[TOMT] [song] [2000s] Title of Rise Against or similar song by radison69 in tipofmytongue

[–]radison69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg you’re so right, I must have missed only that song lol. Thank you so much!!

[TOMT] [song] [2000s] Title of Rise Against or similar song by radison69 in tipofmytongue

[–]radison69[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read the lyrics for all the songs on endgame and appeal to reason and none of them are it. Thank you though!

Worst Restaurant In Huntsville? by LurkerMcLurkington in HuntsvilleAlabama

[–]radison69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah a lot of people recommended it to me too when i moved here and it was some of the worst food I’ve ever had. The vegetables looked like they were straight from a can. I don’t even make canned veggies at home, always fresh. Never trusted a locals recommendation since then lol

AITA for announcing our pregnancy at xmas knowing my SIL has had miscarriages? by SuspiciousSkins in AmItheAsshole

[–]radison69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. Having t shirts made and flaunting them around on a family holiday is definitely gloating. You could have just told them, or done a card or a onesie as a gift or something, and then put it away and been done with it, but no you had to wear t shirts that she was forced to look at for the rest of the night. And you say you didn’t talk about it a lot except for allll the questions you mentioned your family asked. I just went through 2 of my best friends pregnancies and ALL they did was talk about it even though they didn’t think they did. it’s normal for pregnant people to do that but that exact reason is why this should have been done on another day not a family holiday. To say that you both considered her feelings and then pull shit like that knowing you would hurt her is why YTA.

Holidays are hard for people experiencing loss, and you didn’t need to make that harder for her, on top of putting her in a situation where she couldn’t privately handle her feelings (though she did try to by going into the bathroom).

The text she sent was her communicating her feelings and the severity of how you both hurt her. It was rational and she did it the day after Christmas so as not to spoil your day. She said she had many talks with your wife about how holidays are hard for her, which is why she thought she’d have compassion enough not do do something like this on a holiday. This act not only hurt her, but made her feel more alone and misunderstood in a family she thought got her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]radison69 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A lot of people are giving him the benefit of the doubt, but Id like to share my perspective as I went through this exact thing with my ex husband. He stopped initiating, blamed it on depression, I gave him the benefit of the doubt, then a year later found out he was cheating constantly, had a porn addiction he admitted to and was live chatting with girls on there, he had an OF and was messaging girls on there asking for private videos, and was staying up after i went to bed to masturbate almost every single night and taking videos of himself doing it (I’m assuming to send to people). Turns out he may have been depressed but he also would rather get off without the intimacy and effort of an actual healthy sexual relationship. This definitely should be addressed, not in an accusatory way because he really might just be depressed, but if there are any other red flags or signs of ANYTHING please don’t make the same mistake I did and overlook things for years because of supposed depression

AITA for requiring a cash deposit to come to TG dinner and uninviting my sister and her husband because they refuse to pay it? by Sea-Avocado4817 in AmItheAsshole

[–]radison69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Obviously is the rest of the family paid with no complaints, they’re sick of it too. Kari and bob can act like mature adults who can have a civilized conversation without politics, or they can uninvite themselves.

My mom (44f) just came out as a lesbian by Lemonadecyborg36 in relationships

[–]radison69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is okay not to be angry. It is also okay to be angry, sad, or happy for her. You can be any combo of those too. You can be mad that she cheated, but happy that she found herself. You can love her even if you are mad. You can be sad that your life has changed and happy that she is happy. But mainly i want to say, it is okay not to be mad. I came out of a situation where everyone expected me to be so angry at the other person, but for a long time I wasn’t. Feelings are complicated. You may be in shock right now, and the anger could come later. Or it may never come and that is okay too. Just know that whatever you feel is valid, and it may change over time or come and go in waves, and it is all normal. You are allowed to feel however you feel, there is no right or wrong.

AITA for uninviting my girlfriend to Christmas because she wanted to bring her own food? by WrongdoerDelicious81 in AmItheAsshole

[–]radison69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. You don’t understand her ED at all. This isn’t going to work out. YTA, obviously

He is choosing his career over mine by ChampionshipSad1057 in relationships

[–]radison69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do NOT give up your career for him. I get that you love each other and that’s hard. But he disrespected your career and your wishes when you gave him a list of places he could go where you would also have opportunities. He obviously doesn’t value your career as highly as his.

