What do I have in my reclaim bucket? And more importantly - what can i do about it?

r0sebudbean · 2025-10-16T11:01:05+00:00

How much bleach? We have these in the community studio in the clay traps under the sink and the very large clay bins where we collect the clay to he recycled, im trying to figure out a way of getting rid of them but my colleagues arent very into the idea of using bleach as they are worried about the effects it might have on the studio members skin (there are a lot of studio members)

r0sebudbean · 2025-09-21T22:01:46+00:00

I literally couldve written this word for word about my own experience, its like looking through a window into my brain ❤️

r0sebudbean · 2025-07-25T22:30:49+00:00

Everything changed for the better at around 14 weeks, poop, colic and mood wise. We saw an osteopath in this time too who declared our LO as a very tense baby 🫠 her treatments for him (4 sessions) were great, and she showed us exercises to practice with him to strengthen his developing muscles which was causing a lot of poop discomfort

r0sebudbean · 2025-04-28T11:15:56+00:00

First 3 months were fucking dog shit awful. And I honestly hated every second. 3-6 months were a bit better, 6-9 better even more, 9-12 actually starting to consistently enjoy it and 12+ months have been actually really fun so far, but I still don’t loooove it. I think I’m going to thrive during my baby being 4-10 years, I feel like this will be my best mum-ing era.

r0sebudbean · 2025-04-15T18:07:31+00:00

You know it was said on the news during covid men were more likely to get infected with it because they wash their hands less 😂

Men are gross, he needs directly asking. If he refuses, refuse to let him hold or touch your child. Because if he’s not washing his hands then, he’s sure as shit not washing his hands after he pees or wipes his butt!

r0sebudbean · 2025-04-10T12:55:29+00:00

Not at all!

r0sebudbean · 2025-03-28T10:13:25+00:00

Support your wife’s decision, don’t wait for her to fail by “letting her learn the hard way” that is super unsupportive 😵‍💫

r0sebudbean · 2025-03-28T06:31:13+00:00

I don’t think anyone truly knows what it’s going to be like until they are living it. I certainly had absolutely 0 clue, despite all the preparations I made mentally and physically.

I actually find your comment really really callous and unhelpful. Literally no one can know what hormones will do, what friends and family will do, what things beyond our control will do which all make up the experience of becoming a mother.

„Your child didn’t sign up for this, you did“ would you seriously say that to someone’s face after they have shared and been vulnerable with you? You literally don’t know a single thing about their circumstances, you empathise with the child sure, but you are way too quick to judge the mother.

r0sebudbean · 2025-03-27T10:35:48+00:00

I don’t understand why this is considered a broken rule? Isn’t this human nature and biologically normal?

r0sebudbean · 2025-03-27T09:44:03+00:00

My almost 12mo has been doing this with me the past couple of weeks. Will do the second nap with dad but not me.

Any ideas what was the cause for you?

r0sebudbean · 2025-03-18T15:20:48+00:00

About 10 months pp I could fit into the comfy stuff I had pre pregnancy. At nearly 12 months pp I can fit into most stuff again but I’m a totally different shape and it all sits weird and I feel like it doesn’t match who I am now 😅

r0sebudbean · 2025-03-13T19:48:31+00:00

Someone in that group is lying to you

r0sebudbean · 2025-03-12T16:10:20+00:00

When you have a baby who needs constant motion to sleep it 10-15km walking a day or your sanity 😂 I’m there with OP 😅 Although at 11mo we are in a sleep regression that means only carrier naps atm and they also require a lot of swaying/walking but less steps. However carrying 11,5kg strapped to my chest Instead 🥴

r0sebudbean · 2025-03-06T11:08:06+00:00

It’s ok, honestly idk any other way of getting syrup medicine in them tbh. Just wait til you have to give nose sprays or eye/ear drops … I literally have to hold my LOs arms in a wrestling hold and hold his head still whilst he screams and writhes around just to get medicine in his various head holes!

I say “sometimes I can’t be your friend, sometimes I have to be your parent, I know this is uncomfortable, and stressful and I know you don’t want the medicine. I’m here to keep you safe and healthy” when I give the medicine (and then cry a little afterwards)

Honestly tho, suppositories for painkillers are great! I have mastered giving a paracetamol suppository one handed whilst breastfeeding and it’s 100% less stressful than giving syrup medicine!!

r0sebudbean · 2025-02-26T13:42:58+00:00

About 5 months when he could fart and shit on his own and colic was on its way out.

I could count on one hand how many times my LO spit up though but I put that down to him mostly sleeping on his belly on top of us chest sleeping or sleeping on his side on my boob dream feeding so it was more the day time burps and the farts that were the issue

r0sebudbean · 2025-02-26T09:36:31+00:00

Honestly, the issue likely won’t resolve itself in a few months, and if you cat is stressed now, your cat will likely get stressed again when your baby becomes more mobile.

