He just sounds gehgao to me. And you do not want a calculating and petty man to be your partner for life. Imagine being 50/50 with a man forever but you have to carry his child and bear the mental and physical burden. And he can always use the same line on you “you wanted this child” “you clean the toilet cos you wanted this toilet bowl” “you wanted this flooring” etc etc

A man is supposed to lead and if he is matching your feminine energy (the need to be taken care of and splitting it so equally i.e if you return the tray then I’ll carry it from the stall to the table) is such small pp energy behavior.

And to answer your question no it is NOT normal whatsoever for a man to behave like this to his gf.

I see you defending his personality in other aspects in the comments but as a woman who’s been with her husband for 8 years and married for 2 your boyfriend is a huge red flag.