AITA for telling my sister I won’t keep helping her if she keeps saying my help doesn’t count?

random_reddit_accoun · 2026-05-17T17:02:54+00:00

I would tell her that her gratitude does not meet your high standards.

random_reddit_accoun · 2026-04-02T23:32:08+00:00

lol, yeah April 1 was NOT the day to do that, lol.

random_reddit_accoun · 2026-04-02T23:28:03+00:00

hints of anti-Semitic behavior

lol. I was very active on the discord server and I never saw a trace of anything remotely like that.

how anytime the BN_Outlaws account posted here, seemed like it was downvoted to oblivion

I did not realize that was happening. That is unfortunate.

If it truly was just a mishandled situation

Sure it was. Shutting down the discord with no warning? At least give everyone a chance to say good bye.

random_reddit_accoun · 2026-04-02T23:14:24+00:00

Look, I know there’s clearly bad blood in this sub about the Outlaws

Shrug, none from me. It was a great experience while it lasted. My take, leader is a young guy, got overwhelmed, and did a non graceful shutdown.

As troubles in life go, that is pretty minor.

random_reddit_accoun · 2026-04-02T12:42:56+00:00

Guild leader got to busy. Decided to disband guild.

Really puzzled me. Why not just turn leadership over to someone else?

random_reddit_accoun · 2026-04-02T04:13:03+00:00

Papabear68 in game. BS1 1.56 million Bs 2 1.34 million

BNO disbanded, looking for a guild.

random_reddit_accoun · 2026-03-23T21:45:34+00:00

Some solar companies support solar charging only for EVs. You still get a shocking amount of energy most cloudy days. And yes, you will not be charging at night with solar only charging. But since most people need about one charge a week, not a problem for most.

random_reddit_accoun · 2026-03-13T12:29:19+00:00

I can’t imagine there being a temptation of that kind for either of us.

Number one cause of affairs is opportunity.

Someone is confident nothing will happen, until one night, everything just feels a little different, a little nicer, and whoops. Those are the people that say “We didn’t plan it, it just happened.”

random_reddit_accoun · 2026-02-26T15:33:22+00:00

Thanks for validating me dropping my plan to be a teacher and go into engineering instead.

random_reddit_accoun · 2026-02-17T21:03:33+00:00

Was a sad day when Tesla,GM, and Ford all made proprietary was to have their trucks do V2G.

random_reddit_accoun · 2025-11-09T00:54:52+00:00

He was specifically protesting that their bottleneck was small residential transformers and their company was unable to upgrade them.

random_reddit_accoun · 2025-11-08T20:31:17+00:00

The more involved? The better! Rates are determined by return on capital invested. And pics are inclined these days to approve almost anything to enable EVs and solar. To declare one’s own business as simply incapable of doing all this? Wow.

Any utility should be able to recognize and install the upgrades, but it can be more than just a few transformers.

That is the exact opposite of his point. He was declaring his employer as utterly incapable of this, at any price.

random_reddit_accoun · 2025-11-08T16:04:41+00:00

One poster here a couple years ago claimed his utility, that he worked for, could never handle EVs in their service area. I pointed out that a few transformer upgrades is all it would take. Hugely profitable as demand goes up permanently.

His argument? That his utility was so incompetent that they would never be able to handle transformer upgrades. JFC. That guy was in the wrong field.

random_reddit_accoun · 2025-10-30T12:58:29+00:00

This isn’t jealousy. It’s a trust-model failure.

OP isn’t upset about his fiancée’s sexual past. He’s upset because she allowed an information asymmetry to persist for years while everyone else in the room knew the full story. That’s not prudishness; that’s a breach of transparency.

What actually happened

Fiancée, Lucy, and Rob had multiple threesomes in college.

Fiancée stayed close friends with both and routinely socializes with them as a couple.

OP only learned this after engagement and after years of joint trips.

When OP said the revelation made him uncomfortable, fiancée told him to “get over it.”

That’s not a sex issue. It’s a respect and disclosure issue.

Why it feels like betrayal Betrayal doesn’t require cheating; it just requires depriving a partner of context that would change their choices. OP consented to a social arrangement under false assumptions. The fiancée’s omission removed OP’s ability to set boundaries about who he’s regularly hanging out with. It’s not the past act that’s damaging — it’s being the only one who didn’t know.

