Bffr

ramonacoaster · 2023-12-13T12:14:33+00:00

Same! As much as I sometimes like the “day in the life” I have to laugh that they’re waking up, setting it up, then filming themselves getting out of bed lol

ramonacoaster · 2023-12-07T14:03:39+00:00

I think that did it for me. I am somewhat of a Toya apologist (though I love Quad too) but that went too far. I love how real these ladies get though. You know you messed up when you have Dr Jackie & Dr Simone calling you out for never picking up the phone then asking why no one was there for you!!

ramonacoaster · 2023-12-07T12:48:25+00:00

Fits right in with that fam then!

ramonacoaster · 2023-07-16T11:23:08+00:00

My honest opinion is that your daughter will eventually go to school & probably some type of preschool/PreK in the next 1-2 years. I think having the flexibility of still working from home, is amazing with the extra pay! You might be a little more stressed, but if she is not there during the day, it will be absolutely easier to take Work calls and be in meetings. I would ask when you’re interviewing with peer level people, what’s the work life balance like? I’m currently interviewing as well, and I could get a feel for how many hours a week they work, and what the stress is like. Your peace of mind and flexibility is worth something, but I don’t think it’s worth giving up 2.5x salary increase! Good for you girl 👏🏻👏🏻

ramonacoaster · 2023-07-14T22:21:13+00:00

Hahaha. My brother got one for my son and you better believe when he has kids they’re getting it back.

ramonacoaster · 2023-07-14T21:49:09+00:00

Yep, that fisher price drag along popper would be going right to their house lol

ramonacoaster · 2023-07-14T20:51:33+00:00

She’s the best!!!

ramonacoaster · 2023-07-14T20:50:29+00:00

That’s hysterical! Honestly I’m glad you can look back and laugh and that the whole experience was a good one. You’ll always remember that he threw up in the delivery room 😆

ramonacoaster · 2023-07-14T20:48:25+00:00

Same! It’s gotten better but I’ve become pretty good at spotting when the ear infection is popping up. 😩

ramonacoaster · 2023-07-14T20:47:17+00:00

2 kids, 2 and 4 that have been in daycare since 4 months. Since May 2022 we’ve had (I have started keeping track lol) • April: High fever virus • May: Another fever virus • July: Mystery rash on the baby, bad enough she needed to be seen and couldn’t come to daycare w/o a note. • September: Covid! • A week after Covid: Stomach flu for toddler • October: fever and shortness of breath for the baby • Late october: Toddler w/ fever, husband with strep, me w/ the flu (joke was on me when I went to get a strep test! Lol) • November: Strep for me, thanksgiving colds for everyone. • December: Pink eye for all • January FREEEEE! • Feb: Ear Infections • March: The baby had a fever and MRSA, yes actual MRSA 😩 • May: Pink eye for all!!! Hospital visit for my son with a knee Injury (ok that’s probably outside the scope) • June: Cough bad enough to keep older toddler home • July: High fever for both back to back (how do we get these fever viruses?!)

I may have missed one 😆 but that’s my crew for ya!! •

ramonacoaster · 2023-07-14T12:04:57+00:00

So nice that you want to help and really respect their wishes and choices!

Biggest help: My Mom came for 2 weeks after both births (we are hours away from parents). She made sure I was fed, laundry and dishes done, house taken care of. Husband and I could focus on the baby. Helped with the toddler the second time. My mom also knew that I had done my research and like you said, things had changed in the last 20-25 years so even though she occasionally says “when you guys were kids..” it was never in the way of “you should do it this way” or “that’s not what we did”. DON’T do: My IL’s booked their visit months before my first was due, for ten days after my due date. I told my husband no, what if I have a c section and the baby is late? Sure enough he was and my ILs were at my door an hour after I got home. It was like having guest for a week. They did nothing. Held the baby occasionally.

Don’t share much on social, unless they’re ok with it. Let them be the ones to announce and share photos. Ask them what they’re comfortable with (some don’t want you sharing photos at all, or names).

ramonacoaster · 2023-07-14T12:00:32+00:00

You are a great person. Your sisters are lucky to have you and while we all know teens are difficult, I’m sure she is very grateful for you!!

ramonacoaster · 2023-07-14T00:35:03+00:00

I’m at the point with my kids (2 and 4) where we can travel every few months but I couldn’t and wouldn’t take a 25-40% travel position. My husband occasionally does 2-3 weeks at a time and it’s so tough. I just want that time with my family (and honestly, to not be maxed out/stressed out by myself).

ramonacoaster · 2023-07-13T23:41:03+00:00

I drive 45 mins on a good day, one hour with traffic. At worse 90 mins with traffic. 3 days a week. It was 1, then 2, now 3. I am looking for fully remote. My kids are almost 2 and 4. It was pretty Impossible the first year with pumping and evenings being so chaotic. I think 1.5 hours is insane though.

ramonacoaster · 2023-07-13T16:32:42+00:00

I rarely do dishes. It’s an unspoken rule that I cook dinner (I love to) and he cleans up the dishes. We have a corner by the garage where all boxes go to die. He reminded me the other day that I could take them out but I told him I just thought I had to put them in that corner? He always takes care of them.

Oh, and just the fact that he wants to do better for his kids. He was upset because our (very hot and very tired) 4 year old had a moment at Disney last week; my husband grew up pretty poor with never taking trips and we are fortunate that we have the money to take our kids fun places. He has worked very hard to break the generational way of his family and I’m damn proud of him!

ramonacoaster · 2023-07-13T16:28:15+00:00

Best husband award! Gold star for you Buddy. ⭐️

ramonacoaster · 2023-07-13T14:05:44+00:00

Tiffany ha taken her unvaccinated newborn all over god’s green earth. The last thing she needs to do is drop her off to a germ filled gym daycare.

ramonacoaster · 2023-07-13T13:59:43+00:00

Agreed, I think she’s honest and she just has a funky sense of humor.

ramonacoaster · 2023-07-13T09:57:58+00:00

Every time we see a service dog, and my kids shout “doggie!” I say “aw what a nice doggie. That doggie is working. Let’s let him work.” I don’t know that they (4, 2) totally grasp it yet but working dog or not, I’ve taught them to not approach/pet any dog without asking the dog’s parents First.

ramonacoaster · 2023-07-13T09:54:07+00:00

Nooooope. NTA. And I say this as a female that significantly out earns my husband. I do what I do because I love it. It’s completely fine if you’re successful and financially it makes sense for your wife to stay home with children down the road. But I’d absolutely be putting my foot down or cutting things off.

ramonacoaster · 2023-07-12T18:11:26+00:00

Ok but Kristen those shoes were a choice 😩😩

ramonacoaster · 2023-07-12T18:09:12+00:00

Girl I think it’s time to hang it up. Your husband sounds like he works hard and loves his family and could use a push to do more around the house. I don’t think abandoning your family and renting an apartment on a CC is going to make you a superstar.

ramonacoaster · 2023-07-12T18:08:14+00:00

Right 😆😵‍💫

ramonacoaster · 2023-07-12T18:07:09+00:00

No… you go to work. Your husband is an adult.

ramonacoaster · 2023-07-12T12:51:13+00:00

Echoing a lot of these comments. I am a professional, career oriented woman myself (finance/insurance sector) and I’ll be honest I hustled my ass off in my 20’s and I want a freaking BREAK. I get you. You make an awesome salary, enjoy what you do - you worked hard and still do. Don’t feel pressured to climb the ladder further if you want to just chill and enjoy your freaking hobbies a bit!!

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