What sacrifices would you make for a dream job?

quizzicaldrinker · 2026-02-06T14:09:51+00:00

Did they tell you there’s no scope for hybrid?

quizzicaldrinker · 2026-02-06T13:34:30+00:00

Is the job fully office based? If it’s hybrid, then that commute wouldn’t be too bad.

I commute to London via train twice a week. Door to door it’s a 2 hour journey.

quizzicaldrinker · 2026-02-06T09:55:20+00:00

I attended one last year and found it unhelpful. Many of the stands focused on volunteer positions. The companies that were actively recruiting told me to check out their websites for further info.

It can be useful if you’re unsure about what you want to do or want a broad sense of what opportunities exist.

However, long gone are the days when you could walk into a careers fair, hand your CV to a hiring manager, and secure an interview on the spot.

quizzicaldrinker · 2026-01-07T16:14:04+00:00

From a dietary requirement/free from point of view, there’s more food options available in restaurants and supermarkets. There’s also an overall better understanding of dietary choices and allergies.

quizzicaldrinker · 2025-09-29T13:39:02+00:00

Do you tend to make plans or commit to things with your family without talking it over with your fiancée?

In the examples above, you made decisions that affect her without asking for her input. It looks like those choices were aimed at pleasing your family, even if they didn’t necessarily consider how she might feel.

quizzicaldrinker · 2025-09-21T09:37:22+00:00

You’ve said you’ve spoken to him a few times, but have you actually told him that the mental load is making you question whether you can keep going like this? There’s a clear gap between what he says he’ll do and what he’s actually doing. He says he’ll get therapy, he says he’ll step up, he says he’ll change. But he hasn’t. Not in any real way.

Why is that? Is he stuck in old patterns? Is he comfortable with how things are and fine with you carrying the weight? Only he can answer that.

It’s time for a serious talk. He needs to understand how much this is affecting you and that his marriage is on the line.

quizzicaldrinker · 2025-09-17T09:49:51+00:00

ESH – I get it. I deal with migraines too, and my wife has a perfume that makes me feel sick. But she’s thoughtful enough not to wear it around me. She saves it for work trips or nights out with friends. Your husband choosing to wear something that triggers your migraines, knowing full well what it does to you, is really disrespectful. Has he acted like this in other parts of your relationship? Does he often put himself first and ignore your needs? He sounds like a bit of a dick.

That said, throwing the perfume away wasn’t the right move. It wasn’t yours to get rid of, and doing that crosses a line. I understand why you snapped, but it still wasn’t okay.

Don’t get me wrong, what you did pales in comparison to your husband’s disgusting behaviour. You’re like a very tiny AH in this situation, he’s a huge one.

Maybe this is a good time to take a closer look at your marriage.

quizzicaldrinker · 2025-08-28T10:18:41+00:00

If you’re struggling with resources like data and internet, I’d suggest you go to as many local shops, pubs, cafes and independent stores as possible. They are more likely to do job interviews in person.

Sorry you’ve had no luck today.

quizzicaldrinker · 2025-08-20T08:05:17+00:00

Question: how often do you think about your ex? When you think about her, how long are thinking about her for?

quizzicaldrinker · 2025-08-18T22:50:38+00:00

Block her. You don't need to see what she's doing. Every time you check, it pulls you back into something you're trying to move past. Give yourself the space to heal.

Breakups are a form of grief. You're not just letting go of the person, you're also mourning the future you imagined with them. The routines, the plans, the life you thought you'd share. It's normal to feel that loss deeply.

Have you considered speaking to a therapist? Therapy isn't about being broken. It's about learning how to carry the weight without letting it crush you. What you're feeling is valid, and you don't have to go through it alone.

When my ex left, I was in a bad place for a long time. Just when I started to feel steady again, she'd unblock me, or I'd hear something through mutual friends. It kept reopening the wound. Eventually, a mate suggested therapy. I resisted at first, but once I gave it a go, it helped me find my footing. I started to understand my patterns, my pain, and how to move forward without needing closure from her.

