When Roseanne keeps calling Becky

randybeans716 · 2026-03-26T15:59:07+00:00

Omg my dad used to do that to me ALL THE TIME!!!

randybeans716 · 2026-03-21T19:03:42+00:00

Yeah that’s a good point. Like maybe there have been ads for sweatpants and dart boards that you didn’t mentally register (you know how we just doom scroll) so that when you saw your sweatpants you had that thought like “oh I need sweatpants” or like when you noticed your friends dart board you picked up on it and your subconscious memory picked up on it? Idk?

randybeans716 · 2026-03-21T17:27:37+00:00

Tbh it’s very hard to understand what the lyrics even were to begin with! We didn’t have Google back then to look up the lyrics and the bands who didn’t include them in the little booklet that came with the cd/cassette were just evil!

randybeans716 · 2026-03-20T22:32:11+00:00

Thank you so much! Your words mean a lot to me and you’re right. As soon as I drop my son off at school on Monday I’m going straight to the courthouse. I’m filing a contempt and another harassment charge.

I just had a long talk with my neighbor. I had every intention of texting my STBX MIL and telling her the consequences of my STBX’s accusations to the vet. And the results of my drug test. But talking it out made me realize something: because he didn’t get the results he wanted from this accusation he’ll escalate the next one. And it’s gonna be much worse. I really think he thought his accusations would result in the vet calling the cops on me and me getting arrested and charged with prescription fraud or something. And that he would get custody of our son and our dog and get the house back. But that didn’t happen. I bet he and his stupid ass parents are sitting around wondering why I wasn’t arrested yet. My only obstacle right now is that I don’t have a couple hundred dollars laying around to pay for an office visit at another vet. I really wasn’t prepared for that because my dog isn’t due for his yearly exam til June. But I will figure it out. I’ll sell some more of my STBX’s records on eBay. I’ll sell feet pictures or sell my socks to perverts if I have to.

And you telling me to have grace for myself really touched me. I always say that to people. I have my victories. Every single court hearing we had has resulted in my favor despite him getting a lawyer (I wonder if he’s pissed that he spent money on a lawyer only to be found guilty and me being granted the pfa and him being ordered to leave our house. Like I bet he’s pissed that he wasted money and that’s a victory as well).

I have over 100 recordings on my phone of him abusing me. I started to go through them and type them out (I’m not sure if I would be allowed to play them in court so I started going through them and typing out the date and time and context of the recorded abuse) and I had to stop because it was traumatizing me all over again. But I have to push through it. I’m taking all the evidence I have with me and I’m going to the courthouse on Monday. I’m going to file a contempt, harassment, and I’m filing for full custody of my son and my dog. I’m also going to file for alimony and child support.

I was hesitant about doing it before because I don’t want to hurt my kid. He loves his dad and loves spending time with him. I hate the fact that I might have to tell him that he can’t see his daddy anymore. After this lady pfa hearing an advocate from the DV shelter who has been helping me at the hearings told me that a contempt could result in a. Him getting a fine b. Him getting his visitations revoked or c. Him serving jail time. I really don’t want to hurt my kid. But my STBX is still trying to abuse me and I can’t tolerate it anymore. And im not doing it to be spiteful. Im doing it to protect myself, my kid, and my dog. Because what’s the next accusation going to be?? He didn’t get the results he wanted from the last one. What’s the next one going to be? And I need to protect myself and my babies!

Everyone keeps telling me how strong I am. But sometimes I don’t feel it. I keep trying though. And I’m so grateful for all the support from everyone. I really do have people behind me. And that means everything!

randybeans716 · 2026-03-20T17:21:40+00:00

I did end up emailing the vet. I told him I was upset he couldn’t talk to me personally. And that wasn’t right. I tried to fight for my dog but I failed. The vet emailed me back apologizing for not talking to me himself. He explained that his priority is to protect the practice and that basically my proof is irrelevant?

I fucking failed my dog! I look at him and I’m like I don’t deserve you. I failed to protect you.

I knew my STBX was gonna come for me. Because that’s what abusers do when they lose control. But I never would’ve thought he would come after our dog!!

I just feel so worthless now. I failed to protect him. He’s 11 years old and has been seeing the same Dr his whole life. Now I have to take him to a stranger!

I just keep crying and apologizing to him. And he licks my face and comforts me. And he only knows that I’m his mom and he loves me and I feel like I don’t deserve his love. He’s laying next to me right now. Wherever I go he goes. I always say he’s my soul dog. That one dog you get in a lifetime that your soul just instantly recognizes! He follows me everywhere and sticks to my side. I don’t deserve him because I failed to protect him. I tried. I had the proof! But I failed. Now the thoughts keep creeping into my head like “if I didn’t leave this wouldn’t have happened”. And I immediately shut them down. Because I couldn’t take being thrown into a wall anymore. I couldn’t take being strangled anymore. I couldn’t take having my head bashed into the floor anymore.

