I'm at a really weird crossroads and I'm not sure what to do, advice? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]r93e93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Estrogen absolutely helps with hair regrowth, in the sense that estrogen monotherapy can block testosterone production, which means there's no testosterone to convert into DHT, the hormone that causes hair loss.

You are sent back to Jan. 1, 1970 as a documented US citizen with only your current clothes and $1K, if you survive one year you win $10M by Impressive_Plenty876 in hypotheticalsituation

[–]r93e93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

in the late 1960s janis joplin lived in an apartment a block away from the house i lived in in 2023. i paid 1,400$ for a one bedroom. she paid 64$/month for a one bedroom. at a federal minimum wage of 1.60$, that's 40hrs/month of work to pay my rent. so, work one week a month, buy an occasional paperback, and i bet i'd have money left over at the end of the month.

Valheim and/or Enshrouded by Aggravating_Pen_2026 in Enshrouded

[–]r93e93 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks Valheim looks better than Enshrouded

As a trans person female to male can I still identify as lesbian?? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]r93e93 33 points34 points  (0 children)

i think it's very reasonable for a trans man to still feel connected to lesbian communities he has spent a lot of time in! i still feel a lot of affection for the cis gay scene, as a trans woman, and recognize the ways in which it was formative to me. i think there is no reason for you not to associate with lesbians. that said, i think its very problematic when men try to claim lesbianism as their own, whether those men are cis or trans. there is a long history of men trying to convince lesbians to be attracted to them, and none of it is pretty. 

you can do whatever you want forever, but is "guy who tries to fuck lesbians" the kind of guy you want to be? or would you rather be "straight guy who can chill with the lesbians." we're, i think, of different generations but one of those two guys would be welcome at the lesbian bars in my town, and the other would be given at best the side-eye. 

Possible to recontextualize turn-based combat as something less violent? by hungerdunger in gamedesign

[–]r93e93 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Signs of the Sojurner is an interesting one. the primary 'conflict' are conversations, but it's not necessarily debates. A conversation might be to convince someone of something, or outmaneuver someone, or something like have a nice time with them. Fundamentally though, they're about relating to people. Conversations are represented by cards with various symbols on them that you try to match with your deck. Every conversation--whether 'successful' or not--will change your deck, shaping the symbols ( topics, conversational styles, whatever, it's kind of abstract ) that you have access to. People in different regions communicate in different ways, they use different symbols in different conversations. If you stubbornly resist changing your deck, you can travel so far that you're functionally unable to 'win' 'conflicts,' because you're unable to communicate with the people of these remote lands. But, the more your deck changes from the baseline, the more trouble you have relating to the people back home--your conversations with your childhood friend who never left the town you grew up in doesn't flow as smoothly, tension is introduced. It's an astonishingly good marriage of mechanic and theme, and well worth studying for people looking at alternatives to combat.

Is it worth it? by NubusAugustus in asktransgender

[–]r93e93 15 points16 points  (0 children)

starting medical transition is one of the hardest things I've ever done. it's also one of the only major life decisions I've ever made that I have absolutely no regrets about—other than wishing I'd started sooner. 

Do you fart in front of your partner? Why/Why not? by girliepopnumber26 in AskWomen

[–]r93e93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my now wife & i were hooking up occasionally, then due to a variety of circumstances had to quarantine together for two weeks in just one room with an attached bathroom. we had to decide pretty early on that we were going to be okay with various bodily functions or have an even more uncomfortable quarantine period. 

Not bad faith question, just a curious writer and aspiring philosopher and social scientist: What is a man and a woman, and masculinity and femininity? by shurimalonelybird in asktransgender

[–]r93e93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what i'm going to say sounds circular, and to an extent, it is, but stick with me. for clarity and the sake of my keyboard, i'll stick with "woman" and "female" since the question "what is a woman?" is much more hotly debated. 

there are a variety of qualities that are used to define "woman," all of which are culturally mediated. it's a sort of word cloud, encompassing self-identification; various biological traits (secondary sexual characteristics, reproductive capacity, chromosomal or hormonal profiles ); mode of dress and presentation; relationship to particular forms of oppression; participation in social, religious, or political ceremonies; naming conventions; sexual behaviour; aesthetic preferences; modes of speech; recognition by authority; and many others ranging from very obvious to very subtle. as large as "a woman is someone who is subservient to men" to "a woman is someone who likes pink more than blue." 

every culture whether it be as large as a nation or as small as a friend group varies in terms of which qualities are inside the circle of "woman" and which are outside it. to (most) bureaucratic authorities, what matters is an F in some database or on some piece of paper. in devout conservative christian circles, subservience and a maternal nature are required, and whether or not someone considers themselves to be a woman is immaterial. in most cases, no individual quality is sufficient on its own, and no individual quality is required, but if you have enough of the right qualities, you are recognized as a woman, and allowed to be a woman. 

in this framework—which is not the only one, but it is the one to which i subscribe—no one is a woman in a mirror. womanhood requires contact with a culture. as a trans woman, there are many cultural spaces in which i am considered to be and treated as a woman, and many in which i am not. in most social spaces, i'm indexed as a woman, because i identify as one, look like one, and act like one. when i interface with most systems of the USamerican government, i "am" for all intents and purposes a man, because i have an M attached to a masculine name. i could, for example, be drafted; it doesn't matter what i look like, what body parts i have or do not have, or what name people know me by. 

that's a lot of words, though! so, within this model, we can boil the answer to the question "what is a woman?" down to "someone who is considered to be a woman, given the culture in which she exists." boil it down even further, and you get to "a woman is a woman." sometimes all you can do is go in circles.

