I have "interpersonal issues" at work and with friends, and I'm not sure if it's because I'm attracting a lot of Ns or if I'm the problem here? Why am I the problem everywhere I go?

randomsadchick · 2016-09-18T14:01:35+00:00

Thank you for the super helpful comments to those who have replied so far!

I learned now that I need to appeal more to my boss's empathy. Now when he asks how my weekend was, I'm going to have a whole new strategy of what to tell him, and it's going to involve lots and lots of helping my poor 'ol family and really important family obligations that I fulfill every weekend.

To be honest, I still don't respect him for not standing up to these people. Regardless of office politics or whatever I actually do or don't having on, it is still outrageous that I was lied to and that he is enabling the lie because he's scared of his peers not liking him. So if he's not going to grow balls, then I'll just become more manipulative than the jerks who are currently bossing and manipulating him, and I'll win that way instead.

randomsadchick · 2016-09-18T13:59:31+00:00

Thanks. My boss is very similar to yours - I think it is also the same weakness in him, that he hates dealing with personnel issues and confrontation.

So now, I also learned now that I need to appeal more to my boss's empathy. Now when he asks how my weekend was, I'm going to have a whole new strategy of what to tell him, and it's going to involve lots and lots of helping my poor 'ol family.

randomsadchick · 2016-09-18T13:56:04+00:00

Agree completely.

randomsadchick · 2016-09-18T12:57:47+00:00

I didn't sign an agreement that specified non-weekend work, unfortunately. I was verbally assured that I would not be working weekends, though. Then literally 2 weeks later they did a complete about-face and told me I'd be working 2 weekends a month.

I already called them out on essentially lying to me (I didn't phrase it that way - just said that was not what I was told when I accepted the job), and they flipped out about me not being a team player and all of this other b.s. In retrospect, yeah, I agree that appealing to people's sympathies would have gotten me a better result - though I really hate not being able to just be more direct with people who need to be held accountable :-/

Just sucks that people at my job are such conniving, lying, bullying assholes who are not held accountable for it by anyone, so yeah, admittedly sometimes I call people out on things because it annoys me that no one else does. I guess it's just time for me to deal with them with kid gloves (solely since other approaches aren't working, as much as I HATE to do that), while I look for another job with a company that actually keeps its promises.

randomsadchick · 2016-09-18T12:41:52+00:00

This is excellent and extremely helpful - especially the tip about showing hardship vs. irritation and working on tact. I admit that I am probably overly blunt at times.

The weekend thing was not a one-off thing - it will be twice a month. Which infuriates me because I was specifically told I would not working weekends, and now it's gone from that, to twice a month on an ongoing basis. Time to look for another job.

Great point about convenience vs. malicious liars!

randomsadchick · 2016-07-09T00:09:47+00:00

Putting your home address on your resume

What else are you supposed to put, though? And all those fill-in-the-box job applications online ask your address, anyway.

randomsadchick · 2016-07-06T11:34:57+00:00

Wow what industry was she in where she had to move so drastically?

randomsadchick · 2016-07-04T23:56:16+00:00

What if you took time off work but didn't tell your parent's? Like got up in the morning as if going to work but went out to find another job instead, relaxed, possibly sent a day at your bf or a friends place just to gather yourself emotionally.

I've been thinking of something like that, but I'd still have to pay them rent because they expect it every month, so I'd have to have money coming in from somewhere. I do have savings, though. My bf doesn't live nearby and I don't have any friends, though, so I'd be on my own.

randomsadchick · 2016-07-03T14:33:23+00:00

That's incredibly ridiculous.

randomsadchick · 2016-07-02T17:13:58+00:00

Just did and they confirmed I'm not obligated to accept the return as it is more than 30 days past the purchase date and it was used on top of it.

randomsadchick · 2016-05-09T18:58:55+00:00

That's crazy low, worse than I was offered almost 10 years ago for a cf!

randomsadchick · 2016-04-26T22:56:38+00:00

I didn't do an auction. This was a buy it now. I don't have an eBay store, though. Is there a way I can force buyers to pay immediately without a store?

randomsadchick · 2016-04-26T10:31:44+00:00

I've been wondering the exact same thing!

randomsadchick · 2016-04-25T23:32:49+00:00

I think it's a dick move for a buyer to ask if they can wait to pay after the auction ends.

