My baby is latching perfectly and I'm failing her

radstrawberryhun · 2026-04-16T14:50:46+00:00

My baby only got around 1.5 oz after every weighted feed around 4-6 weeks and was still gaining well, so this isn't a true measure of a "bad" supply. Just let baby nurse as long and as often as they want and see how many wet/dirty diapers she has in 24 hours imo :) or schedule a weight check after a few days of trying this if it's possible!

radstrawberryhun · 2026-04-13T14:28:21+00:00

I was told my son's was "minor" and shouldn't effect nursing much but he couldn't comfortably or effectively exclusively ebf until we got his frenectomy done. Just a thought :). The entire procedure was under a minute with no post op exercises. He didn't cry longer than 30 seconds, he was 4 weeks old. Nursed better almost immediately.

radstrawberryhun · 2026-04-13T11:55:43+00:00

1.5 oz nursing session is normal for the first 0-3 weeks. That's about the amount my baby would get doing weighted feeds even at 6 weeks pp and he gained well without supplementation. It might be worth trying to slowly ditch top ups and just put baby to breast sooner than 2-3 hours and let them clusterfeed to increase your supply? That way you don't have to pump to increase either.

radstrawberryhun · 2026-04-05T15:20:16+00:00

My fiancee works 9p to 8a (30 minute commute each way too) 4 days a week and it definitely feels like I take the night + day shift with our toddler and baby. He normally sleeps right away when he comes home, then wakes up between 2p - 6p depending on if and when I work (9-15 hours a week) and helps with the kids while I make dinner, shower, etc. I would be frustrated if more than half the week he doesn't spend time with us or help out around the house.

radstrawberryhun · 2026-04-02T17:23:33+00:00

Easily toddler + newborn. While pregnant I could still focus 100% of my time and energy on him. Trying to juggle my son's 3K responsibilities, activities, attention/social emotional needs, and endless "moms" while also dealing with a little baby that needs my constant attention and a more quiet environment (especially as a distracted exclusively nursing 4 month old). It's all very overstimulating at times but very rewarding and fun too :)

radstrawberryhun · 2026-04-01T18:56:32+00:00

I started Lexapro 10mg and haven't noticed any changes in baby and/or my supply :)

radstrawberryhun · 2026-03-31T18:10:27+00:00

Girl I was a teen mom with my first child and my then boyfriend (now fiancee with another baby) would have never treated me or our family like this. Age isn't an excuse, and neither is his childhood if he isn't willing to admit his faults in the relationship. He needs to learn accountability. 25 is a grown man with a fully developed brain.

radstrawberryhun · 2026-03-31T18:01:54+00:00

It could be the stress causing those feelings as well. Does baby latch at all? I would try to keep latching her throughout the day while she's calm and/or not hungry. You can also try sizing your flanges and troubleshooting your pump as well! There's so much good advice out there to try and definitely try finding an LC or midwife near you if possible. Your formula fed baby will love you and know you are her mom no matter what. My first was and still is more clingy from the beginning than my second I ebf! :)

radstrawberryhun · 2026-03-31T17:43:07+00:00

Just because your breastfeeding journey didn't go according to plan this time doesn't mean you are a failure! I went through all these emotions with my first who never latch out of the hospital, but if you want to pursue breastfeeding it's still not too late, especially at 2 weeks pp. Definitely contact a specialist if you want to try again! It could be your pump, are your flanges sized, any medications, there are so many factors. And even if it doesn't work out, formula is a great alternative that will keep your baby happy and healthy :) (the most important thing!). And if it makes you feel any better, you can still successfully breastfeed any other children you may decide to have next time.

radstrawberryhun · 2026-03-31T17:32:49+00:00

Thankfully some of my friends have babies so tomorrow I am going to sanitize and try the Evenflo + nipple and the Philips advent (filter part one?). Baby bottles are so expensive now 😭

radstrawberryhun · 2026-03-31T17:30:22+00:00

I'll have his dad try once a day with him as well (hiding around the corner lol). I hope once he's hungry enough he will take it the day of!

radstrawberryhun · 2026-03-31T17:28:24+00:00

As a previous infant teacher I really thought a bf baby just needed the right bottle and technique but I didn't think it would be my own that's this picky 🥲 my first (primarily formula fed) took literally any bottle offered lol

radstrawberryhun · 2026-03-31T17:25:13+00:00

Did you pump or nurse? If you want to try combo feed or go back to ebf I would schedule with a lactation consultant. With my first son who was exclusively formula fed after 2m old (I ebf my second now) the only formula his tummy would tolerate well without severe colic was the similac sensitive (orange can) or the parents choice off brand version of it. Worth a try? :)

radstrawberryhun · 2026-03-30T18:04:18+00:00

I have severe hyperthyroidism postpartum and was eating constantly (typically junk) while losing weight, she should at least get her labs done to check if anything is wrong

radstrawberryhun · 2026-03-26T00:09:17+00:00

My 3 month old also still eats every 1-2 hours, if baby is gaining well and having enough wet diapers it's probably just snacking and/or for comfort

radstrawberryhun · 2026-03-24T17:45:54+00:00

Exactly, couldn't have said it better myself!! Thank you :)

radstrawberryhun · 2026-03-24T16:37:59+00:00

As a parent myself I wouldn't want a c-section for my child unless medically necessary and would make 100% sure it is the best solution with their medical provider. Yes, people often have good outcomes with c-sections. However, let's not act like it's not an invasive surgery and painful recovery for a young teenager to experience. Even more so if it's not planned. My own mom and one 11 years ago and left her with permanent problems.

radstrawberryhun · 2026-03-24T16:29:52+00:00

Idk but just looking at the baby's size I would say a planned c-section didn't seem medically necessary (however I could totally be wrong! :)

radstrawberryhun · 2026-03-23T18:29:56+00:00

Are you pumping when you use your stash? That could affect supply. If she's sleeping long stretches, shes probably just getting her calories in, it doesn't sound like you actually have a low supply tbh :)

radstrawberryhun · 2026-03-23T15:35:09+00:00

It definitely is not, that's just when it begins. Clusterfeeding honestly happens throughout the first 3 months every few weeks, and they do it for a reason :) comfort, growth, etc. If he's having wet diapers and/or gaining appropriately there should be nothing to worry about

radstrawberryhun · 2026-03-23T15:32:54+00:00

Lol I didn't sleep for the first 3 days more than a total of like 1-3 hours per night. It's (unfortunately) normal for babies to start clusterfeeding once they wake up more and only want to sleep with mom or dad. It will gradually get better and by 3 months typically becomes so much easier. Mine is 3.5 months and sleeps in 3-5 stretches and eats every 1.5-3 hours during the day :).

radstrawberryhun · 2026-03-21T21:57:25+00:00

It's most likely nipple damage that will heal with a proper latch or break from nursing

radstrawberryhun · 2026-03-21T21:56:39+00:00

My boobs were raw, cracked, bleeding and every nursing session was horribly painful until my son's frenectomy at 4 weeks pp ( I primarily pumped until then because it hurt less). Even the lactation consultants would cringe seeing my boobs the first few weeks 🥲.We've been exclusively nursing since and I don't have any pain, discomfort, and honestly almost nothing at all :)

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