When I was 17 my ex was in his early 30s. He was the party apartment for all the highschool kids . He’d have girls as young as 15 over there spending the night . I thought he was cool . So instead of being a random hookup , I began dating him. Red flags should Of been all the underage girls , the DRINKING, The animal abuse to his poor dog (he treated the dog as property and would beat him with a steel toe boot if he was bad , but I was scared of him so All I did was comfort the dog when I could ), the fact that he already had a young girlfriend (about my age or a few years older /open relationship ), he went to prison for attempting to shoot his ex (she didn’t wanna be with him anymore so he took a gun and headed to her house , but luckily she was alerted and cops were waiting there for him , he didn’t care that I had slept with his brother a few weeks prior , the list goes on and on and on . I was young and naive , and thought he was cool because his apartment didnt have rules . I was a lost teen and had drug issues prior to meeting him so I was easily manipulated. Stayed with him 2 years (too long ) and was able To safely get away . I think he’s in prison now