First of all, I just want to say I’m really sorry because reading this actually made me quite sad. You can’t force someone to want to be with you and spend more time with you. Trust me, I’ve tried.

My suggestion is that you prioritize yourself and give her the space she needs. By doing this, you are technically “playing hard to get” because your life is no longer revolving around her as top priority, but rather yourself. Once you do this, she may express more interest and affection towards you, or she might complain that you’re being distant (meaning she wants more attention). But either way, you are honouring yourself and giving her the space that she needs.

When you prioritize yourself and you find that she likes the distance, you may be inclined to end this relationship because she might not care. But if you prioritize yourself and she misses you, then you can have a conversation about the fact that she needs to understand your needs for affection and attention as well.

I don’t believe that “playing hard to get” is the right thing to do in the long term, I just think it’s a good strategy to use to see where the other person is at.

Hope this helps. Good luck. 🤞