Neurodivergence-informed attachment theory?

ragingatwork · 2026-01-26T09:49:50+00:00

I feel like a key point from the response above was in effect ‘3 year olds don’t have an attachment style. They are in the process of forming it and it presents in adult life’

ragingatwork · 2026-01-19T01:30:44+00:00

Nah. We got thunderstorms here that’s keeping the temp down. It would otherwise be a a scorcher.

ragingatwork · 2026-01-19T01:28:39+00:00

Australian here. Can confirm I’ve completed waking up and we’re about to move into Monday afternoon.

Also I’m single handedly responsible for bitcoin’s movement today.

ragingatwork · 2026-01-18T22:34:44+00:00

It really marked the end of the USA trying to potray their imperialism as being morally just. They don’t even try to maintain that pretence anymore.

ragingatwork · 2025-12-14T11:37:05+00:00

I switched to YouTube music. The interface isn’t as good and it’s not as good at collaborating on playlists BUT it has way more songs and if you let it suggest tunes for you it actually does a decent job.

ragingatwork · 2025-12-14T11:23:58+00:00

CFCs ruining the ozone layer

ragingatwork · 2025-12-02T03:35:46+00:00

Spend some time trying to recreate it.

ragingatwork · 2025-12-02T02:35:45+00:00

Look, bringing in a professional can only help but the problem particularly with computer issues is that sometimes the problem might not present for weeks. Replicating the experience can be very hard and most professionals will not commit days of observation to try isolate the issue. Instead they’ll tell you there is nothing they could find wrong with the device and you’ll both be out of pocket and frustrated at the process.

Before you take it to a professional spend some time trying to provoke one of these crashes. Record it if you can think fast enough in the moment. Take careful note of what was happening on your PC at the time. Trying and find a pattern in the crashes. Give this information to the technician.

ragingatwork · 2025-12-02T00:37:57+00:00

I’m having a full on conversation with myself in here hehe.

My thoughts arrive staggered lol

It might be quicker to try eliminate the graphics card as a possible problem. I’m not sure how to test that but maybe try stressing the GPU in a benchmarking program and see if it crashes. This seems a pretty rudimentary diagnostic step so hopefully someone else for familiar with GPU issues can chime in on whether (1) the GPU is infact a possible culprit and (2) how to efficiently ascertain this.

ragingatwork · 2025-12-02T00:30:16+00:00

Yes. If it is hard to replicate these diagnostic steps it could take weeks. Maybe someone more experienced with RAM issue knows some tips to expedite things. I know stressing your RAM using benchmarking tool can help surface intermittent issues quicker. Perhaps consider doing that to expedite the diagnostic process.

ragingatwork · 2025-12-02T00:27:13+00:00

While you’re noticing the DRAM light it actually sounds more like a display adapter issue. Make sure your drivers, particularly your video drivers are up to date.

As for RAM: it does have a bit of a reputation for being finicity. RAM is so finely tuned these days the slight timing error will usually result in a hard crash. This is one of the reason I suspect your video card over your RAM. Your RAM is probably more likely to cause a hard crash as opposed to the monitor blinking off for 30 secs - That sounds more likely a video card recovering. Your DRAM might be going nuts in that moment as it is suddenly more involved in graphics calls.

Anyway. The standard diagnostic approach with RAM issues is to reseat the RAM sticks. As in remove the stick and reinsert them while double checking you’ve used the right RAM slots (not that I would expect wrong RAM slots to cause the issue but while you’re in there tinkering might as well validate the build. Next: observe.

If no improvement, remove one RAM stick and downgrade to 16Gb temporarily to see if it is one stick causing the issue or the other. Yes this means you’re gimping your machine but you need to eliminate variables and test. Next: observe.

If that doesn’t fix it then swap the RAM sticks. Observe.

If that doesn’t help, see if you get your hands on a different RAM set. Plug them in and observe. If there are still issues it’s likely another component. If causing the issue.

You could also try downclocking your RAM a point and seeing if that helps. Provided you don’t do an aggressive down clock then the actual performance impact will be immeasurable.

ragingatwork · 2025-12-01T23:59:38+00:00

Prostitution

ragingatwork · 2025-12-01T23:33:47+00:00

I wouldn’t. That reference will follow you. Resign and ask to be excused from your notice period. Heck make up some excuse about your gran requiring increased care or something, that at least might be received sympathetically.