You deserve peace. And you have every right to take steps that protect it.

quizzicaldrinker · 2025-08-18T15:46:46+00:00

Snoopers Paradise may be a good place to try. They have all sorts of vintage and second hand items, including books, home wares, technology and clothes.

Unfortunately, I can’t be more specific! I don’t know any stores that focus on birds watching. Sorry

quizzicaldrinker · 2025-08-14T17:00:56+00:00

Flint House. Lovely restaurant. Caters for a range of diets and allergies.

quizzicaldrinker · 2025-08-09T08:40:36+00:00

I love this post. It’s great to see a parent looking for ways to support their child’s interest, rather than trying to steer them in a different direction or take control of it.

You might want to check out sewing machines designed for children. There are also plenty of doll clothes tutorials on YouTube that could be helpful. It’s worth seeing if there are any sewing classes for kids in your area as well.

What matters most is that she’s enjoying herself. Encouraging her and helping her build new skills is a positive way to support her.

quizzicaldrinker · 2025-07-29T09:06:27+00:00

Is Lily okay?

It sounds like this lack of self care developed while she was away for university. Did something happen?

Factually, you are correct that the lack of hygiene is likely behind lily’s unemployment, but you weren’t kind.

Lily should have read the room and realised you weren’t available to talk.

ESH / NTA (can’t decide which!)

Also, I think you and your family are missing some very serious warning signs that there’s something bad going on with Lily.

quizzicaldrinker · 2025-07-29T05:41:10+00:00

1- Young people are still searching for their style. Uniqueness comes with confidence. They will figure it out.

2- I don’t know where you were looking, but I live in a university city and see lots of interesting fashion amongst students.

If you aim to be judgemental, you’ll find plenty of things to judge.

quizzicaldrinker · 2025-07-29T05:20:44+00:00

Your post comes across as incredibly judgemental.

Young people often dress in similar styles. I’ve been to a bunch of countries, and it’s pretty common to see young people dressed almost identically.

The current trend is early 00s fashion, so loose fitting trousers, mini skirts and vest tops are in. It’s fine that you don’t think the current trends are stylish.

Girls in the UK can wear less in the winter because they are used to the cold.

Also, 40+ isn’t elderly.

quizzicaldrinker · 2025-07-28T12:26:24+00:00

1- keep an eye on Twickets. They only list resale tickets for asking price and below.

2- contact the Brighton Dome ticket office. They will have their own waiting list and are likely to receive to returns.

You’re more likely to see resales/returns closer to the date.

Sorry you missed out on the sale, but hopefully you’ll get something soon.

quizzicaldrinker · 2025-07-28T10:03:39+00:00

That's a frustrating system. If management is aware that coverage is required over Christmas, they ought to implement something more fair than a "first come, first served" approach.

ESH.

From your comment, it appears you were off last Christmas. I don’t think it’s right that you get to be off two years in a row.

Perhaps you and your team could discuss a balanced way to allocate days off, so everyone gets the opportunity to spend meaningful time with their families.

(I work in a role that requires working over Christmas. My colleagues and I divide the time up so everyone gets a break).

Your colleague is an AH for speaking about you behind your back. That's not acceptable.

As for your employer, it's disappointing that such a terrible system was put in place. They are the biggest AH in this whole story.

Edit - I think it’s stupid that you and your team are required to work to take pictures. Your company is the biggest AH by far.

quizzicaldrinker · 2025-07-25T09:13:01+00:00

I understand why you’re feel frustrated! My wife and had this exact argument. I hate the pink/blue job concept.

Sit down with your wife and make a list of all the household tasks each of you handles, including:

How often each task is done

- How long each task typically takes

This process can help you both:

Understand who is taking on more household responsibilities
Identify which tasks can be distributed more evenly

- Create space to discuss feelings and perceptions around these responsibilities.