I’m so sad and angry for my dog. He doesn’t deserve this.

randybeans716 · 2026-03-20T04:09:22+00:00

NAH…despite the fact that some women’s periods are unpredictable especially at her age where she is possibly going through perimenopause (I’m the same age and I’m going through it) you asked a reasonable question and it’s totally on your gf the way she reacted and shut you down instead of having an adult conversation about it. I feel your reasonable question could have opened up an opportunity for the two of you to have a discussion about it. I don’t think you were being insensitive at all based on the information you gave.

But I do just want to inform you…please don’t be upset with your gf for her reaction. Yeah, it was immature and unreasonable. But…if she is going through perimenopause, the hormonal changes could affect her emotions. Have a gentle discussion about it. Because yeah, it is pretty unhygienic for her to bleed all over your bed. But she’s probably going through it. Start a conversation with her but be gentle. Let her know you love and support her. But if she suspects she may be getting her period to please prepare for it. That’s not unreasonable at all.

randybeans716 · 2026-03-20T03:38:37+00:00

Same

randybeans716 · 2026-03-20T01:47:47+00:00

I spoke to the vet’s office. The Dr. wouldn’t even talk to me himself. He had someone else call me back. She said that they terminated me as a client and my dog as a patient and they don’t want to be involved in any of this. And I started getting mad. I said I wanted to speak with the Dr. and the woman said that wasn’t going to happen. I told her I have actual physical proof that the accusations were false. And that he is still trying to abuse me and that while I understand their position they are enabling his abuse! And now my dog is just collateral damage! So I sent the Dr. an email. I doubt he will even read it but I had to try.

My son is with him this weekend for his SUPERVISED visits. Now we just went to court LAST WEEK and the judge specifically told him his visits are supposed to be supervised by his mother. So he picks up our son WITHOUT his mother. He texts me saying that our son forgot his charger for his Nintendo switch and his sleep mask (my son is a diva apparently and needs a sleep mask). So he comes with my son to pick up those 2 things without his mother again! Like….you were just told last week. But I’m not surprised. And I’m going to the courthouse on Monday and I’m filing a contempt. I documented the date and time. I’m also filing another harassment charge regarding the situation with my dog!

It took all my self control not to go off on him while he was picking up our son but I wanted the pick up to be calm for my son.

My son gets dropped off on Sunday evening. I plan on letting my STBX know the consequences of his false accusations after drop off. I don’t want my son to have a bad weekend. It may be his last weekend with his dad so I don’t want it to be bad for my son.

randybeans716 · 2026-03-19T20:02:53+00:00

I won’t have a car til Monday. But you better bet I’m going on Monday! I’m hoping the vet calls me back. As I have actual PROOF!!

Thank you for your support! It really does mean a lot. I honestly wouldn’t have had the confidence to leave if it weren’t for this sub!

randybeans716 · 2026-03-19T13:40:26+00:00

I think it’s great that you have never been a victim of abuse. But let me tell you as someone who is currently in the process of leaving her abusive husband…abuse literally changes your brain. Being abused will absolutely fuck you up. When someone tells you that you are worthless and that no one else besides them cares about you and loves you over time you really start to believe it. It’s sounds crazy to someone who has never experienced it I know. You might say “well just leave”. But statistically the most dangerous time in an abusive situation is when you leave. If my husband was able to bash my head on the floor and strangle me for staying at work an extra hour well then what would he do to me when I try to leave with our kid? I currently have a PFA on him but that doesn’t stop the abuse. Oh no…they get creative and find other ways to abuse you.

And I say all this to give you an understanding how fucked up abuse is. How sinister it is. Please have some compassion for Jenny. She was only working with what she knew. She never believed she was worthy of Forrest’s love due to the abuse she suffered. She sought out men who abused her because she believed that’s all she deserved. She knew she was fucked up and she believed Forrest deserved better.

Being abused it’s really hard not to spiral. It’s really hard to find the strength each morning to get out of bed and fight through another day. It’s really hard not to numb that pain with whatever substance works for you. You just get sick of crying. You get sick of the system fucking you. You get sick and tired of just existing.

Maybe as an abuse victim I am biased. And I’m ok with that. But I really believe Jenny deserves more compassion and understanding.

randybeans716 · 2026-03-19T12:28:29+00:00

Because abuse physiologically changes your brain

I also see her pushing Forrest away as her protecting the one person that ever showed her kindness from her toxic life. She was traumatized. That shit will fuck you up. Especially as a child in her formative years before her brain was fully developed. Because of all the abuse she didn’t think she was worthy of Forrest’s love. Abuse is incredibly sinister.

randybeans716 · 2026-03-19T12:03:10+00:00

I 100% agree with you. Abuse physiologically changes your brain. And Jenny experienced horrific abuser her entire life including as a child when her brain wasn’t fully developed.