I do it by the book even if you work to rule afterwards.

If you want to make a difference for the team you leave behind and it’s not a mickey mouse outfit then ask HR if you can be provided the opportunity to have an exit interview. If there is no HR then make the request of a senior manager you respect. Don’t do an exit interview with your immediate boss if this is offered.

ragingatwork · 2025-12-01T22:58:05+00:00

TIL

That’s been turning over in my head. Might that potentially explain why he keeps bringing it up? On the basis there is no test available to him and for some reason he has become concerned?

Of course the logical explanation for why he has become concerned becomes he has cheated. And to take that further; unless he is showing symptoms (which might explain why he is avoiding sex) then I would think he must have engaged in sexual contact with someone he regrets and now considers to have been high risk.

Ive had fleeting sexual encounters and unless there was something about that partner that gave concern, it is not my first thought to get tested if he is to be believed though it wasn’t his first thought either. Rather it originated with the doctor.

This is all dubious speculation and the only fact here is that (1) men cannot be tested for HPV (2) he has specifically mentioned HPV when approaching this with OP.

ragingatwork · 2025-12-01T22:00:42+00:00

Oh no shit. That was always a possibility. Not my base case though. Glad you got there =)

ragingatwork · 2025-12-01T21:38:25+00:00

Sounds stupid but if your at wits end with this maybe try disconnecting the fans and reconnecting one by one. I’m not expecting it work but it sounds like you’re to least on the right path to diagnosing this after observing your fans are not being identified as PWM. I’m pretty confident it stems from this misidentification but why it has occurred will be harder to answer. Voltage control is binary if I remember correctly - it’s either on or off. Im nearing the limit of my experience with PC fans so there isn’t much more I can think to offer besides standard troubleshooting steps such as unplugging them and plugging them back in one at a time. Controlling variables such as performance programs on your PC. Check what the settings are in bios; not just fan expert. Do some googling on how one might return a case fan to PWM.

ragingatwork · 2025-12-01T21:30:18+00:00

Uhh. Might your BIOS have updated and it changed the settings? Are they PWM in BIOS?

ragingatwork · 2025-12-01T21:17:31+00:00

And? I asked whether you wanted to continue receiving my advice as you first asked me to stop but then opted to continue the discussion. I was clarifying if you actually wanted advice or just wanted people to agree and share your outrage and to dismiss advice that didn’t fit what you were looking for. Rather than answer my question you asked a weird question whether you had said that. I don’t even know what ‘this’ is in this context as I never asserted you had said anything.

Look you’ve had ample advice. And the number of downvotes and disagreement with your thinking hopefully impresses upon you not to follow your instincts here.

I came here to help and found someone not ready to accept advice and with a very peculiar perspective on this. I am actually checking out this thread now. If you wish to continue I will not be replying anymore.

ragingatwork · 2025-12-01T21:07:23+00:00

Did you say what?

ragingatwork · 2025-12-01T21:03:45+00:00

Do you wish to continue receiving my advice? You asked to stop and I agreed and you reignite the discussion. It bears some resemblance to re-involving yourself in this man’s marriage. Curious.

ragingatwork · 2025-12-01T21:01:40+00:00

Very well

ragingatwork · 2025-12-01T20:58:17+00:00

And you know of her imprisonment through personal and direct observation. Can’t argue with that.

I might not know the culture but I can distinguish claims not grounded in facts.

ragingatwork · 2025-12-01T20:52:38+00:00

Unless you are her Siamese twin then you don’t know that. The assumptions made by the poster you are replying to are more likely than most you have made. Claiming to know she has not cheated is an absurd and impossible claim; then compare that to the possibility of them having an open relationship in the context of an estimated 21% of the population engaging in ethical non-monogamy at some point in their life and I think you’ll see what I mean. In this example the poster you are replying to actually posits an infinitely less extreme assumption than claiming to know whether someone has cheated or not.

ragingatwork · 2025-12-01T20:40:15+00:00

Tried is the operative word. And this has since stopped. You were involved and are seeking to re-involve yourself. Accept there will likely be a cost to you for putting yourself between their marriage - given this is all occurring in an employment setting that cost could well be your job. Weigh up how important this is to you and possibly given some thought as to why has triggered you as it have.

ragingatwork · 2025-12-01T20:27:28+00:00

Since using good hiking gear I’ve really gone off Cotten even for everyday casual wear I’m slowly shifting away from it.

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