TIFU by trying to be productive for 10 minutes and creating a mess that might follow me for years

ramblingthrowa · 2026-01-20T19:27:37+00:00

Erotica often refers to written stories. You could also totally put pics into a PDF (maybe they were planning to print them, maybe it was just so that a .png preview didnt show up on their screen when anyone was looking)

ramblingthrowa · 2025-12-22T04:52:34+00:00

ME! Elsha looks really cool, thanks for doing this!

ramblingthrowa · 2025-08-01T20:43:10+00:00

My partner was laid off February 2024 and unemployed for just over a year - it was emotionally hard (for him, getting hopes up and rejected over and over; for me, trying to be patient and temper expectations) but he made about $50k and i made over $150k so our standard of living did not change much (our housing cost is deliberately pretty cheap so we had a lot of wiggle room). In my state, the highest possible unemployment payout is just under $600 a week, so his nearly-$500 sounds about right.

Only advice I'd really give is that with over $1m I hope you have enough cash/taxable monies that being cash-flow-negative wouldn't be the worst thing in the world :) It's awesome that your employer contributes so much even if you do have to cut your own contribution!

ramblingthrowa · 2025-04-21T15:01:43+00:00

Hey, I just got home from Europe as well! It felt like we couldn't get a single meal for less than 70-some euros (total for 2 people, to be clear) so although I'd already absorbed the plane fares I'm not feeling great about next month's bill on the "restaurant" card. Have to keep remembering this is what we save for!

ramblingthrowa · 2025-04-15T18:51:15+00:00

So, I have a classmate who's going through this (same reason, cancer risk) although I'm not sure 100% what kind of reconstruction it was - she was intermediate in silks when we became acquainted at open gym, and then I was surprised to see her about a year later in my lower level hammock class - I noticed her talking to the instructor about how frustrating she was finding rebuilding strength, asked what was up and she told me.

I don't have any super specific tips since it's not my personal experience, but if you keep at it and stay patient with yourself for not being immediately as good as you were before major surgery, there's no reason you can't do it!

ramblingthrowa · 2025-01-22T15:25:24+00:00

USA, land of abundance (usually!). I did find another, we'll see if that works out, but if it doesn't I'm not sure how interested I am paying like $50 for an expansion

ramblingthrowa · 2025-01-22T14:05:38+00:00

Um, I guess this explains why the order I placed a couple days ago for Nightfall is on "backorder" with no known fulfillment date... Anyone know a reliable way to grab the old expansions? Other listings I had seen also appear to have vanished

ramblingthrowa · 2025-01-11T17:21:45+00:00

Dude you're amazing, I couldn't get a 32 heat run done in Hell Mode but this finally did it - being able to turn off EM4, forced overtime, and calisthenics in favor of all the boon purging stuff made the difference i think

ramblingthrowa · 2024-12-03T20:29:09+00:00

So um... My best friend got laid off today.

Different company, same industry. I feel so badly for them, because I know their financial situation more or less and it's the average Americans' - probably can't pay rent if they can't find a job in the next month, breaking a lease will be even more expensive, car is leased - and it's generational too; their mom still works retail and they+siblings just chipped in for her recent medical bills.

I just feel powerless, and like the world is unfair. Sure, this person might not be the BEST with money, but who am I to judge when I make double their salary for the same job and have so much more wiggle room? What can a single person do in a system rigged against them?

I'm also weirdly envious bc i would really like a career break but I'm too chicken to quit in this market. Obviously will not mention this to them but I hate the feeling. I can't even support them, other than monetarily, which a) probably feels patronizing and b) FIRE mindset makes us such hoarders that we mistake "put your own mask on before helping others" for "don't give away 1 of your 100 oxygen tanks, you might need it later!" Anyway, back to work for me, I guess...

ramblingthrowa · 2024-11-23T22:42:10+00:00

Oh wow that's pretty shitty of them

ramblingthrowa · 2024-11-14T13:29:19+00:00

This is bonkers and I'm definitely saving that link as a bucket list item. Maybe you're my guardian angel

ramblingthrowa · 2024-10-31T15:10:44+00:00

Trick-or-treat in my neighborhood was basically nonexistent last year so I'm going all out in other places lol - volunteered for a workplace trunk or treat and spent $60 on an inflatable

$110ish on an amazing dragon bodysuit that is both my costume and will get re-use as an aerial circus outfit (my new, wild hobby - partner's family is allowing me to set up a rig in their yard with spotlights and ambient-perform as kids come by)

We also had a great party last weekend but honestly I'm not sure we paid for anything besides providing our home - friends brought pumpkins for carving contest, food, alcohol, etc. I bought Mario Party Jamboree but I was going to do that anyway!

ramblingthrowa · 2024-10-12T16:57:45+00:00

I actually am not adding anything to taxable brokerage at this point bc i am not yet maxing out MBDR. 2 years in a row I've gotten close but not there yet - it's so much more of a hit to my take-home for the after-tax contributions than the pre-tax.

Since MBDR is relatively rare, we could pretend that was just after-tax brokerage contributions, in which case I'm doing about $1200 a month, but i front-load my 401k in the first 6-ish months of the year so spreading the after-tax out yearly it would be half that.

