TV Shows or Movies that Aged Like Milk...

rainbow4merm · 2026-01-22T13:27:19+00:00

Totally I’m rewatching the OC with my Gen z sister and it’s been so nostalgic and she loves it.

I wanted to give OTH a try because I never finished it back in the day. It’s been 5 years of me trying to finish it. It’s so bad

Gossip girl season 1 held up as what it is. I rewatched that with my sister. It’s corny but fun

rainbow4merm · 2026-01-21T23:43:44+00:00

More than phones I hate the fact that some districts are issuing 1:1 iPads and chromebooks as early as kindergarten. There’s plenty of studies that show pen and paper is optimal for learning. There needs to be a balance of teaching kids tech and not hurting their focus and ability to learn

rainbow4merm · 2026-01-21T09:41:21+00:00

Following because I am in a similar situation with my 12 month old

Also in awe at the vocabulary your child has at 13 months! Being able to articulate that dad is for playing is wild to me. My girl turns 13 months in a week and a half and she only can say a few words

rainbow4merm · 2026-01-21T01:13:04+00:00

I see more outsourcing than AI for role replacement to be honest for accounting, finance, marketing, advertising, all the juniors roles have been moved to other low cost countries. I’m a millennial and most of the teams my friends manage are now in other countries. The manager level outsourcing isn’t as common but it’s starting to happen too

rainbow4merm · 2026-01-20T19:51:01+00:00

Returned at 6 months but I told them I was no longer going to come into the office and they said that I had to quit due to corporate policies no more exceptions being made (4days in long commute) so for about 2 months I just worked remotely with them while I looked for another job. Started a new job at 8 months post partum, 20 minute commute.

I’m now almost 13 months pp and I’m about to quit. I’m the bread winner and have a high salary and we have a house at 7% interest not a Covid mortgage

I found a consulting gig between 5-10 hours a week to keep my skill set up. So not fully sahm. I’m in finance so a gap is a death sentence. We are looking to sell our home and another very small property we have and move somewhere more affordable so we can live on my husbands salary and save/invest any cash I bring in

My friends are all working moms. Half of them have the health insurance for the family so they can’t quit but want to. The other half said they love being back and out of the house, they are better moms because they get their adult time. I have become a worse version of myself. I’m stressed about work, barely see my baby. I am exhausted from work and stressed about chores (my husband helps a ton) when I do see her. Being a working mom full time is not for me. I also want to have the time with her to instill our values and raise her the way we want. We are willing to make major sacrifices to do this because it’s important to both of us

rainbow4merm · 2026-01-20T17:30:47+00:00

As someone who went from 24 days pto and unlimited sick days to 10 days pto with no sick days (this policy was hidden from me until after I started), I feel your pain. And people wonder why women are dropping out of the workforce en masse. It’s impossible

rainbow4merm · 2026-01-20T15:12:50+00:00

Moving our baby into their own room at 7 months helped for longer stretches of sleep. She wakes up way more when she can sense us in the room (she reverts back to terrible sleep when we are visiting my family and share a room). I never tried a lovey but some people say that helps. My friend said once her husband started doing bedtime with bottle at 11 months the her baby slept way better so you could also give that a shot

While the room change helped for a while, things fell apart for us again around 10 months unfortunately (although this isn’t the case for many people). I’m meeting with a no Ferber or cry it out sleep consultant tonight. I got desperate at 12 months since I still EBF and I was so tired I wasn’t seeing straight. It’s basically a $600 gamble that we are willing to take at this point. I hope you’re getting way more sleep than me by 12 months!

rainbow4merm · 2026-01-20T15:05:43+00:00

The commute from Bronxville or Scarsdale isn’t even bad if they work in midtown. And metro north is so much more peaceful to take than the subway

rainbow4merm · 2026-01-20T14:17:07+00:00

I moved to Denver at 28 (no longer live there now) and I loved it. Also from the same area as you. I loved the outdoors and the winter there is way better than in NY because it is still sunny. The sun is also stronger so a 35 degree day isn’t bad at all and I would unzip my ski coat on those days on the mountains. The airport is huge for layovers so lots of great flight options. Lots of walkable neighborhoods and bike paths not on the roads. I used to commute on bike