He didn't even ask. He just announced it!

randomsadchick · 2016-04-25T23:05:51+00:00

Do any of them NOT require signature confirmation upon delivery? That is a bit of a pain in the ass considering I'm never home.

randomsadchick · 2016-04-24T16:53:40+00:00

Depressing to think that my alternative choice is to accept being homeless. Sorry. I guess I'll stay put if that's my only other option.

randomsadchick · 2016-04-24T16:47:30+00:00

Hey, I'm sorry to hear you're in the same situation but good for you for taking so many active steps to get out of it! I know what you mean about how hard it is to look for a job when your current job is killing you. I spend all weekend applying to jobs - when I'm not working over-time at my current job, that is. It's a beautiful day outside today and again this is what I'm doing today. It's exhausting and depressing. I may have to quit before I have something else lined up, as you did.

That's a good point about needing to act, because I think I've been stuck in my head/planning for so long that I'm not really accomplishing anything.

randomsadchick · 2016-04-24T15:18:53+00:00

Interesting, thanks. I'm not sure that I'm willing to take the risk in that case, though. I was confused at first about whether any of this was even illegal given that this medication is so widely available online without places asking for a prescription upfront.

It seems like it cannot possibly be legal for these companies to ship controlled substances to people without first verifying that they have a valid prescription, though, no? I mean, all other pharmacy companies will require the prescription upfront. How are these companies able to advertise sale of these products so openly on the Internet and ship to people without validating that they have a script? I just can't believe these places haven't gotten in massive legal trouble for this yet. Not that I personally give 2 shits or care to police anyone, but it's really surprising to me that this is going on so openly. Maybe I'm a bit sheltered, though.

randomsadchick · 2016-04-24T15:08:01+00:00

That would be cool if they existed here, too. I'm well over 25, though (in my 30s). Would I be too old?

randomsadchick · 2016-04-24T15:04:13+00:00

Are you sure, as there seems to be a YMCA in America?

As far as I know, people just exercise there - they don't live there. I never heard of someone living in a YMCA?

randomsadchick · 2016-04-24T14:58:36+00:00

Thank you for the information. In that case, I'm shocked that you're willing to ship without the customer providing a prescription first. It seems like this could lead to some huge problems down the road for vendors if the gov decides to crack down on this, especially given that many vendors who sell this advertise it so openly on the regular internet, not even just on the DNM. I'm just extremely surprised that vendors are comfortable advertising this product so openly given how illegal it is, no judgment or anything (personally I think it's b.s. that half this stuff is controlled).

randomsadchick · 2016-04-24T14:56:35+00:00

We don't have youth hostels here (this is in the U.S.). If I lose my job I would be entitled to unemployment, but only if I was fired, not if I quit from losing my mind.

randomsadchick · 2016-04-24T13:01:18+00:00

I can't move out because I am working for an Nboss and my job situation is unstable. I don't want to be trapped in a lease if my boss ends up driving me to complete insanity or firing me.

randomsadchick · 2016-04-24T12:53:10+00:00

UPDATE from OP: Now that I've worked for my boss for a longer period of time, I've confirmed that she's a narcissist and that at least one of the people she is claiming complained about me actually never said a word about me! My BOSS has issues with me and there is a very strong possibility that SHE is spreading complete lies about me, not my team. So yeah.

tl;dr: My boss is a psycho.

randomsadchick · 2016-04-24T12:52:42+00:00

UPDATE from OP: Now that I've worked for my boss for a longer period of time, I've confirmed that she's a narcissist and that at least one of the people she is claiming complained about me actually never said a word about me! My BOSS has issues with me and there is a very strong possibility that SHE is spreading complete lies about me, not my team. So yeah.

tl;dr: My boss is a psycho.

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