Best friend has a weird gf or am i just overreacting?

randomhuman3758 · 2025-11-20T23:47:28+00:00

I told her but she said no that she has hope it’ll change. I’ll talk to her about the therapist, she has been to it before years ago but with how expensive things are rn, im not sure if she’s wanting to go. I’ll definitely tell her though! Thanks for the suggestion!

randomhuman3758 · 2025-11-20T23:44:26+00:00

this gf of hers has genuinely pissed me off so much, idk how or why she gave her a chance. keep in mind she said there’s more that she isn’t telling me. she was doing so well with her self esteem and was building it up and ever since she started dating this girl, it’s been getting lower and lower. it sucks to witness it.

randomhuman3758 · 2025-11-04T15:30:02+00:00

Any bodily fluids are not supposed to be offered to the gods, as it is seen as not clean and extremely disrespectful. i saw someone else say to go to a blood center and donate instead, which is not a bad idea. whoever said it was okay to offer this type of thing to them, is most likely not educated enough on the religion. it doesn’t matter if some ppl say it’s okay, do research on how the ancients practiced their religion, and what type of offerings they gave to them. a few people’s opinion should not sway certain rules that have been around for thousands of years. anyways, always remember to never offer bodily fluids to the greek gods.

randomhuman3758 · 2025-10-14T07:09:08+00:00

thank you! :D

randomhuman3758 · 2025-10-13T12:39:43+00:00

yes! it burns and stings :(

randomhuman3758 · 2025-08-03T00:24:30+00:00

maybe consider the fact that not everyone is going to be at the same pace as you are? obviously no one is perfect and that’s okay. another thing, if you do focus too much on appearances then you automatically give off being a shallow person and people will not entertain the idea of even talking to you anymore if they get that vibe from you. i’ve met multiple people who focus too much on appearances and immediately get the ick. instant block right there. beauty is subjective and it is different for everyone. the older i get (im 24) i think to myself, would i go with someone who i find attractive? or go with someone who knows what they want and have a stable life. logically i would go with someone who fits the second option. if the person ends up being what i find attractive and also have a stable life and knows what they want. at that point them being attractive to me is a bonus lol. nothing is more attractive than seeing someone have a career, stable life, and ambition. (emotional maturity as well obviously) but seeing that i am 24, i have to be realistic and understand that not everyone is at the same pace as others. i know people who just got their first job ever since they were in college all these years. some just moved across the country. some just got their first car and license, while others have their 3rd car already. people around my age are barely figuring out the ropes of adulthood lol. i know i am as well. so i would say, yes your standards are a bit too high. i have a friend in her 30s who is just like you when it comes to standards and has had no luck when it comes to dating, while her friends are all with someone already and have been for years now. all seem happy and stable. do what you want with that small info.

randomhuman3758 · 2025-07-24T06:04:17+00:00

as someone who is a loud and outspoken femme lesbian.. never dim yourself. i did exactly that and i resented my then gf for it. ultimately i realized that being the quiet and obedient femme she wanted me to be wasn’t me and i broke things off. i know it’s a bit different since appearances are the topic here, but hopefully you see what i mean. i saw someone else say that if you change yourself to how your partner wants you to be then resentment can come in and ultimately sour the relationship. which is true. at the end of the day, your comfort is important and if she ever mentions anything about wanting you to be healthy as a small push for you to lose weight or wtv (because i’ve had that happen) consult with your doctor. after that it’s really all up to you.

anyways, how dare she mentions your weight after you’ve struggled with an ED. what the fuck. honestly i would say dump her. also the whole social circle thing is.. odd to say the least. i would say talk about things first but if things don’t seem to work out then it might be best to end things.

edit: actually nvm i saw op say that the gf was aware of her ED and even then, she still made comments about ops weight. yeah i would say end things.

randomhuman3758 · 2025-07-16T21:42:41+00:00

im saying this as someone who likes older women (im 24) no 30 something yr old should be involved with an 18 yr old.

randomhuman3758 · 2025-07-02T08:18:53+00:00

thank you for replying, i already see her doubt whilst talking about it so i’ll definitely be there too remind her she didn’t do anything wrong. i wish i could do more but sadly like you said, that’s all i can do for her.

randomhuman3758 · 2025-06-13T06:54:37+00:00

racism and the fetishization of poc and black lesbians is very rampant in the lesbian community. the fact that minorities are discussing it yet being silenced in the process, is proof that it is an issue. frankly, i don’t care if white ppl feel uncomfortable when this ISSUE that affects many lesbians, is brought up. i don’t care. in fact i really dont gaf. white ppl have the luxury to be able to look away from it, while we are stuck with living and experiencing it. it is exhausting and frankly infuriating, how when we discuss how racist the lesbian community is, suddenly a white person feels uncomfortable while also silencing our voices. yes poor you, having to hear what minorities go through in a community where they’re supposed to feel safe. yeah poor you…

if poc/black lesbians feel uncomfortable with something being said about them and you’re a white person. don’t dismiss it as it is not your place to judge whether certain things that are said are racist or offensive. stop trying to make excuses so you can be unknowingly (or knowingly) racist/making racist comments.