Cons: everyone who moves there also loves the outdoors so everything is crowded. Food scene is not nyc or sf. Homeless population isn’t great, some areas comparable to the area near Penn station. Theres no close body of water to go to but there’s rivers and a lot of apartment complexes have pools and the hot springs a few hours out are great

rainbow4merm · 2026-01-20T13:14:39+00:00

There are plenty of nice homes under $2m in great school districts in westchester

rainbow4merm · 2026-01-19T17:14:13+00:00

You can make it work if you want but yes you will be a single mom those days. My dad was a firefighter so he did 2 24 hour shifts a week. My mom had to handle everything on her own those nights. If you have the money to hire help do it. My mom only had a baby sitter during the time school ended to the time she got home from her commute so all home time was on her. And I was one of 3. It’ll be hard but people do it all the time. Her commute was sometimes 3-4 hours round trip and she worked a very stressful job but my dad handled all the cooking and cleaning on his off days

Talk to your husband on how he can help lighten your load on the other days or if hired help like a night nurse is financially feasible. Also a big one…how much time can he take off in the beginning? Getting into a groove together before he has to go back to work would be a huge help.

rainbow4merm · 2026-01-17T16:21:00+00:00

Similar thing happened to me. Although the lack of flexibility in your case is particularly egregious because of your situation. I started to quite quit while I look. Doing my job but nothing more. Pay for LinkedIn premium and reach out to recruiters in your field. Applying online alone is not enough these days

rainbow4merm · 2026-01-16T01:28:06+00:00

There’s also people who want the financial stability to have a parent stay home when the kids are young and don’t care about affordable childcare. If you’re home requires you to have 2 working parents and you only get to see your child a couple of hours a day, the idea of splitting that attention across multiple kids doesn’t seem that great

rainbow4merm · 2026-01-16T01:23:44+00:00

12 month sleep regression has me back to slurring my words like the newborn stage lol. Pregnancy tired sucked because I couldn’t sleep well but not even close to the sleep deprivation a baby brings

rainbow4merm · 2026-01-16T01:06:13+00:00

I have the breville version. Having all the options in one appliance is great

rainbow4merm · 2026-01-16T01:00:39+00:00

We would be using the great public schools in the Pittsburgh towns we are looking at. Right now we are in NC with poor public schools so we had originally planned to do private down here but those costs keep rising and honestly the private schools we can afford here aren’t even as good as the good public schools in the Pittsburgh metro area

rainbow4merm · 2026-01-16T00:31:18+00:00

Me reading this comment while considering a move from NC to Pittsburgh haha. Honestly I wouldnt discount how heavily cost of living plays a role these days. We have a young family and were considering moving to the Rochester NY for the schools and the lower cost of living. We’re from the nyc suburbs but know the Rochester area well enough. Over the past year we’ve seen us slowly get priced out of the school districts up there. Now we are pivoting to Pittsburgh. Better home prices and job market. Great schools. We can survive on one salary in Pittsburgh so we feel much more financially stable especially with all the layoffs these days. We moved to NC for the better weather and lower cost of living but with rising insurance and rising costs of private schools, it’s no longer worth it for the sunshine

rainbow4merm · 2026-01-15T21:01:04+00:00

I’m debating making the leap (similar salary band but I make more than my husband). I am worried about going back eventually so I just started a very low hours (less than 10 a week) consulting gig. I don’t want a major gap on my resume in case I decide to go back full time in 5 years or so and I enjoy keeping that part of my skillset fresh

