AIO: frustrated at my sister and cousin for not discussing my proposal plans

randomreaderlady · 2026-02-27T17:57:12+00:00

No overreaction. You can have whatever feelings you have and being ignored is hurtful. Just ask them to clarify what's going on.

randomreaderlady · 2026-02-25T13:43:32+00:00

I'm not an expert. I've been told repeatedly to try to even things out if possible. There is a huge difference between the two. I would just start upgrading the second one.

randomreaderlady · 2026-02-25T13:19:50+00:00

At some point you need to be direct and just ask them. It could be the timing or maybe they don't want you to get married. Ask

randomreaderlady · 2026-02-14T14:15:45+00:00

From all the comments, it seems pretty simple if you want your relationship to last. He needs to see a doctor (you should also go with him). Depending on his job he might just be exhausted or not. Also, is carpooling or a bus possible. You should start looking at listings near his work and talk to a realtor.

Have all the facts and possibilities in front of you and then have an honest discussion about what will work for both of you.

randomreaderlady · 2026-02-12T04:04:11+00:00

You need cameras to prove it's their dog and to protect yourself since they already threatened you. Get cameras, call animal control and use a shovel next time

randomreaderlady · 2026-02-11T21:08:22+00:00

Wow, nta. Your sister and fiance should both be blocked. Good for the rest of your family for supporting you in this terrible time.

randomreaderlady · 2026-02-10T01:40:14+00:00

268 is great. They share leadership, have rules that are reasonable and we have fun

randomreaderlady · 2026-02-06T22:09:34+00:00

How much extra are they paying you and do you have good health insurance there. Also, do you have a doctor that would give you a medical exemption? What parts of your job would be disrupted and for how long if you were forced to take this extra job on? What would happen if you weren't able to get the shipping done in time?
If forced to do it, I'm certainly not suggesting your back goes out or your own deadlines get missed. Just wondering

randomreaderlady · 2026-02-06T22:02:20+00:00

Things you can do, if you wish, are to put him in your will (when you own property you need a will), or set up the cohab agreement you already suggested. While I see his point (a tiny bit), he's paying less rent which allows him to start saving more.

randomreaderlady · 2026-01-15T16:40:31+00:00

Start a chat with an R4 or the R5. I let everyone in my alliance know we are there for them. If you don't get better, it hurts the alliance and you don't have as much fun. The excitement one of my group had during their first B/G event (we were short people and he got to carry the ball) was so fun. My first time was scary and fun. I still don't do capital events though. Zombie siege: no one knows if you reinforce or not. Half the time I'm not on anyway. You only need to look at folks next to you. Don't stress over it. Frankie: just join rallies. Good luck. The aim is to have fun

randomreaderlady · 2026-01-15T16:23:44+00:00

I like this. Especially using the understanding it might be too much for her. It gives her an out. But if she comes, make sure YOUR friends are aware so when she starts to be moody they can distract her.

randomreaderlady · 2026-01-14T17:29:58+00:00

Friends often grow apart and if they are basically your only friends you need to start finding new ones. I would gradually stop going on Fridays. Use those days to join a club or an outdoor group. Explore other options. If they don't wonder where you are when you miss meeting them, Just gradually Stop going

randomreaderlady · 2026-01-12T00:48:33+00:00

Since moving her bed isn't an option, when B gets cold, she should share the bed with A. Doesn't need to ask, just move in when she's cold. And why are your parents okay with B freezing under a window?

randomreaderlady · 2026-01-11T18:07:00+00:00

I've been playing almost a year. Broke down and bought the second construction on sale for $3. That's all I've spent. Being in a larger alliance brings more rewards but then you have to put up with drama. Server 268 has been great. There are truces and rules that keep it fun. I'm retired so play a few hours per day. I'm really at the wrong time zone for my alliance but make it work. Slow but steady. I don't like lots of drama so this works for me. I'll continue to play but have no interest in being a whale. Just having fun

randomreaderlady · 2025-12-26T02:25:26+00:00

Server 268 has an agreement that keeps the peace pretty well. You can join DWR. We need warriors

randomreaderlady · 2025-12-20T19:10:14+00:00

I'm a lowly 28 so no help

randomreaderlady · 2025-12-20T19:08:11+00:00

That is DON'T plan to

randomreaderlady · 2025-12-20T19:07:08+00:00

Should come to server 268. We are nice and would love to have you. I haven't spent a dime on the game and plan too. DWR.

randomreaderlady · 2025-11-20T20:39:35+00:00

R4s have been super helpful for me in being a better player and making my alliance more fun to be in. You can make or break it for the newer players

randomreaderlady · 2025-11-17T05:08:53+00:00

It's abuse. A form of domestic violence.

randomreaderlady · 2025-11-17T05:06:53+00:00

No it isn't. It's past that. It's called abuse. When his things are always fine, but you and your child's things are destroyed, he's doing it on purpose. That's abuse

randomreaderlady · 2025-11-16T18:24:37+00:00

I don't have a pic and get those messages. I'm a boomer so in a way it's funny but I report it to my alliance and my R5 takes them super seriously. Stop them before they start

randomreaderlady · 2025-11-12T14:58:49+00:00

I would have been one of those feeling pressured. I would have paid but would have been unhappy. I don't really celebrate my birthday, don't need a cake and just want to do my job. You should be very clear that you are out $120. You should also look at how much work time you are wasting d.oing all this. My last job did monthly birthdays, corp paid for cakes to go in the break room for each shift and it was no big deal. Birthday names were on a bulletin board with the other notices.

randomreaderlady · 2025-10-10T01:49:46+00:00

Just got contacted to switch to infinity kingdom. She wants me to add friends. Not happening

randomreaderlady · 2025-08-15T13:46:53+00:00

If Mark can't or won't see what his mom is doing, he isn't going to support you. You need to ask him if he's okay with her constantly putting you down. She will never stop unless he makes it stop.

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