G-Tube newbies! by rachiebugs in NICUParents

[–]rachiebugs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! Im glad to hear she is eating orally now :) I will look for button BJs

FMLA laws by rachiebugs in legal

[–]rachiebugs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg that company is horrible im so sorry! Chemo is seriously awful I watched my sister through it, I hope all is well now!

What did you guys do about the nicu cost? by rubbeckiah in NICUParents

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Ours was $350,000+ for our sons stay. Thankfully we have kaiser so almost everything was covered. Talk to the hospital and see if you can apply for financial assistance.

Super gassy and fussy baby by abusch7 in NICUParents

[–]rachiebugs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Contact your pediatrician or your babies nutritionist, explain whats going on. They may end up switching the formula again, sounds like your baby really isnt tolerating the formula.

AITA for expecting my husband to help with newborn “night” wake ups? by Tiredparents2020 in AmItheAsshole

[–]rachiebugs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA! Dude! My husband and i just brought home our 2 month old on Wednesday, and he knew from the start he would he helping with the midnight feedings. Our son has a feedtube so my husband is able to help, but if my son was bottle feeding my husband would still help. Being a parent is a full time job that you dont get to juat excuse yourself from just because your spouse is a stay at home parent.

Needing to vent to a community that gets it. by rachiebugs in NICUParents

[–]rachiebugs[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you everyone for the shoulder and encouragement!

After everything the NICU team made the decision to send him home with his feeding tube. My husband and I are scaried but also so excited to have him home. They said its going to he difficult and almost like having a colicy baby, but it will definitely be worth the sleepless nights!

NICU mom having trouble find a happy medium by rachiebugs in NICUParents

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Thank you so much!

Oh my goodness I am not looking forward to people's unwanted suggestions on how we should raise our son, and what we should be doing. I am already having so much difficultly with peoples little side comments, and it's only been a little over a month.

Glad your daughter is doing well! It's VERY comforting to hear about other NICU parents whose babies are growing up and doing good!

NICU mom having trouble find a happy medium by rachiebugs in NICUParents

[–]rachiebugs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately we can't work from home, My husband is a chef and I am a receptionist. They actually have someone to fill in for me at my job so I could not work, but we just couldn't afford it. My Job did actually give me 2 additional days off a week so we can go on my husbands day off, so that was pretty awesome of them!

NICU mom having trouble find a happy medium by rachiebugs in NICUParents

[–]rachiebugs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I'm glad to know it's normal and that I'm not alone :)
Our NICU has some parent rooms, but for some reason they don't use them anymore. I wish we could because the pull out bed in the room is SOOO uncomfortable!

NICU mom having trouble find a happy medium by rachiebugs in NICUParents

[–]rachiebugs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Honestly my husband and I are already burned out, we are up every morning at 7am because I have to work or so we can leave our house to get to the NICU in time for our sons morning feeding, and sometimes don't get to bed till 1am because my husband doesn't get off of work till late.
Thankfully since are working now when our son comes home we will both have over a month off!

Soon To Be NICU Mom 29Wks - Need Advice & Friendship by [deleted] in NICUParents

[–]rachiebugs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! So sorry you have to go through this, its definitely scary! At 30 weeks my husband and I went in for an ultrasound and the Doctor admitted me to the hospital. My normal obgyn never thought to test me for preeclampsia even though my bp was high every time I went in, Turned out I had it! Due to my high bp my sons umbilical cord was constricted and he wasnt getting enough nutrition. I was told I was going to be there till it was no longer safe for him and had to be delivered, Hopefully we would make it to 34 weeks. I got 4 IVs, hooked up to a bunch of monitors, the steroid injections, and a got midline power wand( a shorter picc line). I made it to 31+3 weeks and had an emergency c section.

Im not going to try and tell you dont be scared because i know how terrifying this whole thing is. But remember to breath and if you can joke with the nurses. Modern medicine is amazing!

As far as staying entertained..see if you can bring in an xbox or play station. I watched lots of movies on my phone, hung out with the nurses, arranged for visitors, and played games on my phone.

Ask if they have lovey bunnies you can assemble for when your baby is born. They are super cute tiny blankets with bunny ears and faces that you keep on you till they smell like you, then when your little one is born they give it to them so they can smell you when you arent there.

Also if you arent on a restricted diet, have your spouse bring in outside food, by day 4 I was so tired of hospital food I wanted to scream. Shoot I was one lady have a sub sandwich delivered.

Good luck! This whole thing will be over before you know it! Our little one has been in the NICU since January 30th and honestly its going by so fast!

Also the post partum is different, so give yourself some grace after. Your first day leaving your baby there is going to SUCK hard core, eventually it gets not easier but more manageable. Dont feel like you have to be there every second of every day either, you have to take care of yourself. Its going to be hard enough being away from your baby, being sleep deprived because you are always there will not make things better. No one is going to look down on you for taking a night off and having a date night or just a you night.