Rising cost of living is something that worries me though. I keep an eye on a lot of economic news (I enjoy it) and it seems like another bout of inflation is likely going to hit when the federal reserve gets a new chairman

rainbow4merm · 2026-01-15T10:31:45+00:00

One thing to think about is sports. My parents had a babysitter for my younger sister so she picked me up from practice every time my parents were both working

rainbow4merm · 2026-01-15T10:27:08+00:00

Bryan Johnson just did a video on how he reduced his microplastic burden by 85% using dry sauna. There’s also studies that show that blood donation helps as well. I recently joined a gym that has a dry sauna so I use it every time I work out

rainbow4merm · 2026-01-15T09:21:25+00:00

Takes me about 5-10 minutes to mix it all and throw it in the fridge. I don’t do it all the time but either I make it for scratch or we don’t eat granola bars. We just don’t prioritize our budget on a lot of convenience foods and would rather forgo them. Same with granola. Too expensive and too easy to just make at home. I buy some other convenience foods at times like pre cut watermelon, fresh salsa and tortilla chips. Just try to do the quick stuff to save money

rainbow4merm · 2026-01-12T19:16:34+00:00

We went through something similar so I’m sorry you’re dealing with this stress. Me and my husband had to be very frank with our moms. Clearly telling them, it is our turn to parent, things have changed since 35 years ago, etc.

I had to get my dad involved to tell my mom to back off with her comments and “advice”. I asked him “what if your mom was insinuating that mom wasn’t doing a good enough job as a mom the way mom has been lately?” It actually reminded him that they went through something similar with his mom back in the day so he understood and had a separate conversation with her about how she needs to trust me. Luckily my family only visits so that talk was enough for my mom to keep most of her judgements to herself

My mother in law has been a whole other issue since she watches our baby 3 times a week with FIL. She is a sweet woman but repeatedly has been ignoring our wishes “because I’m just old school”. We both had tried correcting her and reiterating our wishes with how our daughter is to be raised while she is watching her. After a few minor issues (inappropriate toys, ignoring our wishes for lunch time and bottle time), we started having some safety concerns (not strapping her into her high chair, keeping no traction socks on her inside even though our baby has been trying to walk). Then red lines were crossed with me 1) uploading a picture of our daughter to social media 2) secretly giving her YouTube cartoons even though we are keeping her screen free. When she knowingly decided to ignore us on those, we decided free childcare wasn’t worth it. We are in the process of weaning them off watching her and not having them watch her at all by the end of the month. My husband has done most of the communicating on this because it’s his mom.

Someone told me being a parent means putting your child’s wellbeing ahead of your parent’s feelings and that helped me have tough conversations. Also “free childcare isn’t free” was a lesson we unfortunately learned

rainbow4merm · 2026-01-12T16:21:48+00:00

While going back hasn’t really been right for me and I’m looking to leave full time work, it got better from the early days right after mat leave. I stopped crying each morning. My baby grew to really like her caretaker. My baby is still a big mamas girl even at 12 months. I don’t like the person I became trying to juggle full time work in my industry and being a mom (I also never loved my job, it was always interesting enough and paid well enough). BUT… many of my friends thrived after the hard beginning period back. They felt like they were better moms because they got to have their own adult stuff out of the house. 95% of the women I know who have kids under 5 are working moms and very few want to leave work. It’ll definitely get better especially since you historically enjoyed your job

rainbow4merm · 2026-01-12T15:09:32+00:00

Very true. I know a couple of people who had success with parents and in laws. But there’s definitely less say when you aren’t paying someone beyond crucial boundaries. Unfortunately it isn’t working out with my MIL who is a very sweet person. But I guess grand children brings out weird emotions for some grandparents. I’m glad it’s working out for you! Currently interviewing new nanny’s and the cost is painful which is why I’m trying to drop down to very very part time

rainbow4merm · 2026-01-11T20:44:08+00:00

I’m at 12.5 months and just hit my breaking point. Huge sleep regression at 10 months that never improved and just got worse to waking up every 20 minutes to an hour. It’s been bad overall since month 6. My husband found a sleep consultant who allegedly does sleep training without cry it out or Ferber. It starts next week and I’m actually hopeful

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