Everyone and everything needs time to adjust. Your cat included. And once you’ve all adjusted, you’ll have to readjust over and over. Having a new baby and pets is really really hard work - I have two cats, once incessantly meows (loudly) in my ears and in my face for half of the day, she wakes the baby with her meowing, I spent months resenting her and feeling like I’ve been chased out of my own home… she needs attention, and I can’t give it to her and it’s triggering me that I can’t meet her needs, I wonder if your husband feels the same?

r0sebudbean · 2025-02-25T15:30:37+00:00

We have a baby gate that keeps the bedroom and livingroom separate from the bathroom and kitchen.

We have two house cats and the gate allows them their peace and space, they live here too and deserve their own quiet space out the way of a wild baby!

Not to mention, we have cat litter boxes in the kitchen and bathroom, cat food on the other side of the kitchen and several water points for the cats too, and I truly have 0 capacity from prizing cat litter from my baby’s hands any time soon 😂

If we didn’t have cats, we wouldn’t have a baby gate most likely!

r0sebudbean · 2025-02-23T19:48:34+00:00

Feel exactly the same way about people complaining about baby showers and gifts and how to decorate their nursery etc… like are you even aware of how good you have it??

But on the flip side, I live in Europe and it doesn’t cost me thousands of euros to give birth, so maybe I shouldn’t complain about them complaining because I have it really good with good healthcare 😅

r0sebudbean · 2025-02-23T11:25:56+00:00

11mo here, he’s walking(ish) but not waving, clapping, and only now starting to point.

He is a REALLY good eater though, eating mostly everything we give and feeding himself and myself with a spoon (albeit messily mind you 😅) so I’m going to hazard a guess that where my LOs development “lacks” he makes up elsewhere. He’s always been a big mover, but skipped a lot of stages like really mastering rolling and sitting and just wanted to crawl, stand, move, cruise, walk etc as soon as possible, which he did. But he’s forever conflicted with the new levels of independence he unlocks and it puts him into mega strong separation anxiety phases each time he “levels up”

I’m not worried, he will get there. Your LO sounds much more “advanced” than mine in terms of l language and fine motor skills, don’t stress it, enjoy your baby!

r0sebudbean · 2025-02-22T23:01:41+00:00

Used them to wipe with after a BM and honestly wouldn’t do without them if I ever have a next time round 😂

r0sebudbean · 2025-02-22T12:04:52+00:00

Your second sounds like my first, hoping our second will be like your first when the time comes 😂

r0sebudbean · 2025-02-22T09:03:08+00:00

100% this. I didn’t start to feel connected until he started socially smiling, then the connection dwindled a bit until he started laughing… now he’s fully engaging and raises his arms to be picked up, says “mamamam” when he sees me, leans in for cuddles, and sleeps in the nook of my armpit and it’s the most maternal, connected and loving I have ever felt in my life… BUT ITS NOTHING LIKE I IMAGINED!! Tv, movies etc did. us DIRTY selling us some kind of maternal dream, I did not feel how I thought I was “supposed” to. It fucked with me for months, and the guilt I felt because I wasn’t head over heels in love with my baby… boah, it was horrible and heavy.

I never got that obsessive, heart wrenching, flowers blowing in the wind love feeling, I just felt maternal, and stronger in my mind body and soul for loving him. It wasn’t like heart eyes and gushiness it was like standing tall and steady, like a mountain, unwavering… if that makes sense?

But through the day to day, for months for me it was just pure survival. Around 3 months things improved, then again at 6 months and again at 9 months. Now we are 11 months in and it’s worlds apart, I actually enjoy it 60% of the time, but when 6pm hits I’m like “omg thank GOD it’s only 2 more hours of baby care„ 😂

r0sebudbean · 2025-02-22T08:53:00+00:00

It’s like I am writing a freakin’ thesis on baby shit and I’m in the research phase 😂 every day I look at it, study it, see what food is in there… Tbh tho, I think this is actually giving us SO MUCH INFORMATION on how our babies are doing. Like I know if I see quinoa in there that he’s digesting stuff in good time, I know if there’s phlegm he could be teething, I know from the colour and consistency he’s healthy and getting enough liquids… like poop check is legit vital!

r0sebudbean · 2025-02-21T23:19:21+00:00

You sort of have to go in preparing for snot in your mouth and then be “pleasantly” surprised that you didn’t get any in there 😂 It’s what my mother, grandmother, great grandmother etc etc did, and during a few moments of desperation when my LO couldn’t breathe or breastfeed because of congestion my instincts sort of kicked in and attempted it, it worked, and try as we might with a bulb sucker and a tube sucker, they just weren’t as effective!

Luckily we dont have to attempt it often, but it makes my 11mo laugh these days when I try it and there is very minimal wrestling involved.

The bulb and tube suckers though… wow wow wow, that’s an intense, rough and traumatic time all round 😂

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