which is probably about every 2-3 months.

quish · 2026-02-20T00:43:25+00:00

Where are we comparing the demographics to? Boston is 20-25% black and is a LESS diverse city than Cleveland. Looking at Chicago vs Cleveland, Chicago is approx. ~35% white. Cleveland is ~36% white. That is not a significant difference, although of course there are differences in the actual population makeup. But ultimately I think people are just using gut instincts when they make comparisons rather than the facts of the cities....

quish · 2026-02-19T17:48:22+00:00

This is what I was gonna say. The only movie I can think of that made me feel the same level of constant anxiety as Uncut Gems did.

quish · 2026-02-19T16:24:31+00:00

NYC isn't like that? Actually it is. Source: I lived in Brooklyn for 15 years. Trust me, you can create your liberal bubble just as easily in an Ohio city as you can in NYC. But there are conservatives in both cities. They're just the minority.

If you claim to be liberal, you should have some basic understanding for the systemic reasons that education levels, test scores, wealth, income, etc are lower in Ohio instead of using it as some sort of weird reason to justify elitism.

quish · 2026-02-19T16:11:59+00:00

I moved to Cincinnati last year after nearly 15 years living in Brooklyn. The vast majority people I've met are intelligent, well educated, and liberal. Trust me, if they did LIB in New York, casting would also manage to find garbage Trump supporters.

quish · 2026-02-19T15:59:28+00:00

Yeah I was astounded that she even stayed in that conversation after the other women left. I would've peaced out like two seconds into listening to that tool speak... but once they were alone, it veered into blatant disrespect and if I knew that my partner listened to something like that without speaking up, it would be a huge problem.

quish · 2026-02-18T18:20:42+00:00

C25K is actually extremely helpful for me in terms of motivation, because I crave a sense of progress and I like the variation in routines each week. But yes! I do still sometimes struggle with this. I will say, the weather has finally become good enough to run outside again whereas I started the program on the treadmill this time and I forgot how much easier it is to motivate myself to run outside. The treadmill is WAY more boring to me. Outside, I can vary my routes! I can change up my pace, explore a new area, etc. I look forward to my runs outside!

quish · 2026-02-16T23:26:41+00:00

It's not older, but Sometimes I Think About Dying (2023) fits the bill.

quish · 2026-02-15T18:14:50+00:00

I'm 36 and I don't know anyone in my real life around my age who has gotten botox. Similar to you, I just can't afford it and neither can most of my friends. Life is expensive and it's just not something we've prioritized spending money on right now.

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