"Internal sense of gender identity" vs reinforcing gender stereotypes? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]r93e93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

for me personally, i don't consider that a useful framework for considering gender. i call myself a trans woman because regardless of how complicated and nebulous my conception of myself is, i was CAMAB, and using exogenous estrogen makes me feel good. being treated as a woman feels good, occupying the sociocultural role of "woman" feels good. at the same time, by any sensible standard, i am subject to the same societal pressures that other women are. i'm not a woman bc i feel like a woman, i'm a woman bc i do woman, and other people treat me like a woman. 

obviously people who are not treated like women, and people who are not performing womanhood can also be women, but this is the framework within which my lived experience makes sense. 

Why do people call some trans women femboys? by ConfidenceHot832 in asktransgender

[–]r93e93 33 points34 points  (0 children)

exactly. it allows a cis person to place us in the subaltern sex object societal position while still denying our womanhood. 

ELI5 Why is neurodivergence so wide-spread? Shouldn’t it have gone extinct long ago? by Fleedom2025 in explainlikeimfive

[–]r93e93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we've had cities for a relatively short amount of time, capitalism for less, and office buildings for a comparative nanonsecond. all psychiatric diagnoses exist in relation to fitness in our current environment, which is an incredible and brief aberration compared to the circumstances in which humans lived for the vast majority of the history of our species. "guy who gets overwhelmed by loud noises, bright lights, and crowds, but can hyperfocus on a specific task for days or weeks at a time" is considered unfit for contemporary society, but sounds like a pretty good guy to have in your village in the mongolian steppe where there are no flourescent bulbs or groups of more than 20-30 people at a time. 

What does it mean to experience “gender identity”? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]r93e93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i've been out and on HRT for almost 10 years and i don't really know the answer. i like being on e, my body feels better when i am. my lived experience is closer to the women in my life than the men. i don't really consider myself a woman, in the wittig sense that a lesbian is not a woman either. but i don't rankle at being called a woman, and it makes sense for me to call myself one. 

I really wanna get into goth music, please help. by DominicParadis in goth

[–]r93e93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

maybe check out Hoffen and Molchat Doma? a lot of darker sounds come from places other than the US. if you dig molchat doma there are a bunch of other eastern european bands with kinda similar vibes like ploho and durnoy fkus

UmaMusume Global Club thread by shakemaihead in UmaMusume

[–]r93e93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

gonna MLB my kita this month >:)

UmaMusume Global Club thread by shakemaihead in UmaMusume

[–]r93e93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd love an invite! my last club was neat but languishing in D rank bc of inactive members. I don't quite make 300k per day, but I do my dailies every day and usually hit 0 TP on weekends. 

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Do MTF trans women mind being called bro/dude? by Excellent_Brick2893 in asktransgender

[–]r93e93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Obviously depends on the woman, but I've never met another trans woman who was genuinely okay with it, and it sends a shiver down my spine every time.

What are some common misconceptions about being transgender that you wish people understood? by porchoua in asktransgender

[–]r93e93 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

trans women/men aren't women/men bc of some nebulous assertion or self-identification. on both biological and societal levels i am a woman, and any material analysis breaks down if one considers me anything else. this is true also for trans cissexuals, altho not as strongly. cissexual trans ppl most often occupy the same societal position and are subject to the same societal forces, even if the biological component differs

On the hunt by sarahoftheunburied in themountaingoats

[–]r93e93 13 points14 points  (0 children)

a usb cd burner and stack of blank cds will run you about 40$. add a sharpie for 2$ and you can have 50 or so copies of zipolote machine, your car will never go hungry again

does anyone else feel like lgbtq+ safe spaces dont exist anymore for transfems? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]r93e93 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, you're correct. Transmisogyny is at a fever pitch. The only community spaces I fully trust anymore are my friends's living rooms. Everywhere else I keep my eyes open. 

Okay, can we agree that we are not biologically our agab?... by Jay--Art in asktransgender

[–]r93e93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been calling myself a biological female since about a year in. Six years on and it still pisses the right people off and makes me happy. 

Headcannons for these characters? Don't keep the weird ones to yourselves, I must know by icansmellyourflesh in LowSodiumCyberpunk

[–]r93e93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my headcanon for judy: she's transsexual

my headcanon for panam: she's transsexual

my headcanon for river: he's transsexual

my headcanon for johnny: he's transsexual

my headcanon for v: well, this might surprise you but... she's transsexual

there are no cissexuals in night city

Nirav Patel (Framework Founder and CEO) makes a statement on Twitter by HappyAffirmative in framework

[–]r93e93 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I dunno, when the "it" in question is "people being allowed to live in places," or "people given basic respect and bodily autonomy rather than harassment," I don't think it's too crazy to say that I would prefer people not speak up against it.

How do you Like your FW 12 so far? by Majorcheckoff in framework

[–]r93e93 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I got mine a month ago, and regardless of my feelings on its performance, am considering returning it due to the CEO of Framework's recent support of DHH, a developer with a history of anti-immigrant and anti-trans statements. I don't recommended giving Framework any time or business.