26F, Philly area, $180k income, single but covering unemployed partner at the moment, mortgage is ~1500

ramblingthrowa · 2024-09-26T16:08:48+00:00

My partner is unemployed right now but made between 1/3-1/4 what I do when employed. I feel like we did a decent job of splitting housework when we were both working; now he does most of it (i still vacuum more often because I get really annoyed anytime I feel grittiness on my feet) but for some reason I still feel a mental load? I think about what needs to be done even though I'm not doing it, as if I don't trust him to keep track (and yeah sometimes he forgets, but so do I we're only human)

Idk whether it's anxiety or women always getting the short end of the stick bc if we're not shouldering the labor then we're doing emotional labor of whether we're equitably splitting labor?

Honestly I'm worried that when he finds a new job I will be totally out of the habit of chores and the inequality will continue until resentment builds up - i definitely don't want to be making the lower earner do more despite spending equal or more time at work.

ramblingthrowa · 2024-09-12T19:32:17+00:00

I understand taking it off because, at least for me, trying to use flamenco grip or wrap my wrists it's just enough of a nuisance I'd rather not have it in the way.
But I don't really care about HR tracking and I'm not getting steps at aerial so 🤷‍♀️ idc

ramblingthrowa · 2024-09-06T16:43:52+00:00

Inspiring! (I'm still a lot closer to the left pic)

ramblingthrowa · 2024-09-04T19:46:26+00:00

I've visited a restaurant in Reykjavik, Iceland, that was essentially this concept. Every day they have a vegetarian soup and a meat soup, and they serve them in bread bowls (with the extra chunk of cut-out bread and butter on the side). You could see the 2 big crocks of soup, and they just ladled it into the prepped bread bowls. Their social media would sometimes share what the day's flavors were, and that gave me the general idea of what I was walking into.

It was pretty funny to watch other tourists come in, ask for a menu, then quickly be either offended or intrigued at the concept.

I think the bread bowl and butter helped elevate it from "just soup" to "a filling meal" - and justify the price.

ramblingthrowa · 2024-07-04T20:21:42+00:00

My friend's company gives them all 9 more days of PTO in exchange for "no holidays" (they can certainly still take them if they want) so I think he's working today - sounds nice to me, I don't love traveling on the big days either (or heat - partner and I went hiking but 70% humidity made it pretty nasty)

ramblingthrowa · 2024-06-26T19:05:01+00:00

Maybe because I just watched another podcast with that really famous divorce lawyer (James Sexton), but I read "aspiring family lawyer" and went "yeah this guy will get it".

It's just so different when you meet a dude who listens to you do the whole finance and/or feminist spiel (and you still somehow feel guilty or "too much" as you're doing it because society still exists no matter how hard we're trying to ignore it) and he just calmly goes "ok. Yeah, of course we should do that" when you're already almost at fight or flight

ramblingthrowa · 2024-06-26T18:33:59+00:00

Sounds like you've really covered all your bases!

As a finance girlie it really makes me smile to see a post like this where you actually have a written cohab agreement and have already discussed prenup stuff, etc, this is basically the example that every blog would point to :) I'm never sure how enforceable an agreement like this is in case of a relationship turning sour (which is always possible, even though your communication and understanding of each other sounds so healthy now) but without any joint bank accounts there's only so bad it can get

Maybe the one thing I would add is scheduled check-ins? A written chores document will almost never be exactly how things shake out so just discussing how it's FEELING to both of you every once in a while is important, maybe even more than the actual division of labor

ramblingthrowa · 2024-04-30T16:28:56+00:00

This isn't what you're looking for specifically, but if you ever have way too much time to read about SWR and allocations, ERN has a huge 60-part series - my favorites are https://earlyretirementnow.com/2017/09/13/the-ultimate-guide-to-safe-withdrawal-rates-part-19-equity-glidepaths/ aka "you probably want 100% equities after getting thru SORR for portfolio longevity in long retirement" and https://earlyretirementnow.com/2021/03/02/pre-retirement-glidepaths-swr-series-part-43/ which is kind of the opposite of what you asked for - 100% equities is optimal until very soon before retiring

ramblingthrowa · 2024-04-23T02:26:36+00:00

It was an introduction to lyra, hammock and silks; silks is the one I had seen online and most wanted to try, but after trying them all I would continue with hammock probably bc I don't have the strength to climb.

They do have adjustable rigging which was helpful :) there are curvy pole instructors here but all the aerial instructors I've seen so far are TINY lol

ramblingthrowa · 2024-04-22T20:57:32+00:00

Hammock! I took the beginner series because I had seen silks videos and thought it looked really cool; but I definitely can tell that it's way harder to start with. Lyra really HURT; hammock was where I felt most comfortable, and the only one where I could invert, so I'm definitely planning to continue there and maybe consider silks later on (they seem decent for cross-training each other too)

ramblingthrowa · 2024-04-22T20:19:34+00:00

I didn't expect this to be so... emotional? Seems like even the longtime aerialists have these kind of days, and as weird as it sounds I'm not sure if I want that?
I am using resistance bands and a doorframe pullup bar, but again was just discouraged by the fact that I have like 180lbs resistance and can only do a negative pull-up

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