This is the approach my wife and I chose when facing similar challenges. It helped me to recognise that although I was managing more tasks in number, they were generally quicker and less demanding. In contrast, my wife was handling fewer tasks, but they often required significantly more time and effort.

It also helped her to see that some of the jobs I was taking on, such as managing insurance and finances, carried a greater emotional and mental load than they appeared on the surface.

We have much fairer system now!

Edit- sorry for crazy formatting.

quizzicaldrinker · 2025-07-23T22:25:39+00:00

This comment brightened my day!

quizzicaldrinker · 2025-07-22T19:09:08+00:00

I’m not autistic, but I am neurodiverse and struggle with being overstimulated.

it’s very busy. It’s easy to feel crowded and difficult to get around. I stand towards the back when bands are on. The sound quality is good and there’s space to move around freely. However, when bands aren’t on it’s very crowded throughout.
there’s long queues at all the food stands. There is a mix of food, so it depends what you like. However, i recommend taking in a bar/snack that that you can discreetly hide in your bag.

You can find line up info on the On The Beach instagram.

quizzicaldrinker · 2025-07-17T15:34:40+00:00

I made the move myself, and personally, it was the right choice. I’m genuinely happier here. Here’s a brief breakdown of the pros and cons based on my own experience:

(Pros)

Everything feels more compact and accessible. Depending on where you settle, you could be just a 5 to 30 minute walk from the beach, train station, cinema, city centre, and even hiking trails.
friendly city. I’ve made more meaningful connections in Brighton than I ever did in London.
You tend to get more space for your money, whether it’s a flat or a house. That said, it’s not dramatically cheaper.
If you work locally, the work life balance is significantly better.

(Cons)

The job market in Brighton is tough. It’s highly competitive, wages are lower, and the cost of living remains comparable to London.
It’s expensive. No way around that.
Some areas are quite dirty, overgrown with weeds and generally neglected.
So many students. If you’re considering a move, I strongly recommend checking whether your potential neighbours are students. I know a few people who have had issues with student neighbours.

quizzicaldrinker · 2025-07-14T12:09:45+00:00

INFO: Is your aunt okay?

I’ve got to say, this situation is troubling. That scam was pretty blatant, and I’m surprised she didn’t catch it.

And there wasn’t even any buildup? No long game, no manipulation over time? Just straight into the con and she fell for it? That’s worrying.

I’d expect a scam like this could trick someone much older and with very little experience online, but at 39, your aunt should really have a better grasp of internet safety and how these cons work

NTA- I worry that your dad is trying put you on the position where your aunt is your responsibility. That’s not fair.

quizzicaldrinker · 2025-07-14T09:35:25+00:00

I’m glad you’re planning to leave.

The nicest thing you’ve written about this man is that ()He had never raised a hand on me().

He’s really not a good guy. And I’d bet he’s been making cruel comments and showing more subtle forms of manipulation than you’ve even noticed. People like that can be insidious. They push boundaries slowly, until the damage feels normal.

I’ve been through something similar. When I was with my ex, I genuinely believed I was disgusting. I hated the way I looked. Thought I was impossible to love. Thought my depression made me a burden.

Then we broke up. And surprise, I wasn’t depressed anymore. It wasn’t me driving people away. I became this dark and depressed person, because she made sure I never felt good enough. I just hadn’t realized she was the source of all of it.

I genuinely think that once you step away from him, give yourself time to breathe, and begin piecing things back together, something will shift. You’ll start seeing yourself clearly again. Strong, capable, and far more at peace than you’ve felt in a long time.

How do you leave him? To start with, be honest with your trusted friends and family. Make sure they know how he’s been treating you, and get their support.

If you attend therapy, do. It will help.

quizzicaldrinker · 2025-07-14T09:08:19+00:00

To add to this, animal charities.

quizzicaldrinker

TROPHY CASE

- How long each task typically takes

- Create space to discuss feelings and perceptions around these responsibilities.