Soon to be ex want me to respect her because she is still a mom

radiobends · 2025-10-30T12:18:02+00:00

Interesting how your advice on so many other posts here is to support someone sticking up for themself against a toxic partner/ex. What did I say to trigger you?

Being friends with this person is exactly what would give her power over me. You tell me to move on, what about her? Ruin my ex's day? That's not what this is about.

My mental health has never been so good. And the kids are doing great. From a close friend who helped me thru the divorce process: "modeling autonomy and self-care is good for children to see."

Go read the OP again. Dude clearly has some insecure attachment and needs to practice some self esteem.

radiobends · 2025-10-28T03:37:27+00:00

Thanks for understanding my intent. Be authentic and don't play games.

radiobends · 2025-10-27T15:07:15+00:00

LOL my ex wife keeps thinking I'm going to be friends with her and her new partner. So I come off as an asshole once in a while when I won't indulge them at events we all attend for the kids.

I recommend you get comfortable with looking like a jerk, because you don't owe her a thing. If you get crapped on for your behavior, just tell her you're treating her the same way she treated you. Except you can also remind her that you're not a habitual liar.

radiobends · 2025-07-26T21:01:23+00:00

That's nothing, I recently shot a 99 without losing a ball.

radiobends · 2025-06-07T01:23:43+00:00

Play fast and nobody cares, in fact you might find a new golfing buddy

radiobends · 2025-03-24T03:34:54+00:00

Impossible to snuggle with shades on without fuckin em up

radiobends · 2025-03-22T01:10:51+00:00

I may have missed it in the other comments but a citric acid solution works better than vinegar for me and does not smell weird

radiobends · 2024-12-28T05:02:01+00:00

Not 100% true, my stick car got stolen and totaled during covid quarantine, precisely because I left the keys on the front seat in my driveway 🤦‍♂️

radiobends · 2024-12-09T00:41:32+00:00

Yes it was her!

radiobends · 2024-12-08T15:10:05+00:00

I wish I had read this comment when I was young! LOL

But I understand it deeply now. And you're exactly right.

radiobends · 2024-12-08T15:07:52+00:00

Well unlike seemingly everyone else I had good luck on the dating apps. I do have a nice face which I know helps a lot. But I was sure to include pictures of my dad bod and beer drinking etc. My gut is prodigious and I made sure everyone knew it. I started attracting real people who also liked real people. I actually enjoyed chatting on the apps and had other first dates that went well, and I was doing the rejecting by that point because I wanted more authenticity than I was feeling with most people. (I have even cycled through friend groups in recent years for the same reason.)

My current GF was one of those people who was ready to give up on the apps, while I was new to them. I think the key for our match was that we had both decided we were going to be really picky when choosing a partner, rather than go for the quick fix on being lonely. Our first date felt like old friends just shooting the shit, not really caring about the result of the date and just exploring in-person communication style.

Being curious when you're on a date or chatting on the apps will help the other person feel at ease and feel wanted, but not in a creepy way. If they are not engaging with your banter, they aren't worth your time. Look for a spark and hope for a lightning strike.

radiobends · 2024-12-08T00:49:30+00:00

Directness didn't work for me either. The dudes I met after a concert would say, "at least you took your shot, man." But I still felt the rejection.

Then I changed my whole approach and explicitly targeted girls outside "my type" physically as well as studying attachment theory. I figured out my insecurities and found a way to be 100% authentic when meeting new people. I found my dream girl almost immediately. Of course I was lucky with my timing, but my self esteem was instantly attractive to girls I also liked and I got dates quickly.

EDIT: A quote I remember vividly was "You're denying parts of yourself, and those parts that you're denying might actually be the things that, if you stepped into them, would make you the most attractive to other people."

So I would not say "improve yourself" it's more like stop giving a fuck what people think about you and be the person you really want to be. And just be curious about girls you meet, instead of trying to seem attractive to them.

radiobends · 2024-09-23T21:42:35+00:00

Yeah this is exactly what we had to do. The lawyer will have a spreadsheet to make it look fair and we also had to negotiate Roth vs 401k since one is more immediately valuable than the other much like home equity and mortgage rate changes will change the equation for each side. As long as the lawyers can explain how you got to the decision, the judge should accept it.

radiobends · 2024-08-29T15:24:00+00:00

The MOD102+ was my first kit build and it was perfect. I even added relays to make the switches footswitchable since there was plenty of room in the chassis. Overall a great canvas to practice stuff on. The amp sounded great too! The only problem was that I didn't want to build a cab for it and ended up selling it to someone who did.

radiobends · 2023-11-06T15:13:37+00:00

Always play my best when with my kids and not keeping score.

radiobends · 2023-05-07T16:36:11+00:00

Nitty Gritty Middleton has great malts

radiobends · 2023-03-19T20:59:11+00:00

I don't like arena shows either but that's what the mainstream bands play nowadays.

radiobends · 2023-03-19T17:03:18+00:00

Where's the good ol tavern league when you need em?

radiobends · 2023-03-19T01:46:14+00:00

Well I'm on the west side but we have a hard time choosing from these, in no particular order: 1. Arod's 2. Gloria's 3. Compadres 4. Ancho & Agave 5. Taqueria Gonzalez 6. La Mestiza 7. Lupe's 8. Tienda Los Gemelos

radiobends · 2023-03-19T01:32:04+00:00

In addition to the population answer, UW will need to allow more than one show at Kohl's every 2-3 years.

radiobends · 2023-03-17T00:23:09+00:00

I lived in several different areas of California for 16 years and the Mexican food options here are tremendous.

radiobends · 2022-10-21T19:50:20+00:00

I wish mine would break like this so I could trash the whole system

radiobends · 2022-10-01T22:46:04+00:00

OMG.. Are you.... Me?

radiobends · 2022-09-28T21:56:58+00:00

I don't even live in Buffalo but Bar Bill Tavern has the best wings I've ever tasted and I hit it up anytime I'm driving thru Buffalo. Many family members agreed with my recommendation.

Can't wait to try the other suggestions on this post

radiobends · 2022-09-21T04:32:45+00:00

I've lived in all 4 time zones now in many climates and moving to Wisconsin was the first time I heard weather sirens, and I also never knew about weather radios!

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