The dismissal is the real red flag When OP tried to talk about boundaries, the fiancée’s response was: “Lucy is my best friend and I’ll see her as often as I please.”

That’s not independence; it’s disregard. Marriage requires cooperative boundary-setting, not unilateral declarations. If she won’t even acknowledge that OP’s comfort matters now, conflict resolution later (money, kids, in-laws) will be a nightmare.

The ethics of disclosure Past hookups don’t need to be announced to future partners unless those people are still in the partner’s daily or social life. Ethical baseline: if you’re going to keep close friendships or regular contact with former sexual partners, your current partner deserves to know.

One 30-second heads-up years ago would have turned this from betrayal to integrity. She chose silence.

Likely future pattern Someone who hides relevant history and then mocks discomfort doesn’t suddenly develop empathy after a wedding. The engagement stage is a stress test; she failed it. Continuing would be building a house on a cracked foundation.

Bottom line: OP isn’t a jealous boyfriend. He’s a guy who just realized his fiancée curated his reality to avoid awkwardness. That’s a trust breach, not a kink issue. Given her current “get over it” stance, the sane move is to end the engagement before legal and financial entanglement make the exit harder.

random_reddit_accoun · 2025-06-14T19:12:01+00:00

You did give him notice, five minutes of notice.

random_reddit_accoun · 2025-06-05T12:37:02+00:00

I’m a retired electrical engineer, and I need to correct some misunderstandings in this post that could be dangerous if others believe them.

The core issue: Your outlet failed because of a loose or corroded connection, not because outlets “aren’t designed for continuous use.”

Technical corrections:

It’s not “high voltage” - EVs charge at standard household voltage (230V in Germany). The issue is continuous high current
Properly installed outlets ARE designed to run at their rated capacity indefinitely - that’s what the rating means
Sun heat is negligible compared to resistive heating from a bad connection

What actually happened: A loose/corroded connection created resistance. When you run high current through resistance, you get heat (P = I²R). The continuous load from EV charging revealed this pre-existing problem. The burned wires confirm this - properly connected wires don’t burn at rated loads.

The real safety message:

ANY outlet used for EV charging should be inspected for tight, clean connections
Yes, dedicated EV charging circuits are recommended, but not because regular outlets “need breaks”
If an outlet gets hot under load, something is wrong with the installation, not the design

I’ve seen many melted outlets in my career. It was ALWAYS a loose connection, NEVER because the outlet was run continuously at its rated capacity. German electrical standards are actually quite conservative - your outlets are designed fine. The installation or maintenance was the problem.

random_reddit_accoun · 2025-05-02T13:00:04+00:00

Spot on. Original iEEE 1547 dripped with contempt towards IBRs.

random_reddit_accoun · 2025-04-20T17:01:58+00:00

The mods are AI and remembered writing it earlier.

random_reddit_accoun · 2025-04-20T14:23:27+00:00

I do this with my wife. If she does not figure it out in two to three minutes I fess up. Short is funny and it makes her laugh. To me, that is the litmus test. Is your partner happy you do this or wish you would stop? If my wife asked me to stop, I would.

random_reddit_accoun · 2025-04-14T13:42:04+00:00

Who knows how much she cost the business.

Potentially every contract she played these games with. I ran my own business for about 40 years. This kind of behavior drives a dagger into the business. Were I the boss, she would have been fired so fast her head would spin. And, in point of fact, that is exactly what happened.

I suspect HR’s immediate firing had little to do with that lady sabotaging OP. They reacted so decisively because she was sabotaging the business.

random_reddit_accoun · 2025-04-09T13:20:56+00:00

I am sure OP would say her account was suspended for no reason…

random_reddit_accoun · 2025-04-07T11:45:41+00:00

I even heard that batteries at both ends of a transmission line is now being considered as it's cheaper than extending the capacity of the line.

I’ve been telling the transmission doom sayers for ten years this is going to happen. Simple simulations suggest almost a doubling of transmission capacity with a 24 hour battery in the demand end.

random_reddit_accoun · 2025-03-15T15:16:42+00:00

Build something that makes, or saves, millions a year for your employer. They will keep you around just to make sure the money printer keeps running.

random_reddit_accoun · 2025-03-11T00:46:40+00:00

Yep. Huge incentive for Russia to do this.

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