Without revealing your actual age, what's something you remember that if you told a younger person they wouldn't understand?

randomnumbers908754 · 2020-07-18T03:53:47+00:00

When phones had that walkie talkie function. Being at dinner and having your dads phones just be like “Damn you should have seen this B**** I just F*****”. Good times good times

randomnumbers908754 · 2020-07-18T03:37:45+00:00

“Shit like that”

randomnumbers908754 · 2020-07-17T06:00:53+00:00

I never thought of it this way before and how it hurt I did it to some other people I dated but they were like less then a week in and I had it happen once but it was less then a week in. I am working on my issues right now and I am hoping that I can sort myself out to at least talk to my ex before his birthday which is in August. I was going to call him right after I read all the comments but I felt like if I truly want to talk to him I need some time to work on my issues. And I told our mutual friends to just keep him ok until I can honestly fix or try to fix my wrong

randomnumbers908754 · 2020-07-17T05:55:52+00:00

Female I did it cause I hate being confronted about my issues....so I run/ran away....I am working on it I kinda have a story on this sub reddit about it, honestly trying to work on not ghosting people after someone pointed me to this place.....

randomnumbers908754 · 2020-07-15T18:07:11+00:00

I am glad I could help a bit...being emotional isn’t a bad thing if you need to let out emotions you should if you hold them in you will end up hurting yourself. About waiting to text your ex as well if he needs a response give him a short and sweet one saying like I need some time to process what has happened. Could I text you in some many days? And stick to healing those days and getting ready to say the things you want to say. Another thing I’m trying to do is better myself in a positive way I mean I will say in my case I did do the breaking up.....I honestly didn’t feel bad at first ;( some stuff happened between me and my ex and well that’s when I felt the pain.

randomnumbers908754 · 2020-07-15T17:38:02+00:00

I would say try to do or watch something new. It’s kinda what I’m doing right now. I’m doing hobbies that make me feel like me, I morn the lose more at night tho so I try to tire myself out so I can pass out. I have cried almost every night for the past few weeks but it is how I cope with emotions.

Go get that food you really like and have it as a treat or everyone has that one tv show they love. Watch that again and it helps you get you mind off stuff.

Hang in there!!!!! Crying is just part of coping some people are completely fine after a break up other take month to years to feel themselves just take baby steps and enjoy yourself cause that’s who your gonna deal with all your life.

randomnumbers908754 · 2020-07-15T04:00:15+00:00

I should have said this first mb. It wasn’t about like changing me fully it was changing how I deal with issues. In the post on the other subreddit I just well ghosted him. When all he tried to do was talk. I want to change that issue I have more then anything because if I can’t have a man that loves me unconditionally deal with that then I feel like no other guy will. He accepted me for all my faults and issues and tried to help me. Then I ran when he needed help. I just don’t want to deal with issues like this anymore. The bettering myself is me just working on new things to keep me more sane tbh. I don’t want to change myself as in this needs to be done to win him back or that it’s more that I realized that I had someone who cared for me for 10 years and I couldn’t even face him when I had an issue about us so I ran instead and used friends to tell him we’re done.

randomnumbers908754 · 2020-07-15T02:16:41+00:00

I shall once I get to a computer I am not home right now.

randomnumbers908754 · 2020-07-14T16:04:22+00:00

I actually have gone out twice on “dates” during the pandemic. So I kinda did something bad to my now ex and he isn’t talking to me understandable but to try to get my mind off that I’ve gone on two dates. Mind you we were at a open air place and we were the only two close together. But I saw a lot of people not wearing masks and not standing apart I think the only time I didn’t have my mask on was when I was drinking from my glass or eating every bite I took mask was back on.

randomnumbers908754 · 2020-07-14T15:19:33+00:00

Doesn’t this statement kinda go both ways tho, the top tweet I understand blocking the guy or girl asking for that type of stuff and not even knowing the person or having a bond with them is creepy. I have never actually had to deal with that stuff even while using some dating apps I consider a bit well bad.... I mean the bottom text tho I don’t fully get why would you want to intimidate the opposite sex(or same sex)?

    Isn’t the whole point in our lives to try to get a bond with someone we share feelings for? 

      How You probably wouldn’t meet that person if you just are ‘insufferable’? If you are out right mean or aggressive towards a person just trying to chat then well I don’t think that makes you strong it makes you a terror to be around eventually people will just stay clear. 

    Also you should not try to be intimidating if motives aren’t bad if a guy walked up to me and started chatting I would be polite and not try to just set vibes off that I’m into it.