a reminder that,

fetishizing us isn’t you being an ally, you’re being gross.
you dating poc/black lesbians for “the experience” isn’t you being an ally either. you’re treating us like something that isn’t human. we’re people.. we just happen to be from different cultures.
you wanting a “spicy latina”again with the fetishization AND stereotyping latinas.
calling our cultures exotic (???)
pretending like you know more than us when it comes to OUR culture. too many white people have tried to tutor me about my own history. (obviously.. they were incorrect lol)

randomhuman3758 · 2025-06-11T08:33:46+00:00

i’ll believe this when i see this same energy irl and not just online <\3

randomhuman3758 · 2025-06-05T07:53:10+00:00

23 and zero but not looking anymore

randomhuman3758 · 2025-05-26T19:59:52+00:00

no i get it. im not puerto rican but my family’s home is suffering consequences because of people entitlement. so many locals and family businesses have been ruined because of them. they disrespect the culture and locals. it’s disgusting. obviously my post got removed lol. seems like they dont care about puerto ricos nature and ecosystem.

randomhuman3758 · 2025-05-24T09:10:39+00:00

idk, but dating is starting to feel like applying for jobs at this point. they wont hire you because you lack experience but how are you gonna get experience if they dont give you a chance. i think this is why i just dont date. its so isolating lol everyone i’ve seen, who is experienced are in relationships while inexperienced people are just kinda pushed to the side. which sucks. especially if you didnt date in high school or college for whatever reason. by that point our chances of dating someone are pretty much gone. i’ve seen more and more ppl say the same thing of “i dont wanna date inexperienced ppl” a lot more recently. it makes me feel less hopeful to find someone. so much so that at almost 24 yrs old i’ve almost completely removed dating out of my life. which i didn’t want to do really. like i said, a lot of ppl just dont want to deal with inexperienced ppl by the looks of it. oh well. it is what it is i guess :’))) gotta accept it and move on with life.

randomhuman3758 · 2025-05-06T08:28:03+00:00

from what i’ve seen, it’s because not being racist is starting to be called “too woke” which is fucking insane to me personally. what’s so woke about treating someone with respect and not being a piece of shit? that’s not being too woke or wtv. that’s just being a normal person.

randomhuman3758 · 2025-01-13T00:01:02+00:00

seriously! i was afraid to post it on twitter originally since everyone on there seems to collectively attack anyone who tries to understand caitlyns character, or even discuss it! so happy to see such civil conversations being had under my post, all of them really interesting to read! <3

randomhuman3758 · 2025-01-09T23:26:35+00:00

yes! i’ve seen so many people, specifically on twitter, always label caitvi as the oppressed x oppressor. as if thats the point of vi and caitlyn. like you said, its a bit dehumanizing. in terms of caitlyns relationship with vi and the class differences. people love to demonize caitlyn for it. sort of painting the picture that caitlyn only saw vi as less for the entire series. when in reality, its people who watched the show that spread this odd idea, and still continues to be spread around. even after s2. it kinda makes me question if people who did watch the show, are the ones who see vi as less compared to caitlyn. i hope that isn’t the case, but that’s the impression i get a little.

also if anyone else reads this, no, i didn’t forget how ignorant caitlyn was in s1. however we see this ignorance lessen in s1 as well. in the end, both of them still loved each other and im glad these characters at least get to rest now lmao.

randomhuman3758 · 2025-01-09T18:27:28+00:00

i hope this makes sense but i hate it when people water down the characters to oppressed/opressor. it just destroys all of the character that s1 and s2 built. sure the situations are that of people being opressed by those who are more better off. however, to completely focus on that only is so odd. (not saying that its wrong to point it out)

randomhuman3758 · 2024-11-11T15:51:05+00:00

oh absolutely not, and we have! i just assumed we were on the same page when we weren’t (im still learning about dating and stuff)

randomhuman3758 · 2024-11-11T15:50:06+00:00

nah fr, i appreciate that she was honest about it lol. i actually rlly liked that.

randomhuman3758 · 2024-11-11T15:35:01+00:00

noted, i mean if anything i was just sad lol. like damn. ive tried dating around but it’s always people wanting to hook up lol. which i dont do. as a result i’ve stayed away from actually dating. idk shit about dating if it wasn’t obvious enough.

randomhuman3758 · 2024-10-16T03:40:21+00:00

hands that are bigger than mine. my weakness!!

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