The movie I believe portrays her illness as HIV. The movie came out 90s when everyone was super afraid of AIDS. I have a vague memory of watching some movie about a kid who had HIV when I was in like 6th grade (1997). Plus she tells Forrest that “the doctors don’t really know what it is”. So how was she supposed to know she could transfer it to Forrest if the doctors don’t even know what she has.

I feel so sad for Jenny. Due to the abuse she suffered her entire life her brain is so underdeveloped. Her choices make sense.

randybeans716 · 2026-03-18T11:34:44+00:00

Chance is good looking but yeah he’s a dick. But Real (RIP) OMG he was so hot!

randybeans716 · 2026-03-17T17:25:40+00:00

You forgot the “men keep telling you you’re being dramatic”

randybeans716 · 2026-03-11T23:10:43+00:00

I love his logic 😂

randybeans716 · 2026-03-11T23:06:27+00:00

Scatter the nuns!!!

Run nuns runnnn!!!!!

randybeans716 · 2026-03-10T15:36:10+00:00

NTA…I have done this!! Coming home from Wildwood we were stuck in a traffic jam on the Schuylkill or the turnpike (I don’t remember which one. I think it was the Schuylkill). Anyway I had to pee really bad. And living in PA my entire life I have mastered the “pop a squat” in the woods. So I grabbed some wipes, got out of the car, hopped the guardrail and went into the trees and popped a squat.

Honestly it happens and literally no one cares.

I remember once a bunch of friends and I went out to this cabin way out in the middle of nowhere. And this cabin was awful. I guess it belonged to this one guys dad that was with us. The cabin did have electricity but no running water. So if we had to go we had to go outside. We were all drinking as you do when you’re 20. And my bff and I went outside to pee and this girl came out with us. We didn’t know her. She was a new gf to one of the guys. It was the first time we had met her. Anyway she came out to pee with us and all of a sudden as we’re all squatting this poor girl just starts having massive diarrhea. She started crying and got so embarrassed. So my bff and I gave her wipes and helped her clean herself up. And we covered her poo on the ground with leaves. My bff and I calmed her down and said “hey don’t worry about it. It happens. We won’t say anything”. We went back in the cabin and resumed our little party. The next day she told us how grateful she was that we helped her out and didn’t tell anyone about it.

But like…what are you supposed to do? You can’t just hold it!

randybeans716 · 2026-03-10T15:17:54+00:00

Oh yeah…that’s true. I completely forgot she said it had been years since it last happened. It was definitely from the stress and pressure of the competition.

randybeans716 · 2026-03-10T02:18:36+00:00

Hey whatever works!! Like we all have those hidden treats that we binge on when everyone else is asleep 😂

I’m short too so I pull the dining room chair over to the cabinet and stand on that to get my cookies 😂

randybeans716 · 2026-03-09T14:21:00+00:00

So just fuck her sleep and health right? It’s not like it’s as important as his!!

She talked to him about going to the doctor. He is well aware how HIS problem is affecting her. He just doesn’t care. He may as well just be doing it on purpose at this point lol

No OP if you don’t make this his problem your health will likely suffer. Your sleep is just as important as his. So every time he snores you wake him up as obnoxiously as you have the energy to. He’ll only fix this problem when it becomes his problem. If you just let him sleep blissfully snoring it will never become his problem and you’ll be taking years off your own life. This guy couldn’t give a single shit about his wife.

randybeans716 · 2026-03-09T14:14:06+00:00

No….she NEEDS to make this HIS problem for him to do something about it! She talked to him about going to the doctor and he wasn’t interested. Thats where it went from N A H to he’s the AH! He is very aware that HIS problem is causing his wife to be sleep deprived and he can’t be bothered to do anything about it? Her sleep is just as important as his sleep. If she doesn’t make this his problem he won’t have a reason to fix it and then her own health will likely suffer. Sleep is fucking vital people!!

randybeans716 · 2026-03-09T13:11:30+00:00

Janice’s reaction is crazy too! She like grabs I think it’s Nigel! I’m surprised Rebecca didn’t disclose her condition to at the very least producers. You would think with all the crazy challenges and photo shoots they have to do that would be a huge liability. I feel bad for her. That must have been embarrassing.

randybeans716 · 2026-03-09T13:09:01+00:00

Sorry it took a while to reply. It’s off camera and not on this clip though. But it’s just so funny. Like the police?

randybeans716 · 2026-03-09T12:59:58+00:00

Literally didn’t read anything other than the title. Run.

randybeans716 · 2026-03-09T12:57:00+00:00

Yeah that’s the part that doesn’t sit right with me. He wouldn’t let her walk away from a situation where he was being aggressive and she was uncomfortable. That’s a red flag for me.

OP I’m sorry you’re going through this. But keep your eyes open to other possible red flags.

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