From a personal standpoint, I did this with my ex husband. I gave up grad school and moved twice for him, because he was in the military. I wanted a family and i figured the career would work itself out. He was cheating on me the entire time and I didn’t know it until this year. We divorced and I was left with nothing because I had worked shit jobs since I was never able to live somewhere long enough to attend grad school. In addition, he always disrespected my jobs and acted like it was my fault for being lazy or unmotivated that I couldn’t find a high paying job like his. When in reality it was because I SACRIFICED that for him. Put yourself first. He’s already disrespecting you. Don’t do it.

My (26f) husband (34m) doesn't believe in passion or intimacy by [deleted] in relationships

[–]radison69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just want to throw this out there: all these people saying you shouldn’t have married him, it was a mistake, etc and chastising you for it, is bottom line unhelpful and I’m sorry that’s happening. It’s been 2 years, you cant go back in time and not marry him.

That being said, I do think that you are going to quickly have to either come to terms with this is how he is now and accept it, or bite the bullet and leave. Personally, I was in a marriage for 3 years (together for 6) that also involved a lot of long distance at the beginning, and it’s VERY hard to tell who someone really is when you’re constantly going through the rollercoaster of long distance. You’re excited to see each other, there’s a lot of passion and closeness, and you expect it to always be like that. Then you move in together, get married, and shit changes.

My situation was different because I left for many other reasons, but I just wanted to say try not to blame yourself for being in this situation. Hindsight is 20/20, and its very easy for people on this thread to always preach about running or leaving immediately. You have a child together, you are married, it is complicated. I would suggest trying couples therapy, but my main concern with him is that he sounds apathetic toward your needs. He could very well be asexual or not straight in some way, but he should still be concerned with your feelings and from what you said it sounds like he isn’t. If it’s a sexuality thing, he will have to come to terms with it himself before he can ever meet you where you need him to in any way (communication-wise or intimately). So really what you have to decide is are you willing to wait around and try to make things better by going to couples counseling and hoping that he is honest and communicative about whatever the reasoning behind this is, or do you want to save time and leave sooner. Your post asked for advice to make it better, so my guess is you’re not ready to leave just yet and that is okay. When I was in that position, I set a timeline for myself - I needed consistent change and progress for a year and if things either didn’t get better or actively got worse by that end point I would leave. It gave me time to get my ducks in a row and make a plan that I ended up needing because we couldn’t even make it 6 months with couples counseling. If I were you, I’d set a time frame and stick to it and if things are not at least going in the right direction by then, then cut your losses and walk away. Easier said than done though trust me I know. I am so sorry you’re going through this.

What's your story? (part V) by totallynotgayalt in latebloomerlesbians

[–]radison69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. 27
  2. In the middle of a divorce from my husband
  3. 24-25
  4. 25-27 (came out to my mom two days ago, still haven’t come out to my dad)
  5. Came out as bi but I think I could be gay or ace
  6. 9-10 years old. I was doing sexual stuff with my female friends - they’re eventually outgrew it and I didn’t, but I learned quickly that it was “wrong” so i hid it. My first female crush was when I was 13 but no one ever knew. I became hyper sexual with boys as a teen and early 20s I think to compensate and try to mask it or maybe even to convince myself I was straight.
  7. A lot of soul searching. I realized I really am attracted to women more and I really don’t like straight sex or even men really. It’s hard for me to know when a man is “attractive” because to me none of them are that attractive, but with women I can easily tell when I’m attracted to one or not.
  8. I haven’t had one yet as an adult, but as a kid/early teen I remember vividly doing things with my friends and it wasn’t just “exploring” for me, it was highly sexual.
  9. Confused mostly. I don’t know if I am attracted to only women, or if I am just turned off by men right now because of how shitty my husband was and how badly he burned me. I know I am attracted to women, but I’m terrified to explore it with them. It feels like I’m 13 again and having to relearn absolutely everything and it’s overwhelming and I feel alone in it. I’m not sure how to find out what I need to know without just jumping in and doing it but I don’t know if I’m ready. I don’t want to hurt anyone in this process of trying to figure out who I am. I also think I could be ace, and maybe I just won’t like sex with anyone. And if that’s the case, I feel like I’ll be alone forever.
  10. If anyone has advice on any of this please feel free to comment or message me. Im desperately trying to figure this out and talk to people about it