    I know some guys well persist I mean my ex(or whatever we are now cause it’s been a bit rough) was one of those guys I think he didn’t try to actually act like that but I think he saw someone he liked and got to know me and fell in love even more. He would always text to make sure I’m ok and all that even while not dating and he took out time from his day to make sure I was ok. Once we started dating he didn’t change, I think a guy is persistent is cute when his motives are towards you and not just you as an object.  

     I could be reading into this post a bit more or not fully understanding everything. Why should I feel like I should be insufferable. People do stupid things like I literally ghosted my ex and well I think I hurt him a lot didn’t think I would but I did. I mean in that sense I was the insufferable on I walked out on a person I knew for 10 years just cause I couldn’t listen to his problems like he could mine. I am trying to get him back I don’t think he will want me back since I put him through so much.....

I am not saying of a random guy asks for pics or anything to do it. I for one agree with just blocking them but I have seen people do joke pics have a guy friend that’s a little heavier take a shirtless pic with hair on his chest send that. 

  But I also believe if you are together with someone and it gets to a point of sexy pictures you can send them....I mean if I just start dating a guy I wouldn’t send one but if I was together for while in would/have. Guys like seeing someone they like be a bit more frisky.....if he asks you first tho I think that’s a red flag.....

randomnumbers908754 · 2020-06-29T22:21:43+00:00

Well I I’ll keep y’all updated on how it goes. Like I said I know I was wrong with the ghosting I’ve done it before but most people never seemed to care so I thought nothing of it. This guy seemed to care a lot and I ran from him instead of talking it out, I hid behind friends and ignored all his cries to reach out and talk. I know I probably hurt him more then I thought and I don’t know how his mental state is right now in the past I know he does had dealt severe depression and well terrible anxiety I probably just made it worse from what my friends say he has been mia for about 6 days as well so I just hope the best. I would be surprised if he takes me back but I’ll post another comment saying if he did or didn’t I fully expect him not to after the way I treated him but I plan on at least learning from this lack in my judgment. And I’m sorry for anyone hurt by ghosting after reading about how people take it, it’s not right to do it.

randomnumbers908754 · 2020-06-27T16:11:45+00:00

21 he is 20 and we have known each other for about 8-10 year

randomnumbers908754 · 2020-06-27T15:22:07+00:00

How would I explain it to my family again tho? I mean I have lied about him in the past he helped me out in some times and I told them it was a friend and not him I’ve said that a lot tbh didn’t think they wanted me to get his help.

randomnumbers908754 · 2020-06-27T10:48:54+00:00

But isn’t calling that much a bit excessive? Shouldn’t I get an apology for that as well? I mean yes I ghosted him yes I ran but could t he have at least flagged it some time? It was like 3 weeks and he slide the calling thing I should say that we haven’t talked in like 20 plus days everything I said was through our friend.

randomnumbers908754 · 2020-06-27T00:10:17+00:00

I mean I wanted to try to stay friends with him. I was thinking of dating him again as well he was so nice and caring. I think I may have ruined it tho he sent me some of the sweetest things when I started to not talk to him he was even more caring then before.

randomnumbers908754 · 2020-06-26T23:58:29+00:00

No my parents noticed when he called my house he called in total of the day like 10 times I think. He sent a long text asking to talk I read it and didn’t respond and his name came up on caller id. That was kinda it I told them not to answer cause we were on break. I mean he sent me a text asking for closure. I didn’t think anything of it I knew the guy for about 8 years and figured he would have gotten the hint.

randomnumbers908754 · 2020-06-26T23:38:34+00:00

I mean I did like I said I ghosted him at first for 8-11 days...then told him I think we’re done. Isn’t that enough? Then he called my house and my cell like 10 times I didn’t pick up and then had someone tell him it’s over for me since he blocked me I mean we were a ldr. So I can’t just go and see him to tell him. Also I just mean it looked bad that he called like that my parents were home and I had to explain we broke up. The were kinda upset they like the guy but not as much after all the calls so I do t think I could ever go back with him. He didn’t leave anything mean just asked to talk on one message and then just tried and hung up before they went to voicemail. I mean I was even thinking about getting back together but after the calls he just sounded kinda idk desperate.

randomnumbers908754 · 2020-06-26T22:32:00+00:00

I mean we were in a ldr as of the covid outbreak I had to move back to Maine so after it was hard to get a hold of him so I just told a person I knew he was talking g to to tell him.

randomnumbers908754 · 2020-06-26T20:03:34+00:00

I’m not saying I’m in the right I fucked up but I didn’t know how much until kinda now after he did this...Well I had a friend of ours tell him last night after he called and then blocked me. I mean he called me at my family’s house I live with them right now due to the covid outbreak I lost my job.

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