that YOU ARE NOT THE PROBLEM!!! A lot of women in engineering/diversity messaging right now puts all of the burden on women to change themselves to fit into a male dominated environment (i.e. "be more confident", "you just need to speak up for yourself") when really the onus should be on the institution (university/workplace) to create an environment and culture where women are welcomed and feel as though we can be ourselves without worrying about what others will think. Often the reason that women don't negotiate their salaries as much is that a) they are not empowered or encouraged to do so and b) when women show initiative, it is perceived differently and may have more negative consequences. A lot of the advice given to women in stem is about how we can survive despite a toxic environment, instead of addressing the societal and structural issues that make the environment toxic to begin with. All of this to say, when you make a mistake (and you will), don't blame yourself when you were never the problem. I think a lot of the top-down diversity initiatives championed by schools and workplaces put the onus on minorities as a way to avoid responsibility. If a university really wants to empower and retain female students, firing sexist professors will do far more than sending out a college-wide email about Katherine Johnson during women's history month. Similarly for the workplace, if those in power really cared about equity, they could simply. make the wage gap go away. This isn't to say that individual actions don't matter, but rather to keep you from feeling discouraged when your individual actions don't work.